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If Your Home Keeps Refilling, This Might Be Why (The Shopping Habits No One Talks About)

Have you ever made real progress decluttering… only to look up a few weeks later and wonder how the clutter came back so fast? It can feel confusing — and honestly, a little defeating.

A lot of us assume the answer is more discipline, better organization, or "trying harder." But what if the problem isn't what's leaving your home… it's what's quietly coming back in?

In this episode, I share a part of my story I've never fully talked about here — the shopping patterns that were undoing my decluttering progress behind the scenes. I walk you through what I learned the hard way, how I finally saw the cycle clearly, and three common patterns that keep so many women stuck in the "declutter and refill" loop.

This conversation matters right now because we're living in a world where buying is easier than ever — one-click checkout, constant ads, influencer culture, and the pressure to "fix" yourself and your home with the next purchase. If you've ever stress-shopped, bought for a fantasy version of yourself, or upgraded one thing and suddenly felt like everything else wasn't good enough… this episode will feel like a deep exhale.

It's not about shame. It's about clarity. Because once you can name the pattern, you can finally change it — and keep your progress from disappearing.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. Decluttering won't last if the "faucet" is still on If your home keeps refilling, it's not proof you're failing — it's a sign you may need to look at what's coming in and why.

2. Stress shopping is usually about relief, not stuff When life feels chaotic, buying can feel like control or comfort for a moment — but it often creates long-term clutter (and more anxiety) afterward.

3. Aspirational purchases can turn into emotional pressure Buying for a version of yourself you think you should be often becomes clutter that doesn't inspire you — it quietly nags you and fuels guilt.

4. The Diderot Effect explains the "upgrade spiral" One new purchase can suddenly make everything else feel not good enough — and that ripple effect can lead to unnecessary spending and constant dissatisfaction.

5. Your clutter is information, not a character flaw The real shift happens when you stop trying to "fix" yourself and start getting curious about what's driving the behavior beneath the piles.

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Don't Ruminate—Activate: 3 Real Stories That Prove Progress Comes From Doing Less (Not More)

If you've ever stood in a cluttered room thinking, "Where do I even start?"—or spiraled into "How did I let it get this bad?"—then you know what ruminating feels like.

And here's the truth I wish more women heard sooner:

You cannot think your way to motivation. You have to move your way there.

In today's episode, I'm sharing three stories from three women I've been working with recently—three completely different situations, three completely different "stuck points"… and one powerful thing in common:

They all made massive progress by doing less, not more.

Less planning. Less perfecting. Less waiting for the "right moment."

These women didn't magically get more time. They didn't suddenly become "disciplined." They didn't do a huge decluttering weekend.

They got unstuck by activating—one small decision, one tiny action, one real shift at a time.

And if you've been craving that kind of progress (the kind that actually sticks), this episode will light a fire in you.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE: 1) Clutter is often doing a job—until you decide you're done hiding

Molly thought she had a "house problem," but she realized clutter had become a form of protection—a wall that kept people out. Her breakthrough wasn't a perfect plan… it was choosing connection before perfection. She started inviting people over before her home was "done," and the shame lost its grip.

2) If you're waiting to feel ready, you'll stay stuck—because discomfort is part of growth

Cassidy wasn't avoiding clutter—she was avoiding decisions. She overthought every move because she was terrified of regret, mistakes, or doing it "wrong." What changed everything was this simple reframe: Of course this feels uncomfortable… because I'm doing something different. She stopped perfecting, started making small decisions, and built trust in herself through action.

3) Systems don't work when clutter blocks them—and mental load grows when you're the only one who "knows where things go"

Kate felt like the gatekeeper of the entire house—she was the only one who could find anything, manage anything, put anything away. Her home didn't need more controlling—it needed fewer barriers. She cleared what was blocking a simple system (a filing cabinet), tested "good enough," and created a home that worked with her instead of against her. And one of the most powerful shifts? She stopped labeling every mess as failure and started distinguishing expected mess from clutter.

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If Decluttering Feels Like "One Step Forward, 18 Steps Back," You're Probably Only Tackling One Type of Clutter

Have you ever decluttered, felt AMAZING… and then somehow your home felt just as heavy again two days later?

Like you're doing the work, making progress, trying to find the "right system"… but it keeps turning into that exhausting cycle of forward → back → forward → back.

In this episode, I'm sharing the two shifts that completely changed my personal trajectory with decluttering—and finally gave me the progress I craved (and deserved).

The first is this: most of us only declutter the easy stuff. The obvious "donation bin" items. The broken things. The trash. The surface-level clutter.

And that's a great start… but it's only the bar in the squat rack.

Because if you never add weight, your home won't transform.

That's why we're diving into the four types of clutter—and what each one actually needs from you to move through it without shame, burnout, or that "what's wrong with me?" feeling.

If you're ready to understand why decluttering gets hard (and what to do when it does), this episode will unlock so much.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE: 1) Most people only declutter superficial clutter—and that's why progress doesn't stick

Superficial clutter is the easy, obvious stuff: trash, expired pantry items, broken things, extras you don't need, stuff you forgot you even owned. It's an important starting point (hello, momentum!)… but if you stop there, you'll always feel like you're spinning your wheels because you never touch what's really weighing you down.

2) Decluttering is a life skill—you have to "add weight" to get transformation

Think of superficial clutter like squatting just the bar. Great for maintenance… but it won't change your home long-term. Real transformation happens when you build the skill to move through the deeper layers:

• Scarcity clutter (fear + "just in case")

• Sentimental clutter (memories + guilt + meaning)

• Identity clutter (past self + future self + "who I thought I'd be")

When you learn how to handle all four, you stop yo-yo'ing and start getting real traction.

3) Each clutter type needs a different approach—so stop using one tool for every problem

This is the game-changer. If you keep trying to use "quick decisions + donation bin" for everything, you'll hit a wall.

• Superficial clutter needs action + quick wins

• Scarcity clutter needs you to address the fear underneath

• Sentimental clutter needs time + gentleness (without guilt)

• Identity clutter needs you to reconnect with who you are right now

When you match the right strategy to the right clutter type, you stop blaming yourself and start moving forward… fast.

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If you've ever looked around your home and thought, "Why does this feel like it's all on me?"—this episode is for you.

Because getting another adult in your home to care about clutter can feel…impossible. Maybe your partner genuinely doesn't notice it. Maybe they help, but you're still carrying most of the mental load. Maybe they're willing, but they don't know where to start. Or maybe it's not a partner at all—maybe it's a roommate, an older kid, or another adult sharing your space.

In this episode, I'm walking you through what didn't work for me (hinting, sighing, nagging, ultimatums…yep, I tried it all) and what finally did move the needle with my husband, Andrew.

We'll talk about the subtle shifts that create real buy-in—without turning your home into a battleground or you into the project manager nobody asked for.

If you're craving more shared responsibility and less resentment, this one will help you take the next right step—starting today.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE: 1) Stop trying to make them care about clutter the way you do—help them feel the benefit instead

Most adults don't need to fall in love with donation bins or organizers to get on board. What they do care about is how the home feels: less friction, fewer arguments, easier routines, and the ability to actually relax at the end of the day. The breakthrough comes when they experience the difference—because showing is more powerful than telling.

2) Share your "big why" (without trying to convince them)

Sometimes your partner isn't resisting decluttering—they just don't understand what it's costing you. When you share what you're really craving on the other side (peace, ease, less anxiety, more time as a family), it often creates empathy…which creates support. And support can look like a lot of things: running donations, handling the kids while you declutter, or slowly joining you in shared spaces when they have capacity.

3) Design your home for follow-through (so it's easier for everyone to do the right thing)

What looks like "they don't care" is often just friction. Too many steps. No obvious home. Too much thinking required. So instead of arguing about behavior, adjust the environment:

• keys keep landing on the counter → add a tray where they actually get dropped

• shoes pile up by the door → put a basket right there

• stuff keeps circulating → make a visible donation bin the default

When it's easy, it happens more—without willpower, nagging, or reminders.

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If you've ever felt like you're working twice as hard as everyone else just to keep your head above water… this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

Because when you're trying harder and harder—making more lists, getting more "disciplined," pushing yourself into new-year productivity mode—and it's still not working? That's not a character flaw. It's not laziness. And it's definitely not that you're "bad at adulthood."

In today's conversation, I'm joined by Brooke Schnitman, executive function coach and former special education teacher with 20+ years of experience helping adults with ADHD stop fighting their brains and start working with them. Brooke was diagnosed with ADHD at 35, so she understands this from the inside out—and she explains why willpower isn't the problem… regulation is.

We talk about the overwhelm/underwhelm cycle that keeps so many women stuck, how "all-or-nothing" thinking hijacks decluttering (and basically everything else), and the small, realistic shifts that help you build momentum—without burning out or spiraling into shame.

If decluttering (or even just managing life) feels harder than it "should," this episode will help you finally understand why… and what to do instead.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE: 1) "Try harder" backfires because ADHD isn't an effort problem—it's a regulation problem

Brooke explains how ADHD brains can't reliably access willpower the same way, especially under stress. When you push harder, your nervous system floods, executive function shuts down, and the shame spiral kicks in.

2) Underwhelm can be just as paralyzing as overwhelm—and it's sneakier

Overwhelm looks like "too much." But underwhelm looks like "I'm bored, stuck, scrolling, restless… and I don't know why I can't start." Brooke shares how ADHD brains need the right level of stimulation to initiate action.

3) Momentum comes from tiny wins (the "1% step"), not marathon motivation

One small action creates a dopamine hit → which creates more action → which creates momentum → which creates confidence. You don't need a perfect plan. You need a next step you can actually do—and ideally, accountability to help you do it.

Mentioned In This Episode

Coaching with Brooke: https://www.coachingwithbrooke.com/

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Brooke's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithbrooke/

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When Decluttering Feels Impossible, It's Probably Decision Fatigue (Not Laziness)

Have you ever started decluttering with good intentions… and then your brain just shuts down? You're staring at a pile thinking, "Why can't I just make a decision?" and suddenly everything feels hard — even the easy stuff.

Most women assume they're unmotivated or undisciplined. But I want to offer a kinder explanation: your brain didn't run out of willpower — it ran out of decision-making energy.

In today's episode, I walk you through what decision fatigue actually is, why it hits so fast during decluttering, and three simple strategies you can use to prevent that "stuck" feeling before it starts — or get yourself unstuck when you're already in it.

January tends to bring fresh motivation… and also a lot of pressure. More goals, more tasks, more decisions, more everything. If you're already carrying a full mental load, decluttering can be the thing that pushes your brain over the edge.

This episode will help you work with your brain instead of fighting it — so you can make steady progress without burnout, overwhelm, or the "I'll just do it later" spiral.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. Start with the no-brainers to build momentum Begin with superficial clutter — the items you already know you don't want (stained, broken, uncomfortable, mismatched). Quick wins give your brain proof and momentum before you tackle the "maybe" pile.

2. Give your brain one job at a time Decision fatigue gets worse when you keep switching gears. Choose one category or one question (like "Is this functional and usable?") and repeat it — your brain can handle rhythm far better than constant mental toggling.

3. Use scripts so you don't negotiate with yourself Open-ended questions lead to spiraling when you're tired. A simple pre-decided script gives structure and keeps you moving—especially with scarcity clutter, sentimental items, or aspirational "future self" pieces.

4. Use these strategies proactively and reactively Start your session with them to prevent shutdown — and if you hit a wall mid-declutter, switch back to no-brainers, narrow your job, or pull out a script to get moving again.

5. Progress comes from steadiness, not marathons You don't need to finish the whole closet today. You need a method that helps you stay clear-headed long enough to make consistent decisions — one small set at a time.

1. decisions easier.

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Why Letting Go Feels So Hard (And the "Stuff Story" That Explains It)

Have you ever looked around your home and thought, "Why is this still such a struggle for me?" You know what you want — more calm, more space, less mental weight — but every time you try to declutter, something in you freezes.

Most women assume they just need a better system… or more willpower… or a free weekend to finally tackle it all. But what if the real reason you're stuck isn't about the stuff at all?

In this episode, I read a powerful chapter from my new book that helps you uncover your Stuff Story — the invisible script that's been shaping what you buy, what you keep, and why certain items feel impossible to let go of. I walk you through how your upbringing, emotional attachments, and cultural pressure quietly influence your home (and your choices) more than you realize.

This matters so much right now because so many of us are trying to "reset" in January — new goals, fresh starts, a lighter year. But if you don't understand the story underneath your clutter, you'll keep repeating the same patterns, even with the best decluttering strategy in the world.

This chapter is meant to feel like someone finally turned the lights on. More clarity. More compassion. And a new kind of freedom that doesn't start with a trash bag — it starts with understanding.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. Your clutter didn't come from nowhere Your "Stuff Story" was written over time by family patterns, personal experiences, and cultural messaging — and it silently shapes what feels hard to release.

2. Your brain is protecting you, not sabotaging you If you freeze or avoid decluttering, it's often because your nervous system prefers what's familiar (even if it's clutter). Awareness is the first step to change.

3. Some things are really placeholders for identity Aspirational clutter, sentimental items, and "just in case" backups often represent who you were, who you hoped to be, or what you've been afraid to lose.

4. "More" has been marketed as safety and success We've been taught that full equals good — and that empty equals lack. But space can be the beginning of peace, not proof you're missing something.

5. You can rewrite the script one belief at a time Letting go isn't wasteful or irresponsible when it aligns with your life now. Repeating new truths creates new mental pathways — and makes future decisions easier.

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The 25-Minute Decluttering Strategy That Actually Works When You're Short on Time

You know that moment when you want to declutter… but the idea of pulling everything out and losing your whole day makes you want to quit before you even start?

I get it. Most decluttering advice is built for someone with unlimited time, unlimited energy, and zero kids asking for snacks every six minutes. And if you've tried the "empty the whole closet" method before, you already know how that story ends.

In this episode, I walk you through my go-to method called 25 to Thrive — a simple, sustainable way to make real progress in a short window, without the overwhelm spiral (and without turning your house into a disaster zone).

Right now — especially in January — there's this pressure to go big or go home. Total home reset. Massive purge. Brand new you. But real change doesn't happen in one perfect Saturday. It happens in small, repeatable wins that build momentum and proof.

If your brain has been waiting for "the right time" to declutter, this is your gentle nudge: you don't need more time. You need a method that works with your life.

KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. You don't need a full day to make real progress The belief that decluttering only "counts" if you do a marathon session keeps you stuck. A focused 25 minutes can create visible change and real relief.

2. 20 minutes of decluttering is the sweet spot Short bursts help you avoid decision fatigue and overwhelm. You'll make faster, clearer choices when your brain isn't depleted.

3. The last 5 minutes are what make this strategy stick A quick reset (trash out, donations bagged, space returned to baseline) prevents the "piles on the floor" problem and leaves you feeling accomplished instead of frazzled.

4. Start smaller than you think you should One drawer, one shelf, one surface. Your brain can handle small spaces — and small wins build confidence and momentum.

5. Consistency beats intensity Doing 25 to Thrive once a week (or even once a month) is how you create lasting progress. This isn't about perfection — it's about showing up in a way you can repeat.

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If you've ever opened social media and instantly felt behind — about your body, your home, or your progress — you're not alone. I share a moment like that in this episode, and how quickly one image shifted how I saw myself without my permission.

That experience sparked a bigger realization: the heaviest things we carry aren't always the ones in our closets. They're the beliefs we've absorbed over time about what progress "should" look like, what our past says about us, and who gets to decide if we're doing it right.

In this episode, I walk you through three incredibly common beliefs that quietly keep women stuck — especially when they're trying to simplify their homes and lives — and how to start releasing them with compassion and clarity.

Right now, many of us are heading into a new year with good intentions and very full plates. The pressure to do more, fix everything, or finally "get it together" can feel overwhelming. This conversation is meant to be grounding — a reminder that you're not broken, you're not behind, and progress doesn't have to look like anyone else's version to count.

Key Takeaways From The Episode:

1. Your past is data, not a verdict-Previous attempts that didn't stick don't mean you can't change — they simply show you what hasn't worked yet and help you choose a better approach moving forward.

2. Small progress is real progress-Five minutes, one drawer, or a single decision still counts. Momentum comes from action, not waiting for the "perfect" time.

3. Perfection often disguises fear-Waiting for massive, all-at-once change can actually keep you stuck. Letting yourself start imperfectly creates movement and relief.

4. You get to define what success looks like-A functional, supportive home doesn't need to match anyone else's aesthetic. Your version of "good enough" is allowed to be enough.

5. Protect your definition of progress-Unfollowing accounts or standards that make you feel behind can be one of the most powerful decluttering steps you take.

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Every January, we're sold the same promise: New year, new you.

Fresh motivation. Big plans. A clean slate.

But what if the "fresh start" was never designed to work in the first place? And what if the reason it hasn't worked for you has nothing to do with discipline, motivation, or willpower?

In this episode, I'm unpacking why traditional January resets fail so consistently—and what actually creates lasting change instead. We're talking about motivation myths, generic plans that ignore real life, and why trying to declutter (or change anything) alone is one of the biggest reasons people get stuck.

I'm also sharing the real story of a client (Evie) whose yearly January reset cycle left her feeling defeated, ashamed, and convinced something was wrong with her—until she tried a completely different approach.

If you've ever felt hopeful on January 1st… only to feel discouraged by January 18th, this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn

• Why most New Year's resolutions fail by mid-January (and the exact date most people quit)

• The cultural myth behind "fresh starts" and why it quietly blames you when it fails

• Why motivation is not a strategy—and what actually sustains progress

• The three core reasons January resets almost always fall apart

• How generic decluttering plans work against busy families

• Why real change rarely happens in isolation

• The difference between a heroic push and a sustainable system

• What finally helped one mom break out of the January-reset cycle for good

• How shifting the method (not yourself) changes everything

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Inside, you'll get:

• A personalized decluttering plan built around your life

• Support and accountability Monday–Friday

• Help navigating stuck points (because everyone gets stuck)

• A realistic, sustainable approach—no PTO required, no weekend marathons

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If your fresh starts have failed before, please hear this clearly:

It was never you.

You don't need fixing. You don't need more willpower. You don't need a new identity.

You need a method that actually works for real life.

I'm cheering for you—and I'll see you in the next episode.

Ready, set, simplify. 💛