There's no motivation to declutter quite like relocating! But where should we start?

In this episode I break down why we should declutter before we move, and 10 categories to focus on in order to avoid taking clutter with you to your new home.

Even if you're not moving, today's episode is a fun one to get ideas for a "mock move," which is to declutter your home *as though* you plan on moving. It's a really helpful lens through which to find some motivation!

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Episode 48: Decluttering Books as a Book Lover

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

Electronics Disposal: Call2Recycle or Earth911

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

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"What if our partner says they'll do something, but they don't follow through?"

"How do we get our partners to care about all the details of home/family management?"

These are just two of the questions I ask relationship expert and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip on today's episode of Paring Down.

"The mental load" is a big term getting a lot of attention these days because it's an important component to healthy, happy relationships. Clutter can feel like one big "to-do" list, and if we shoulder the responsibility for dealing with it by ourselves, it's recipe for resentment and disconnection in our relationship.

In today's episode, relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip shares about her new book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex," coming out April 15th. I think you'll love her positive yet realistic take.

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DR. MORGAN CUTLIP INFORMATION:

Order Dr. Morgan Cutlip's book: "A Better Share" HERE

drmorgancutlip.com

Dr. Morgan Instagram: @drmorgancutlip 

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

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What-if items tend to be the biggest culprits of clutter! We are worried we'll need it some day, so we hold on just in case.

In this episode, I walk through 5 helpful ways to combat this battle with "what-if??" so that we can become more discerning about what's worth keeping and what we need to let go.

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Kid Schoolwork Memory Box

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

50% off your first box of EveryPlate meal service with code paring50: www.everyplate.com/podcast

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Introducing my brother, Jim Oliver!! We talk about losing our mom 12 years ago, and what that has meant for both of us in terms of living our lives with clear intention - even though that intentionality looks different between the two of us.

Jim also shares about his fascinating career as a booking agent for celebrities and major motivational speakers, offering us insight to how to make the most of "self-help," along with answering my questions about the potential underbelly of the self-help industry.

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

50% off your first box of EveryPlate meal service with code paring50: www.everyplate.com/podcast

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10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/hellofreshpodcast

20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING

This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring

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The beautiful part about intentional living is that we get to decide what resonates with us and what doesn't. Not all advice is for everyone, and that's A-okay.

In that spirit, there seem to be some generally-accepted viewpoints in the minimalism and decluttering world that I, personally, disagree with. So here are some of my hot takes! From sparking joy to the 20/20 rule...I have thoughts!

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Paring Down Newsletter: The L.E.S.S. Express

Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)

Good news account: @sambentley

Ep 59: Busting Myths About Decluttering

Ep 22:: Doom Piles & Mail

Ep 70: Is Decluttering Just for the Financially Secure? with Aubrey High

Ep 5: Sentimental Items

Ep 50: The Guilt & Fear of Decluttering Gifts

Ep 24: Decluttering Photos on Our Phones & in Our Homes

Marie Kondo book: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

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10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/hellofreshpodcast

20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING

This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring

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Ready for some truly practical help that will change your daily life?

Shawn Lemon of The Digital Organizer delivers just that in today's episode as he shares with us practical steps we can take to make our email accounts, desktop, and digital storage less chaotic and far more streamlined.

I personally was so motivated after our conversation that I went to town on my own digital spaces as soon as our interview ended, and can say - without being dramatic - that his simple, understandable approach changed my life. I open email and my computer and feel like a new person.

I hope you will, too, when you're done listening to this episode and taking the easy steps to implement his advice into your life!

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SHAWN LEMON INFORMATION

Helpful resources: https://thedigitalorganizer.com/paringdown

Instagram: @thedigitalorganizer

Facebook: The Digital Organizer

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

Treasures of the Heart: A 7-Day Bible Study on Breaking Free from Material Attachments (free)

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

50% off your first box of EveryPlate meal service with code paring50: www.everyplate.com/podcast

Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!

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20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING

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Spring Break is right around the corner, and it's very tempting to buy new wardrobes for vacation or bring home plenty of souvenirs. (Especially if it means avoiding a toddler breakdown in the middle of public.)

So let's talk about ways to avoid all that vacation clutter -- both in shopping ahead of time, and while we're there!

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RENTAL COMPANIES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Resort/general:

Rent the Runway

Nuuly

Fashion Press 

Hiking clothes:

Kit Lender

REI

Outdoors Geek 

Snow clothes:

Kit Lender

Slope Threads

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

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20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING

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Defining what is "sacred" is to determine what truly matters and to recognize the beautiful intersection of every living thing. In this realm, Jeff Golden has spent 30 years and won multiple awards for his work regarding the connection (or lack thereof) between money and happiness so that we can better reject the things that are NOT sacred.

On the podcast, Jeff shares fascinating studies and statistics that paint a picture of the lies that money and overconsumption tell us, and offers ways we can make the concerted effort to reclaim the things that truly matter -- including our own worth.

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JEFF GOLDEN INFORMATION

https://reclaimingthesacred.net/

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/hellofreshpodcast

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20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING

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Whew, I kind of can't believe I'm pressing publish on this one. I grew up in a high control religious organization, and today I'm sharing my story after a lot of interest came in after I mentioned it in a reel!

I know this is.a bit off the subject of decluttering, but it ties in beautifully with the bigger message of intentional living. I hope this episode is not only interesting, but helps shed some light on the importance of being intentional about our beliefs by making them our own.

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

15% off all Lume products like aluminum-free deodorant at lumedeodorant.com- use code PARING

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Avoiding difficult subjects isn't something I want to do on Paring Down. Yet I want to make sure I approach them with humility, positivity, and an open mind - and I hope that tone comes through on today's episode.

I'm so grateful to have Aubrey High from The Reclaimed Home alongside me as we talk through insights she's gained while working with people who are financially insecure - and often recovering from trauma - to responsibly declutter and organize their homes. (Stories shared on this episode are done so with permission and anonymity.)

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Aubrey High's Instagram: @the.reclaimed.home.co

Aubrey High's email: [email protected]

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MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Aubrey's first appearance on Paring Down: Making Space for Things and People We Love

Episode 67: 5 Psychological Phenomena that Affect Decluttering & Consumption

Katy Joy Wells Instagram

PARING DOWN RESOURCES:

Complete Guide to Decluttering Kid Stuff⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠Free 15 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas⁠

Free Gift Request Email Template

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Know Your Why Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Baby Essentials List⁠⁠⁠⁠

CODES:

Ethical, luxury women's clothing at Quince.com/paring for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order!

10 Free Meals from Hello Fresh: www.hellofresh.com/paring10fm

20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use promo code PARING

This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month of Better Help therapy: www.betterhelp.com/paring

40% off luxurious bedsheets & loungewear from Cozy Earth: https://cozyearth.com - use code PARING

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