In this season 2 bonus interview for the "Your Relationshift Podcast", hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik welcome Sara Gita Soble, the founder of Relationshift and the visionary behind the 13 Principles that have transformed countless relationships and personal lives. Sara Gita shares the inspiring story of how the Relationshift model was born—from her early days as a high school teacher and kallah instructor to her transition into private coaching. She reveals how a late-night realization led to the articulation of core principles rooted in Torah and Chassidic teachings, offering not just advice but timeless truths about human connection and growth. The discussion explores how these principles, once integrated, provide a foundation for transforming not only marriages but every aspect of personal and relational well-being. 

Throughout the conversation, Sara Gita emphasizes the importance of embracing one's human experience with compassion and empathy, highlighting concepts like Divine Design and the profound impact of recognizing Hashem's presence in every moment of life. She also shares how feminine leadership, modeled after biblical figures like Devorah, has shaped her nurturing and empowering approach to guiding women in their personal journeys. Listeners will be captivated by the deep insights into how living by these Torah-rooted truths can create lasting change, and they'll gain a deeper understanding of how Relationshift principles foster both personal transformation and stronger, more authentic relationships.

In this insightful first episode of season two of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik take on the often fraught topic of birthdays and anniversaries. Through the lens of Chassidic teachings and their relationship coaching expertise, Hindi and Chayale explore why these occasions can bring up a mix of emotions—ranging from excitement to disappointment—and how they can often feel like a "litmus test" for our relationships. From setting unrealistic expectations to grappling with our own inner turmoil about milestones, they break down the dynamics at play and explain how adopting a mindset of ownership, receptivity, and intention can transform these special days into truly meaningful experiences.

Listeners will find practical strategies for shifting from a scarcity mindset to one of abundance, learning how to celebrate from a place of essential self-worth and spiritual connection. Hindi and Chayale also delve into how to approach birthdays and anniversaries in a way that strengthens marital relationships, including letting go of control, trusting your partner, and embracing the idea that every day can be a celebration of connection and growth. Packed with wisdom and practical takeaways, this episode sets the stage for a new season full of transformative insights into navigating relationships with clarity and joy.

In this heartwarming bonus episode of the Your Relationshift podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik share listener feedback and messages, highlighting how the podcast’s principles have deeply resonated and impacted lives. From shluchos to newly engaged bochurim, listeners open up about the real-life shifts they’ve experienced by applying the tools and teachings discussed in previous episodes. Whether it's navigating feelings of resentment through "Mirror Work," redefining expectations in marriage with "Trust the Connection," or addressing fear-based decision-making through the lens of "Mashpia/Mekabel," these personal stories reveal the transformative power of the podcast’s relatable and practical approach to relationships.

Hindi and Chayale celebrate the courage and accountability of their listeners, who are actively applying these Torah-based principles to their daily lives. With a mix of humor, vulnerability, and heartfelt insights, the episode reflects on the beauty of shifting perspectives and embracing personal growth. As they wrap up the season, the co-hosts express their gratitude for the community they’ve built and the feedback they’ve received, promising even more thought-provoking conversations in season two. Tune in to be inspired by the stories of real people making meaningful changes and strengthening their relationships.

In the powerful season finale of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the foundational principle of "Divine Design" in relationships and life. Drawing from Torah wisdom, they discuss how every detail of our lives is intentionally orchestrated by Hashem for our ultimate good - a concept rooted in Hashgacha Pratis (Divine Providence). The co-hosts delve into the profound shift that occurs when we embrace this truth, moving from a mindset of victimhood to empowerment, recognizing that life's circumstances are divinely designed to help us grow and fulfill our unique mission. Through personal insights, stories, and examples from the Torah, including the life of Yosef HaTzadik, they illustrate how trust in Hashem’s goodness can transform challenges into opportunities for connection, clarity, and purpose.

Listeners are invited to reflect on where they may be resisting their reality and to explore how cultivating a relationship with Hashem can bring comfort, openness, and perspective. Hindi and Chayale share practical approaches for integrating this principle, from daily conversations with Hashem to recognizing His hand in the details of our lives. As they conclude the first season, the hosts express gratitude for their listeners and give a glimpse of the exciting new direction for season two. This heartfelt and introspective episode is a fitting finale, offering timeless wisdom and actionable steps to deepen both faith and relationships.

In the powerful season finale of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the foundational principle of "Divine Design" in relationships and life. Drawing from Torah wisdom, they discuss how every detail of our lives is intentionally orchestrated by Hashem for our ultimate good—a concept rooted in Hashgacha Pratis (Divine Providence). The co-hosts delve into the profound shift that occurs when we embrace this truth, moving from a mindset of victimhood to empowerment, recognizing that life's circumstances are divinely designed to help us grow and fulfill our unique mission. Through personal insights, stories, and examples from the Torah, including the life of Yosef HaTzadik, they illustrate how trust in Hashem’s goodness can transform challenges into opportunities for connection, clarity, and purpose.

Listeners are invited to reflect on where they may be resisting their reality and to explore how cultivating a relationship with Hashem can bring comfort, openness, and perspective. Hindi and Chayale share practical approaches for integrating this principle, from daily conversations with Hashem to recognizing His hand in the details of our lives. As they conclude the first season, the hosts express gratitude for their listeners and give a glimpse of the exciting new direction for season two. This heartfelt and introspective episode is a fitting finale, offering timeless wisdom and actionable steps to deepen both faith and relationships.

In this powerful episode of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik tackle the sensitive yet universal issue of expectations around a spouse's religious observance. Drawing from real-life examples and Torah-based principles, they explore the pain and tension that can arise when a wife feels her husband isn’t meeting her spiritual expectations—whether it’s attending minyan, learning, or leading a Jewish home in a specific way. Through heartfelt discussion, they share practical strategies grounded in the concept of "mirroring," guiding listeners to turn inward and reflect on their own spiritual journey before focusing on their partner's.

Hindi and Chayale emphasize the importance of ownership, self-compassion, and creating space for authenticity within relationships. By shifting from judgment to admiration, they illustrate how embracing each partner's unique spiritual path can cultivate safety, trust, and deeper connection in the home. This episode not only offers a roadmap for navigating religious dynamics in marriage but also inspires a broader appreciation for the beauty of individual journeys with God. Listeners will walk away with actionable insights and a renewed perspective on creating a home filled with love, acceptance, and spiritual abundance.

In this episode of the Relationshift Podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik explore the transformative concept of "mirror work," a principle rooted in the teachings of the Baal Shem Tov. They discuss how the negative qualities we notice in others are often reflections of unresolved aspects within ourselves, and how this awareness can inspire profound self-growth. Using the analogy of a mirror, the hosts unpack how Hashem orchestrates every interaction to guide us toward greater introspection and accountability. Through relatable examples—like receiving a triggering email from a school—Hindi demonstrates how applying this principle can shift our energy from judgment to compassion and create opportunities for personal transformation.

The discussion also highlights how mirror work can improve relationships, particularly in marriage, where the dynamic is often the "biggest mirror." By taking ownership of our reactions and addressing the root of our triggers, we can foster healthier interactions and develop a more expansive sense of self. The hosts emphasize the importance of humility, honesty, and support when embarking on this journey, and they encourage listeners to reflect on their own experiences. This episode offers practical tools for cultivating a more compassionate and empowered perspective, helping us create a ripple effect of positive change within ourselves and our communities.

In this transformative episode of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive deep into one of their most nuanced principles: "The Third Way." This groundbreaking approach to conflict resolution offers a unique alternative to the common dynamic of compromise by encouraging couples to create space for both perspectives, honor each other's values, and discover a solution that transcends both individual desires. Drawing from Torah teachings, the co-hosts unpack the components of respect—space and value—while sharing practical insights on how to open up conversations, break down defensiveness, and embrace curiosity and trust in relationships. Through role-playing exercises and relatable anecdotes, Hindi and Chayale vividly illustrate how shifting your perspective can lead to a deeper connection and the "birth" of something new and greater than either party originally imagined.

Listeners will gain powerful insights into how respect and honoring oneself work hand in hand to create harmony, even in seemingly irreconcilable situations. The episode features a powerful example from Sara Gita Soble’s workshops, highlighting how a wife learned to value her husband's suggestions, only to discover a creative solution that neither had initially considered. Hindi and Chayale challenge listeners to reflect on their own communication dynamics and invite them to share personal "third way" wins and challenges for discussion in future episodes. Whether you're navigating marital disagreements or looking to strengthen your ability to see and honor the best in others, this episode is packed with wisdom, practical advice, and inspiration to deepen your relationships.

In this episode of the Your Relationshift podcast, hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik respond to their listeners' questions. One dilemma opens the door to a deep conversation about identity, self-worth, and the essential desire for connection within marriage. Hindi and Chayale explore the common fear many women experience of being seen primarily as a mother rather than a partner. They discuss how triggers like this one can serve as indicators, guiding us to look within and understand our own unspoken needs and desires.

Through practical advice and real-life examples, Hindi and Chayale emphasize the importance of "trusting the connection"—the foundational belief that a couple is inherently bonded, even in moments of doubt. They share insights on how to express desires from a place of security rather than neediness, enabling a more genuine and fulfilling connection. With compassion and humor, they encourage listeners to cultivate self-trust and a sense of ownership over their roles within the relationship, shifting the focus from seeking validation to fostering a true partnership. This episode offers a refreshing and empowering perspective on navigating the complexities of marriage while remaining rooted in self-awareness and growth.

In this episode of the "Your Relationshift" podcast, co-hosts Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik dive into the powerful principle of "Trust the Connection" within relationships, offering practical techniques to strengthen emotional bonds through trust, intention, and receptivity. Hindi and Chayale emphasize how this principle is not just about blindly trusting, but rather about building a foundation of connection that emerges from working on earlier concepts like self-worth, ownership, and honesty. Using real-life examples, they discuss common relationship dynamics, such as defensiveness in communication, and demonstrate how recognizing the "Love, Care, and Intention" (LCI) behind a spouse's actions can shift interactions from disconnection to deeper understanding and closeness.

Throughout the episode, they provide relatable scenarios, from a husband's offhand comment about the state of the house to suggestions about personal appearance, and show how embracing the LCI technique can transform seemingly critical moments into opportunities for growth and connection. They also explore how women can cultivate their inner strength by using their natural feminine qualities of intuition and discipline to receive love and care in healthy, constructive ways. This thoughtful discussion encourages listeners to choose the "hard" work of connection over the harder experience of disconnection, offering a roadmap to greater intimacy and harmony in their relationships.