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If you've ever felt like you're working twice as hard as everyone else just to keep your head above water… this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

Because when you're trying harder and harder—making more lists, getting more "disciplined," pushing yourself into new-year productivity mode—and it's still not working? That's not a character flaw. It's not laziness. And it's definitely not that you're "bad at adulthood."

In today's conversation, I'm joined by Brooke Schnitman, executive function coach and former special education teacher with 20+ years of experience helping adults with ADHD stop fighting their brains and start working with them. Brooke was diagnosed with ADHD at 35, so she understands this from the inside out—and she explains why willpower isn't the problem… regulation is.

We talk about the overwhelm/underwhelm cycle that keeps so many women stuck, how "all-or-nothing" thinking hijacks decluttering (and basically everything else), and the small, realistic shifts that help you build momentum—without burning out or spiraling into shame.

If decluttering (or even just managing life) feels harder than it "should," this episode will help you finally understand why… and what to do instead.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE: 1) "Try harder" backfires because ADHD isn't an effort problem—it's a regulation problem

Brooke explains how ADHD brains can't reliably access willpower the same way, especially under stress. When you push harder, your nervous system floods, executive function shuts down, and the shame spiral kicks in.

2) Underwhelm can be just as paralyzing as overwhelm—and it's sneakier

Overwhelm looks like "too much." But underwhelm looks like "I'm bored, stuck, scrolling, restless… and I don't know why I can't start." Brooke shares how ADHD brains need the right level of stimulation to initiate action.

3) Momentum comes from tiny wins (the "1% step"), not marathon motivation

One small action creates a dopamine hit → which creates more action → which creates momentum → which creates confidence. You don't need a perfect plan. You need a next step you can actually do—and ideally, accountability to help you do it.

Mentioned In This Episode

Coaching with Brooke: https://www.coachingwithbrooke.com/

Get Brooke's Book: https://www.coachingwithbrooke.com/activatebook

Brooke's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithbrooke/

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When Decluttering Feels Impossible, It's Probably Decision Fatigue (Not Laziness)

Have you ever started decluttering with good intentions… and then your brain just shuts down? You're staring at a pile thinking, "Why can't I just make a decision?" and suddenly everything feels hard — even the easy stuff.

Most women assume they're unmotivated or undisciplined. But I want to offer a kinder explanation: your brain didn't run out of willpower — it ran out of decision-making energy.

In today's episode, I walk you through what decision fatigue actually is, why it hits so fast during decluttering, and three simple strategies you can use to prevent that "stuck" feeling before it starts — or get yourself unstuck when you're already in it.

January tends to bring fresh motivation… and also a lot of pressure. More goals, more tasks, more decisions, more everything. If you're already carrying a full mental load, decluttering can be the thing that pushes your brain over the edge.

This episode will help you work with your brain instead of fighting it — so you can make steady progress without burnout, overwhelm, or the "I'll just do it later" spiral.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. Start with the no-brainers to build momentum Begin with superficial clutter — the items you already know you don't want (stained, broken, uncomfortable, mismatched). Quick wins give your brain proof and momentum before you tackle the "maybe" pile.

2. Give your brain one job at a time Decision fatigue gets worse when you keep switching gears. Choose one category or one question (like "Is this functional and usable?") and repeat it — your brain can handle rhythm far better than constant mental toggling.

3. Use scripts so you don't negotiate with yourself Open-ended questions lead to spiraling when you're tired. A simple pre-decided script gives structure and keeps you moving—especially with scarcity clutter, sentimental items, or aspirational "future self" pieces.

4. Use these strategies proactively and reactively Start your session with them to prevent shutdown — and if you hit a wall mid-declutter, switch back to no-brainers, narrow your job, or pull out a script to get moving again.

5. Progress comes from steadiness, not marathons You don't need to finish the whole closet today. You need a method that helps you stay clear-headed long enough to make consistent decisions — one small set at a time.

1. decisions easier.

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Why Letting Go Feels So Hard (And the "Stuff Story" That Explains It)

Have you ever looked around your home and thought, "Why is this still such a struggle for me?" You know what you want — more calm, more space, less mental weight — but every time you try to declutter, something in you freezes.

Most women assume they just need a better system… or more willpower… or a free weekend to finally tackle it all. But what if the real reason you're stuck isn't about the stuff at all?

In this episode, I read a powerful chapter from my new book that helps you uncover your Stuff Story — the invisible script that's been shaping what you buy, what you keep, and why certain items feel impossible to let go of. I walk you through how your upbringing, emotional attachments, and cultural pressure quietly influence your home (and your choices) more than you realize.

This matters so much right now because so many of us are trying to "reset" in January — new goals, fresh starts, a lighter year. But if you don't understand the story underneath your clutter, you'll keep repeating the same patterns, even with the best decluttering strategy in the world.

This chapter is meant to feel like someone finally turned the lights on. More clarity. More compassion. And a new kind of freedom that doesn't start with a trash bag — it starts with understanding.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. Your clutter didn't come from nowhere Your "Stuff Story" was written over time by family patterns, personal experiences, and cultural messaging — and it silently shapes what feels hard to release.

2. Your brain is protecting you, not sabotaging you If you freeze or avoid decluttering, it's often because your nervous system prefers what's familiar (even if it's clutter). Awareness is the first step to change.

3. Some things are really placeholders for identity Aspirational clutter, sentimental items, and "just in case" backups often represent who you were, who you hoped to be, or what you've been afraid to lose.

4. "More" has been marketed as safety and success We've been taught that full equals good — and that empty equals lack. But space can be the beginning of peace, not proof you're missing something.

5. You can rewrite the script one belief at a time Letting go isn't wasteful or irresponsible when it aligns with your life now. Repeating new truths creates new mental pathways — and makes future decisions easier.

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The 25-Minute Decluttering Strategy That Actually Works When You're Short on Time

You know that moment when you want to declutter… but the idea of pulling everything out and losing your whole day makes you want to quit before you even start?

I get it. Most decluttering advice is built for someone with unlimited time, unlimited energy, and zero kids asking for snacks every six minutes. And if you've tried the "empty the whole closet" method before, you already know how that story ends.

In this episode, I walk you through my go-to method called 25 to Thrive — a simple, sustainable way to make real progress in a short window, without the overwhelm spiral (and without turning your house into a disaster zone).

Right now — especially in January — there's this pressure to go big or go home. Total home reset. Massive purge. Brand new you. But real change doesn't happen in one perfect Saturday. It happens in small, repeatable wins that build momentum and proof.

If your brain has been waiting for "the right time" to declutter, this is your gentle nudge: you don't need more time. You need a method that works with your life.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. You don't need a full day to make real progress The belief that decluttering only "counts" if you do a marathon session keeps you stuck. A focused 25 minutes can create visible change and real relief.

2. 20 minutes of decluttering is the sweet spot Short bursts help you avoid decision fatigue and overwhelm. You'll make faster, clearer choices when your brain isn't depleted.

3. The last 5 minutes are what make this strategy stick A quick reset (trash out, donations bagged, space returned to baseline) prevents the "piles on the floor" problem and leaves you feeling accomplished instead of frazzled.

4. Start smaller than you think you should One drawer, one shelf, one surface. Your brain can handle small spaces — and small wins build confidence and momentum.

5. Consistency beats intensity Doing 25 to Thrive once a week (or even once a month) is how you create lasting progress. This isn't about perfection — it's about showing up in a way you can repeat.

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If you've ever opened social media and instantly felt behind — about your body, your home, or your progress — you're not alone. I share a moment like that in this episode, and how quickly one image shifted how I saw myself without my permission.

That experience sparked a bigger realization: the heaviest things we carry aren't always the ones in our closets. They're the beliefs we've absorbed over time about what progress "should" look like, what our past says about us, and who gets to decide if we're doing it right.

In this episode, I walk you through three incredibly common beliefs that quietly keep women stuck — especially when they're trying to simplify their homes and lives — and how to start releasing them with compassion and clarity.

Right now, many of us are heading into a new year with good intentions and very full plates. The pressure to do more, fix everything, or finally "get it together" can feel overwhelming. This conversation is meant to be grounding — a reminder that you're not broken, you're not behind, and progress doesn't have to look like anyone else's version to count.

Key Takeaways From The Episode:

1. Your past is data, not a verdict-Previous attempts that didn't stick don't mean you can't change — they simply show you what hasn't worked yet and help you choose a better approach moving forward.

2. Small progress is real progress-Five minutes, one drawer, or a single decision still counts. Momentum comes from action, not waiting for the "perfect" time.

3. Perfection often disguises fear-Waiting for massive, all-at-once change can actually keep you stuck. Letting yourself start imperfectly creates movement and relief.

4. You get to define what success looks like-A functional, supportive home doesn't need to match anyone else's aesthetic. Your version of "good enough" is allowed to be enough.

5. Protect your definition of progress-Unfollowing accounts or standards that make you feel behind can be one of the most powerful decluttering steps you take.

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Making Home Your Happy Place: The Real-Life Guide to Decluttering Without the Overwhelm releases February 17th.

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Every January, we're sold the same promise: New year, new you.

Fresh motivation. Big plans. A clean slate.

But what if the "fresh start" was never designed to work in the first place? And what if the reason it hasn't worked for you has nothing to do with discipline, motivation, or willpower?

In this episode, I'm unpacking why traditional January resets fail so consistently—and what actually creates lasting change instead. We're talking about motivation myths, generic plans that ignore real life, and why trying to declutter (or change anything) alone is one of the biggest reasons people get stuck.

I'm also sharing the real story of a client (Evie) whose yearly January reset cycle left her feeling defeated, ashamed, and convinced something was wrong with her—until she tried a completely different approach.

If you've ever felt hopeful on January 1st… only to feel discouraged by January 18th, this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn

• Why most New Year's resolutions fail by mid-January (and the exact date most people quit)

• The cultural myth behind "fresh starts" and why it quietly blames you when it fails

• Why motivation is not a strategy—and what actually sustains progress

• The three core reasons January resets almost always fall apart

• How generic decluttering plans work against busy families

• Why real change rarely happens in isolation

• The difference between a heroic push and a sustainable system

• What finally helped one mom break out of the January-reset cycle for good

• How shifting the method (not yourself) changes everything

Want Support Instead of Another January Reset?

If this episode resonated and you're done repeating the same cycle, applications are now open for The Inner Circle—my 90-day coaching experience.

Inside, you'll get:

• A personalized decluttering plan built around your life

• Support and accountability Monday–Friday

• Help navigating stuck points (because everyone gets stuck)

• A realistic, sustainable approach—no PTO required, no weekend marathons

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If your fresh starts have failed before, please hear this clearly:

It was never you.

You don't need fixing. You don't need more willpower. You don't need a new identity.

You need a method that actually works for real life.

I'm cheering for you—and I'll see you in the next episode.

Ready, set, simplify. 💛

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Somewhere right now, there's a decorative ceramic rooster sitting in the back of a closet—kept out of guilt, obligation, or fear of hurting someone's feelings.

In today's episode, we're finally setting that rooster free.

I'm sharing a simple, compassionate 3-step framework for letting go of unwanted gifts without guilt, why holding onto gifts we don't want isn't gratitude (it's fear), and how to separate the intention behind a gift from the object itself. We'll talk about the emotional beliefs that keep unwanted gifts stuck in our homes—and I'll even give you a simple script for what to say if Aunt Linda ever asks where her rooster went.

If you've ever smiled, said "thank you," and then wondered what am I supposed to do with this now?—this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn

• The 3-step framework for letting go of unwanted gifts

• Why over half of Americans receive unwanted gifts—and what usually happens to them

• The hidden belief that makes letting go of gifts feel so hard

• Why keeping unwanted gifts isn't gratitude—it's emotional self-protection

• How to separate the gift from the giver without damaging relationships

• A personal story about a childhood necklace and the mindset shift that changed everything

• The difference between honoring someone's intention and storing the object forever

• Exactly what to say if the gift-giver asks about it later (yes, I give you a script)

Key Takeaways

• Gratitude does not require permanent storage.

• You can appreciate the thought behind a gift without keeping the item itself.

• Unwanted gifts often stay because we fear awkward conversations—not because we value them.

• The object carried the sentiment, but once received, the sentiment lives in you, not the thing.

• Letting go of gifts you don't want is not rejection—it's stewardship.

• Keeping something out of obligation only creates clutter in your home and your head.

Mini Challenge Before the Holidays

Open one closet today and find your version of the ceramic rooster.

Ask yourself:

1. Do I actually use or enjoy this?

2. Am I keeping it because I want it—or because I feel like I should?

3. If the giver knew I was keeping this out of obligation, would they want that for me?

Then decide: donate, re-gift, or set a clear deadline.

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If you're thinking, "I know what to do, I just can't seem to follow through," or clutter keeps coming back no matter how much you reset—this is your next step. The Inner Circle opens once a year, and waitlisters get first access.

Applications open mid-December. 👉 Join the waitlist (https://www.katyjoywells.com/innercircle)

Go find your ceramic rooster. Let it fly (even if roosters technically can't). Make the decision.

I'll see you in the next episode. 💛

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In this heartfelt episode, Andrew joins me to share the story of our unexpected mold crisis—one that forced us to let go of sentimental items, old hobbies, emotional keepsakes, and "someday" things… almost overnight. What started as a stressful, logistical nightmare in our basement turned into one of the clearest real-life lessons we've ever had about clutter, attachment, identity, and what truly matters.

We're taking you behind the scenes of what it was really like to lose a space that held so many of our memories—Andrew's office, our wellness area, guest room, and our entire storage zone. What we learned surprised us both: what we missed, what we didn't, what stirred emotions we didn't expect, and what letting go made room for.

If you've ever feared "What if I need this someday?" or felt stuck because everything feels meaningful… this conversation is going to feel like a warm exhale.

What You'll Learn

• How our mold discovery forced a decluttering process we didn't choose—but deeply benefited from

• Why "I might need it someday" feels SO real… and how to see through that fear

• What sentimental items actually represent—and why letting go doesn't erase the memories

• Andrew's journey from "the guy with a hoarder-room" to someone who enjoys living with less

• Why time is often the most powerful tool when it comes to releasing emotional items

• How relationships, identity, and childhood experiences shape the way we hold on to stuff

• What to do when your partner's things trigger you (and vice versa)

• The surprising emotional layers behind trophies, t-shirts, rugs, and wedding keepsakes

• How decluttering actually makes many people more sentimental, not less

• Why a "good enough" home (not a perfect one) builds peace and connection

Key Takeaways

• The memories don't live in the items. They live in you—and letting go cannot erase them.

• Sentimental clutter is deeply personal. What looks like "junk" to someone else may represent years of meaning you can't see on the surface.

• Your partner's pace matters. Slow, patient progress creates lasting change—pressure doesn't.

• Time does emotional heavy lifting. What once felt impossible to part with may someday feel neutral.

• Seasons of life shift what belongs in your home. Hobbies evolve, kids grow, needs change—and your home should adapt too.

• Letting go often creates more presence. You notice the life happening now, not just the life that already happened.

• A home that's "good enough" supports you far better than a home striving for perfection.

Quotable Moment

"When you get rid of stuff, it doesn't make you less sentimental—it makes you more sentimental in the moments that actually matter."

— Andrew Wells

The Most Powerful Stories From This Episode 🧡 Andrew's 5K T-shirts

How a duffel bag of old race shirts turned into a lesson on fatherhood, memories, and what we really hold on to. And how two vintage Bulls shirts ended up becoming treasured keepsakes for our boys.

🧡 The Moroccan Rug

A story about backpacking, freedom, and why a rug bought at 22 taught Andrew more about letting go at 42 than he ever expected.

🧡 Our Wedding Time Capsule

What happened when we finally opened our handmade wedding box—14 years late—and why a moment of discomfort led to one of the clearest reminders of what matters most.

🧡 Parenting, Airsoft, and the "Junk" in the Garage

Why the piles of pallets and gear that once felt like clutter now feel like connection, community, and exactly the kind of childhood we want our boys to remember.

Join Clutter Cure Club

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Interested in Working with Me 1:1? Join the Inner Circle Waitlist

If you're thinking, "I know what to do, I just can't seem to follow through," or clutter keeps coming back no matter how much you reset—this is your next step. The Inner Circle opens once a year, and waitlisters get first access.

Applications open mid-December. 👉 Join the waitlist (https://www.katyjoywells.com/innercircle)

Coming Up Next Week

Don't miss our next episode, where I share more holiday-season support, simple home resets, and practical encouragement to help you stay grounded and peaceful in a full season.

Ready, Set, Simplify! 💛

📚 PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK!

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Pre-order now and receive exclusive bonus goodies—simple, supportive tools you can apply right away through the holiday season and beyond!

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In today's bonus episode, we're talking about something nearly every woman struggles with this time of year—when your home suddenly feels loud, chaotic, and like everything has spiraled… fast. I'm breaking down the difference between expected mess and actual clutter, why mixing them up keeps you stuck in shame, and how a simple 10-minute reset can pull you out of overwhelm and bring your nervous system back online.

I'm sharing the story of a client who texted me feeling defeated after dropping her Target bags on the floor and realizing every surface in her home felt like it was screaming at her. Her experience is so common—and the shift she made is one I want every woman to have during this busy, full season.

If your home has started behaving like a runaway train, this episode will help you tap the brakes with compassion, clarity, and small steps that actually work.

What You'll Learn

• Why expected mess is not the same thing as clutter—and why the distinction matters

• The common mental spiral ("I failed… it always comes back… I'm bad at this") and how to interrupt it

• The 10-minute reset that gives your brain an instant sense of calm

• How visible surfaces act as your home's "dashboard" for your nervous system

• What research says about clutter, cortisol, and working memory

• How to shrink mental load simply by putting things back where they belong

• Why one small clear zone can change your entire emotional state

• How resets create "visual islands of calm" during the busiest weeks of the year

• The mindset shift that keeps your home from getting as loud in the first place

Key Takeaways

• Expected mess is normal. It's a byproduct of being alive—not a moral failure.

• Clutter is different. It's the stuff no longer serving you, and treating expected mess like clutter keeps you overwhelmed.

• Your brain craves order. Even one cleared surface sends a safety signal that lowers stress.

• You don't need a marathon. Two minutes or even 30 seconds of returning items to their homes can shift everything.

• Good enough is the goal. Your home doesn't need to look like a Pottery Barn ad to support you well.

• Consistency > intensity. The more you declutter and reset, the quieter your home feels day-to-day.

• You're not missing discipline—you're missing the right rhythm and brain-friendly strategy.

Quotable Moment

"One clear section of your counter is truly all it takes. When you reset your space, you reset your nervous system—and your home stops feeling like a runaway train."

— Katy Wells

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If you're thinking, "I know what to do, I just can't seem to follow through," or clutter keeps coming back no matter how much you reset—this is your next step. The Inner Circle opens once a year, and waitlisters get first access.

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Coming Up This Week

Don't miss Wednesday's episode with my husband, Andrew, where we talk about what our mold crisis taught us about clutter, comfort, and letting go. A powerful conversation you won't want to miss.

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📚 PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK!

Making Home Your Happy Place: The Real Life Guide to Decluttering Without the Overwhelm releases February 17th!

Pre-order now and receive exclusive bonus goodies—simple, supportive tools you can apply right away through the holiday season and beyond!

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In this special episode, I'm sharing the deeply personal story behind writing my first book—from an unexpected moment in my laundry room where I felt called to write, to the journey of trusting the process through prayer, connection, and even a hurricane. I'm opening up about how God meets us in ordinary moments, why clutter is rarely just about the stuff, and the heart behind my holistic decluttering method that honors your whole self.

What You'll Learn

• The laundry room moment that sparked the idea for this book

• Why "God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called" became myguiding principle

• The three pillars of my holistic decluttering method: Root Awareness, Empowered Action, and Sustainable Momentum

• An introduction to the four clutter types: Superficial, Scarcity, Sentimental, and Identity clutter

• Why this book is about freedom—from shame, overwhelm, and unrealistic expectations

• What to expect from bonus December episodes with quick wins for the holiday season

Key Takeaways

1. Your home doesn't have to be perfect to support you—it just has to be good enough to hold you and your family well.

2. Clutter is rarely just about the stuff—it's the stories, emotions, beliefs, and pressures wrapped around it.

3. You can declutter your home over and over, but until you understand yourself, the clutter and overwhelm will keep coming back.

4. Different clutter types need different toolkits—one size does not fit all.

5. We are often met by God in the middle of ordinary life, and callings can show up in spaces where we don't expect.

The Four Clutter Types (From the Book)

• Superficial Clutter: Surface piles that reappear the moment life speeds up

• Scarcity Clutter: "Just in case" items that feel safe but can be suffocating

• Sentimental Clutter: Memory-filled treasures that are hard to let go

• Identity Clutter: Items tied to past, future, or aspirational versions of ourselves

Quotable Moment

"I wasn't failing the solutions. They were failing me. Nothing was wrong with me, and nothing's wrong with you either. You just need a compassionate, real life approach that honors who you are and the life you're living."

— Katy Wells

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Join Clutter Cure Club

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Come Say Hi on Instagram

Behind-the-scenes and real-life simplicity. @katyjoywells

Coming Up in December

Look out for bonus Monday episodes throughout December with super actionable quick wins—what to do with unwanted stuff, simple resets to make your home feel lighter instantly, and more. Hit follow or subscribe so you don't miss them!

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