In this thoughtful and deeply relatable episode of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik unpack the emotional rollercoaster that often follows the intensity of Pesach and introduce powerful tools for navigating the quieter, introspective period of Sefiras HaOmer. Drawing from Torah wisdom and therapeutic insights, they explore the concept of regulation as a prerequisite for real self-awareness and growth. With humor, honesty, and vulnerability, they dive into what it means to transition out of survival mode and into a space where intentionality and ownership become possible. From acknowledging how dysregulation affects our ability to be present, to recognizing that sometimes the first step is simply being gentle with ourselves, this episode offers both comfort and clarity.

Listeners are introduced to practical and memorable tools like the acronyms STOP, HALT, and PASTA—each offering a framework for pausing, checking in, and moving forward with compassion and purpose. Whether it's stepping into the bathroom for a moment of calm or realizing that your anger might just be hunger in disguise, Hindi and Chayale normalize the messiness of the human experience while pointing the way to growth rooted in self-honesty and divine connection. Perfect for anyone feeling overwhelmed or seeking alignment after Yom Tov, this episode is a soothing and empowering guide for getting back in the driver’s seat of your emotional and spiritual life.

In this profound and thought-provoking episode of Your Relationshift, hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik are joined by a very special guest—Sara Gita Soble, the founder of Relationshift. Together, they dive deep into the complexities of feminine desire, exploring the nuanced differences between Taava (craving or lust) and Ratzon (higher will). Through the lens of Chassidic wisdom, they uncover how our desires can either be a reflection of our deepest self or a distraction imposed by external influences. The discussion touches on the interplay between Ratzon and Taanug (delight), the challenges of discerning between superficial wants and true inner calling, and the way our desires shape not only our personal lives but also our relationships and connection with Hashem.

Throughout the conversation, the hosts and Sara Gita share personal anecdotes and powerful insights, offering practical guidance on how to navigate the often-messy process of understanding what we truly want. They also explore the importance of embracing abundance, how recognizing our desires can deepen our sense of self, and how women, in particular, are uniquely connected to Ratzon and Taanug as part of their spiritual identity. Whether you’ve struggled to acknowledge your own wants or have felt tension between material and spiritual aspirations, this episode provides a fresh, inspiring perspective on how to channel desire in a meaningful, intentional, and fulfilling way.

In this heartfelt and humorous Pesach edition of Your Relationshift, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik open up about the unique pressures and emotional complexity that come with preparing for Passover. With their signature honesty and wit, they tackle everything from Pesach pajamas and peeling vegetables to deeper questions around stress, intention, and spiritual values. Whether you're hosting, going to family, or just trying to keep up with the unspoken standards of the holiday, this episode offers a refreshingly honest look at the often-overwhelming experience many women face during this season. The hosts remind us that freedom—the theme of Pesach—also includes emotional freedom, and that begins with reclaiming your own mindset and expectations.

Hindi and Chayale dive into practical and powerful tools to help you approach Pesach with more ownership, calm, and connection. They explore the dynamics of differing standards between spouses, how to deal with judgment (especially internal judgment), and the importance of curiosity, communication, and self-regulation. They also discuss how to ask for help in a way that opens up partnership instead of frustration, and how to let go of martyrdom in favor of empowerment. Whether you're knee-deep in cleaning or just starting to plan, this episode offers a compassionate, relatable, and spiritually grounded guide to shifting your experience of Pesach—from survival to meaningful celebration.

In this episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive into a pressing and deeply relatable topic—navigating phone usage in marriage. When a husband’s screen time feels excessive, it can trigger feelings of loneliness, frustration, and even resentment, especially when it seems to encroach on family time and connection. Drawing from both personal experience and their coaching expertise, Hindi and Chayale explore why common responses—like pleading, controlling, or personalizing the issue—often backfire, and instead, they offer a radically different approach. They discuss the power of shifting focus away from frustration and toward creating an inviting, engaging presence that naturally draws connection, rather than forcing it.

With their signature warmth and wisdom, the hosts emphasize the importance of stepping out of a fear-based, control-driven mindset and into one of trust, empowerment, and creativity. They unpack the concept of being "the most interesting woman in the room" and explain how to cultivate an energy that makes space for a husband to engage—without pressure or resentment. Whether it's at the dinner table, in the bedroom, or during everyday interactions, this episode is a must-listen for women seeking to shift their dynamic from conflict to connection, using practical insights grounded in Torah principles and the beauty of feminine influence.

In this thought-provoking episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive into the complexities of parenting and the distinct roles that mothers and fathers play in raising children. They explore a common yet unspoken dynamic—many women feel the weight of parenting falls almost entirely on them, while their husbands are either uninvolved or perceived as not fully capable. Through personal stories and Torah insights, they challenge this belief, introducing the transformative principle that a father is just as indispensable to a child's well-being as a mother. By shifting perspectives and creating space for a husband's unique parenting style—one rooted in the masculine traits of chochma, chessed and netzach—mothers can alleviate their own burden while giving their children the security that comes from having two actively involved parents. 

Hindi and Chayale also unpack the deep fears that arise when a father's approach to parenting differs from a mother's structured and intuitive style. They discuss the impact of perception—how viewing a husband as incapable can subtly reinforce that reality, and how shifting that lens can create powerful change. Through humor, honesty, and real-life examples, they highlight the importance of Shalom Bayis (marital harmony) as the foundation for raising healthy, balanced children. Tune in for a paradigm-shifting conversation that will challenge, inspire, and leave you with practical takeaways for embracing your husband’s role in parenting.

In this season 2 bonus interview for the "Your Relationshift Podcast", hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik welcome Sara Gita Soble, the founder of Relationshift and the visionary behind the 13 Principles that have transformed countless relationships and personal lives. Sara Gita shares the inspiring story of how the Relationshift model was born—from her early days as a high school teacher and kallah instructor to her transition into private coaching. She reveals how a late-night realization led to the articulation of core principles rooted in Torah and Chassidic teachings, offering not just advice but timeless truths about human connection and growth. The discussion explores how these principles, once integrated, provide a foundation for transforming not only marriages but every aspect of personal and relational well-being. 

Throughout the conversation, Sara Gita emphasizes the importance of embracing one's human experience with compassion and empathy, highlighting concepts like Divine Design and the profound impact of recognizing Hashem's presence in every moment of life. She also shares how feminine leadership, modeled after biblical figures like Devorah, has shaped her nurturing and empowering approach to guiding women in their personal journeys. Listeners will be captivated by the deep insights into how living by these Torah-rooted truths can create lasting change, and they'll gain a deeper understanding of how Relationshift principles foster both personal transformation and stronger, more authentic relationships.

In this insightful first episode of season two of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik take on the often fraught topic of birthdays and anniversaries. Through the lens of Chassidic teachings and their relationship coaching expertise, Hindi and Chayale explore why these occasions can bring up a mix of emotions—ranging from excitement to disappointment—and how they can often feel like a "litmus test" for our relationships. From setting unrealistic expectations to grappling with our own inner turmoil about milestones, they break down the dynamics at play and explain how adopting a mindset of ownership, receptivity, and intention can transform these special days into truly meaningful experiences.

Listeners will find practical strategies for shifting from a scarcity mindset to one of abundance, learning how to celebrate from a place of essential self-worth and spiritual connection. Hindi and Chayale also delve into how to approach birthdays and anniversaries in a way that strengthens marital relationships, including letting go of control, trusting your partner, and embracing the idea that every day can be a celebration of connection and growth. Packed with wisdom and practical takeaways, this episode sets the stage for a new season full of transformative insights into navigating relationships with clarity and joy.

In this heartwarming bonus episode of the Your Relationshift podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik share listener feedback and messages, highlighting how the podcast’s principles have deeply resonated and impacted lives. From shluchos to newly engaged bochurim, listeners open up about the real-life shifts they’ve experienced by applying the tools and teachings discussed in previous episodes. Whether it's navigating feelings of resentment through "Mirror Work," redefining expectations in marriage with "Trust the Connection," or addressing fear-based decision-making through the lens of "Mashpia/Mekabel," these personal stories reveal the transformative power of the podcast’s relatable and practical approach to relationships.

Hindi and Chayale celebrate the courage and accountability of their listeners, who are actively applying these Torah-based principles to their daily lives. With a mix of humor, vulnerability, and heartfelt insights, the episode reflects on the beauty of shifting perspectives and embracing personal growth. As they wrap up the season, the co-hosts express their gratitude for the community they’ve built and the feedback they’ve received, promising even more thought-provoking conversations in season two. Tune in to be inspired by the stories of real people making meaningful changes and strengthening their relationships.

In the powerful season finale of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the foundational principle of "Divine Design" in relationships and life. Drawing from Torah wisdom, they discuss how every detail of our lives is intentionally orchestrated by Hashem for our ultimate good - a concept rooted in Hashgacha Pratis (Divine Providence). The co-hosts delve into the profound shift that occurs when we embrace this truth, moving from a mindset of victimhood to empowerment, recognizing that life's circumstances are divinely designed to help us grow and fulfill our unique mission. Through personal insights, stories, and examples from the Torah, including the life of Yosef HaTzadik, they illustrate how trust in Hashem’s goodness can transform challenges into opportunities for connection, clarity, and purpose.

Listeners are invited to reflect on where they may be resisting their reality and to explore how cultivating a relationship with Hashem can bring comfort, openness, and perspective. Hindi and Chayale share practical approaches for integrating this principle, from daily conversations with Hashem to recognizing His hand in the details of our lives. As they conclude the first season, the hosts express gratitude for their listeners and give a glimpse of the exciting new direction for season two. This heartfelt and introspective episode is a fitting finale, offering timeless wisdom and actionable steps to deepen both faith and relationships.

In the powerful season finale of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the foundational principle of "Divine Design" in relationships and life. Drawing from Torah wisdom, they discuss how every detail of our lives is intentionally orchestrated by Hashem for our ultimate good—a concept rooted in Hashgacha Pratis (Divine Providence). The co-hosts delve into the profound shift that occurs when we embrace this truth, moving from a mindset of victimhood to empowerment, recognizing that life's circumstances are divinely designed to help us grow and fulfill our unique mission. Through personal insights, stories, and examples from the Torah, including the life of Yosef HaTzadik, they illustrate how trust in Hashem’s goodness can transform challenges into opportunities for connection, clarity, and purpose.

Listeners are invited to reflect on where they may be resisting their reality and to explore how cultivating a relationship with Hashem can bring comfort, openness, and perspective. Hindi and Chayale share practical approaches for integrating this principle, from daily conversations with Hashem to recognizing His hand in the details of our lives. As they conclude the first season, the hosts express gratitude for their listeners and give a glimpse of the exciting new direction for season two. This heartfelt and introspective episode is a fitting finale, offering timeless wisdom and actionable steps to deepen both faith and relationships.