It took me a looooooong time to really truly believe and understand that- no one is coming to save me.

I had to do the hard work to take responsibility for my own triggers, my own nervous system, my own change. This only happened after oodles and oodles of safety, connection, and co-regulation.

Maybe you, like me, have held onto the hope that someone else will fix this. Your child will change, you’ll get the services you need, something will happen and everything will get better. 

Maybe this journey through some of the intimate moments of my own healing journey can assist you on your’s.

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/saveus

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Rose LaPiere LPC, RPT-S, and ACS invites into a space of safety and connection so we can make room for grief. Rose brings her own experiences of grief to her work as a play therapist (and co-leader in Robyn’s immersive training program for parenting professionals, Being With) so she can bravely welcome in, and be with, her client’s big, at times overwhelming, feelings. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

• The importance of authenticity, naming, and acknowledge even really really hard feelings
• The role of playfulness is processing grief
• The importance of self-compassion for the grown-ups and therapists supporting kids and families in their grief

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Rose's Website! - RoseLaPiere.com

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The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

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"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

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You’ve lowered stress and demands. You’ve reframed your child’s behavior as a response from their autonomic nervous system. You’ve worked hard to help your child’s stress response system rest and begin to heal

Now what?

In this episode, you’ll learn

• How rest is only one part of the healing process
• The importance of reintroducing stress
• The difference between stress that prompts growth and stress that leads to injury and burn-out

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Stress Response System {EP 94}
• Scaffolding Felt Safety {EP 205}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/RaiseTheBar

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Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

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Jon Fogel is a dad who combined his passion for parenting, neuroscience, and impacting the world to create a viral social media account (@wholeparent) and then to publish his book, Punishment-Free Parenting. 

Jon and I get lost in some pretty deep topics together, including 

• How he helps parents make huge parenting shifts
• How parenting with punishment relies on a pretty pessimistic view of humanity
• Boundaries vs. Consequences vs. Punishments

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Punishment Free Parenting by Jon Fogel
• Jon’s Instagram: Whole Parent

Dive into these topics further on past Baffling Behavior Show episodes

• Boundaries Series (ep. 111, 113, & 115)
• Ep. 56: But what about a consequence
• Ep. 134 What if Trauma Informed Isn’t? 
• Ep. 54: Has Trauma Informed Become another Behavior Modification Technique?
• Ep. 30: Trauma Behavior? Or just acting up?

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/punishmentfree

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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

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How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe. 

Scaffolding. Yes, we can scaffold felt safety.

My recovery from a very serious back injury left me pondering the importance of felt safety in taking risks and the necessity of scaffolding felt safety. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

• The importance of relationship in felt safety
• How even felt safety must be scaffolded for folx who don’t have a lot of experience being safe in relationship
• How amazing it is that our hurt kids risk relationship at all, and how it makes sense that sometimes they won’t

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/scaffoldingfeltsafety

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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

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Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. 

A few months ago I went searching for a resource that teaches parents some of skills I used as a play therapist because I am passionate about breaking down barriers and teaching these skills to as many adults as possible- not just therapists. 

Tina Payne Bryson’s newest book (co-authored with Georgie Wisen-Vincent), The Way of Play, is exactly this resource. 

It was a delight to connect with Dr. Payne Bryson and get a sneak peek into her new book, The Way of Play.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• Why play is so important
• The 7 Strategies in PlayStrong Parenting
• How to Bring Emotions to Life
• How to Make Yourself a Mirror

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Dr. Tina Payne Bryson’s website
• The Way of Play new book- preorder by January 20
• The Way of Play PreOrder Bonus Virtual Event Registration 

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/wayofplay

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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

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Do you live with someone or love someone who is chronically dysregulated?

This episode isn’t an episode that is going to tell you what to do.

This is an episode of commiseration. Of “I see you.”

It is exhausting to live with someone who is chronically unhappy, or chronically dysregulated. Knowing you’re not alone can help.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• How nervous systems match each other
• How we get our sense of safety from the state of each other’s nervous system
• The serve & return and rhythms of relationship, and what happens when that gets disrupted 

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Self-Regulation Doesn’t Exist!!
• When Parenting Is Traumatic {EP 95}
• Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 {EP 163}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/chronicallydysregulated

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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

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Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all?

In this episode, you’ll learn

• How to tell the difference between fun-silly and dysregulated-silly
• What’s going on in the brain and nervous system for a child who is dysregulated-silly
• Practical ideas for how to support your child returning to regulation, connection, and felt safety

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• The Connected Therapist by Marti Smith
• Join The Club! Watch Marti's Master Class! - robyngobbel.com/theclub
• Marti’s video podcast & lycra tutorials: https://martiot.podbean.com/
• What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean? {EP 122}
• Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {Ep 155}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/silliness

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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

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You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any more wrong than anyone else)
• A more helpful to question to ask ourselves when our kids are struggling
• Why having kids who are never dysregulated isn’t the goal

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook
Influence Behaviors, Not Control https://robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors/

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notdoingitwrong

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

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Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The relationship between trauma and grief
• Why it's important to make space for grief in our kids and in ourselves
• The role of self-compassion
• How a lack of media representation of your parenting journey causes grief

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grief

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and yes- a little education! For parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems & big, baffling behaviors. The Club has an active forum and you can pick Robyn's brain!

Fridge graphics & video training to help you use strategies to calm the watchdog brain? We've got that!

We're open for new members Feb 25 - March 4, 2025! CLICK HERE for the waiting list! 

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

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Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources