How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe. 

Scaffolding. Yes, we can scaffold felt safety.

My recovery from a very serious back injury left me pondering the importance of felt safety in taking risks and the necessity of scaffolding felt safety. 

In this episode, you’ll learn

• The importance of relationship in felt safety
• How even felt safety must be scaffolded for folx who don’t have a lot of experience being safe in relationship
• How amazing it is that our hurt kids risk relationship at all, and how it makes sense that sometimes they won’t

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/scaffoldingfeltsafety

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

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"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

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Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. 

A few months ago I went searching for a resource that teaches parents some of skills I used as a play therapist because I am passionate about breaking down barriers and teaching these skills to as many adults as possible- not just therapists. 

Tina Payne Bryson’s newest book (co-authored with Georgie Wisen-Vincent), The Way of Play, is exactly this resource. 

It was a delight to connect with Dr. Payne Bryson and get a sneak peek into her new book, The Way of Play.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• Why play is so important
• The 7 Strategies in PlayStrong Parenting
• How to Bring Emotions to Life
• How to Make Yourself a Mirror

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Dr. Tina Payne Bryson’s website
• The Way of Play new book- preorder by January 20
• The Way of Play PreOrder Bonus Virtual Event Registration 

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/wayofplay

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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

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Do you live with someone or love someone who is chronically dysregulated?

This episode isn’t an episode that is going to tell you what to do.

This is an episode of commiseration. Of “I see you.”

It is exhausting to live with someone who is chronically unhappy, or chronically dysregulated. Knowing you’re not alone can help.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• How nervous systems match each other
• How we get our sense of safety from the state of each other’s nervous system
• The serve & return and rhythms of relationship, and what happens when that gets disrupted 

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Self-Regulation Doesn’t Exist!!
• When Parenting Is Traumatic {EP 95}
• Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 {EP 163}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/chronicallydysregulated

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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

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Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Have you ever felt confused by your child’s silly behavior? It seems like they are having fun, but it doesn’t feel good at all?

In this episode, you’ll learn

• How to tell the difference between fun-silly and dysregulated-silly
• What’s going on in the brain and nervous system for a child who is dysregulated-silly
• Practical ideas for how to support your child returning to regulation, connection, and felt safety

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• The Connected Therapist by Marti Smith
• Join The Club! Watch Marti's Master Class! - robyngobbel.com/theclub
• Marti’s video podcast & lycra tutorials: https://martiot.podbean.com/
• What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean? {EP 122}
• Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {Ep 155}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/silliness

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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
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LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

***
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

***

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Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

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You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any more wrong than anyone else)
• A more helpful to question to ask ourselves when our kids are struggling
• Why having kids who are never dysregulated isn’t the goal

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook
Influence Behaviors, Not Control https://robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors/

Read a the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notdoingitwrong

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

***
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Robyn explores the grief in parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The relationship between trauma and grief
• Why it's important to make space for grief in our kids and in ourselves
• The role of self-compassion
• How a lack of media representation of your parenting journey causes grief

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book: https://robyngobbel.com/bafflingbook

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/grief

Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

***
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

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How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas?  It's HARD.  Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!!  And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalate the situation.   Offering connection, regulation, and felt-safety to our kids is a lot easier if we don't flip our lids! (Although for sure- perfection in parenting is never ever ever required and sometimes, I flip my lid, too!)

In this episode, we will look at steps you can take- IN THE MOMENT- of a stressful parenting experience (assuming no one is in literal danger!) that will help you stay regulated (not calm!) so you can tackle the real problem.  The real problem is probably your child's regulation, connection, and/or felt-safety!

FREE DOWNLOAD: Not Flipping Your Lid in 4 Steps Infographic CLICK HERE

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You can read a blog article that has all the steps written out here (sometimes it's easier to remember things in writing!): www.RobynGobbel.com/notflippingyourlid

If you are new to this model of brain-based parenting, you can watch my free 45 minute masterclass on Regulation, Connection, and Felt-Safety here: www.RobynGobbel.com/masterclass

Over on my website you can find:
Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

***
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

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Cues of safety, danger, or life threat come from three places- inside, outside, and between.

In part 3 of this series on felt safety, we are exploring felt safety from between- from relationship!

In this episode, you’ll learn

• How availability of connection is a cue of safety or danger
• How neuroception can tell the state of the other person’s nervous system (connection or protection?)
• Why nervous systems are contagious
• How ‘between’ cues of safety eventually become ‘inside’ cues of safety
• How you can increase your own experience of safety even when you are parenting children in stuck in chronic procession mode

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Connection Or Protection??? {Ep 7}
• When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}
• Influence Behaviors, Not Control {Ep 101}
• Amanda Diekman’s Book! - Low-Demand Parenting

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feltsafetybetween

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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

***
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

***

:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!

Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

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In this second episode of a three-part series on felt safety, we are going to explore all the ways our kids (and ourselves) are neuroceiving safety or danger from what’s happening in the environment.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• Misconceptions about felt safety
• External (outside) cues of felt safety, such as the environment, sensory experiences, structure, and environmental demands
• What we do with this information

Free Multi-Page Infographic all about Felt Safety! CLICK HERE

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {Ep 81}
• Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}
• Connection Or Protection??? {Ep 7}
• Marti’s Book! - The Connected Therapist

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feltsafetyoutside

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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
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LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

***
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

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Let’s go back to basics! Last week we talked about seeing behavior through the lens of the nervous system and then took a deep-dive into co-regulation.

This week begins a three-part deep-dive into the foundational concept of felt safety.

What is felt safety, what isn’t felt safety, and why it matters!

Next we will explore the many different ways we are all neuroceiving safety (or not) from our inner world.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• Misconceptions about felt safety
• Internal cues of felt safety, such as hunger, illness, or being in chronic protection mode
• What we do with this information

Free Multi-Page Infographic all about Felt Safety! CLICK HERE

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Focus On the Nervous System to Change Behavior {Ep 84}
• What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {Ep 81}
• Connection or Protection??? {Ep 7}
• Enabling Vs. Low-Demand Parenting {Ep 144}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/feltsafetyinside

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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

***
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent have a new book to help parents make sense of their kid's play

Get all the info about this new book and place an order at https://www.tinabryson.com/the-way-of-play

Tina and Georgie's community has been deeply impacted by the LA fires. CLICK HERE to access their resources and offer support. 

Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!

RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."

You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book

***

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Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!

Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources