A conversation about Teshuvah through the dual lens of clinical attachment theory and Torah sources. We explore why perfect attunement in any relationship is a myth, and how the rupture and repair cycle of Teshuvah is actually what deepens our connections, rather than threatening it. Rus Devorah walks through how our early attachment styles get unconsciously projected onto our relationship with God, and offers concrete practices for moving toward a more secure, honest connection with Hashem during this season of return.

Rus Devorah Wallen is the founder and owner of Torah Therapeutics. She is an accomplished musician, performer, social worker, psychotherapist, administrative consultant, lecturer, and community leader whose work bridges psychology and Torah wisdom. Find out more at toratherapeutics.com.

Article referenced in this episode: https://substack.com/@toratherapeutics/p-212834537

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00 ---- "Back to the future," not back to who you were

00:00:18 ---- Host intro

00:01:33 ---- Rupture, Repair, and the God We Think We Know

00:02:42 ---- The myth of perfect attunement

00:04:46 ---- Why rupture & repair creates a more stabilized relationship

00:05:07 ---- Attachment

00:07:55 ---- Projecting childhood attachment templates onto God

00:09:44 ---- Is it trauma,or is it truth?

00:10:49 ---- The HALTS acronym

00:13:12 ---- "The prisoner can't free himself from his own cell"

00:15:20 ---- Mapping secure / anxious / avoidant attachment onto our relationship with God

00:15:50 ---- What secure attachment looks like relationally

00:19:30 ---- Bringing the secure-attachment framework into relationship with Hashem

00:20:19 ---- Avoidant attachment with God

00:23:09 ---- Moving from an unhealthy attachment pattern toward a more secure connection with God

00:24:23 ---- Step one: learning to love yourself unconditionally

00:25:26 ---- The shofar's sounds (tekiah, shevarim, teruah) as a metaphor for inner emotional release

00:27:12 ---- "Back to the future" — becoming fuller, not returning to a former self

00:30:35 ---- Teshuvah as "a descent for the sake of an ascent"

00:34:12 ---- The difference between reunion and real repair — Rambam's stages of teshuvah

00:41:31 --- Controlled stress as models for growth

00:42:44 ---- Starting with the smallest possible action

00:43:48 ---- Practical example: rebuilding belief in God one tiny step at a time

00:45:22 ---- Finding an outside perspective to guide the process

00:45:48 ---- Secure attachment with God makes room for doubt

00:47:00 ---- Coming to God honestly, without whitewashing pain

00:48:31 ---- Needing secure human relationships first

00:52:13 ---- Reconciling a loving, all-seeing God with the felt experience of suffering

00:52:59 ---- Her stroke story; trusting there was a purpose in crisis

00:55:26 ---- Teshuvah creates something new, not a return to a childhood faith

00:56:52 ---- Holding childlike wonder within an adult relationship with God

00:58:23 ---- Using imagination and visualization to access sweetness

01:00:20 ---- What if your childhood has no sweet memories to draw from?

01:03:26 ---- Building everyday resilience through imaginal rehearsal

01:04:16 ---- Bringing our full, imperfect selves to God

01:06:40 ---- Avinu Malkeinu: God as both King and Father

01:07:25 ---- Closing question

01:08:01 ---- Host's outro

What is Rosh Hashanah, the birthday of the world, inviting us to? In this recording of our Human & Holy Rosh Hashanah event in LA, we sit with powerful Torah sources to look at the opportunity available right now to co-create a new year with G-d.

This episode explores why Rosh Hashanah is a relationship story, this time of year as a renewal of our capacity for choice, why being fully seen by Hashem can fill us with safety rather than dread, and why the mitzvah of the shofar has no single "right" sound, because the sound it's supposed to produce is whatever it produces in you.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00–01:44 Capacity for choice & waking up from sleep

01:45–03:56 Breath and the Shofar

03:57–07:25 Moving to a shorter line

07:26–07:53 Judgment or compassion?

07:54–12:09 Being fully seen by Hashem

12:19–14:07 What if you have a fear of being seen?

14:08–16:38 Teshuvah as ongoing relational repair

16:40–20:13 Hour by hour of the first day of creation

20:14–24:22 Ayeka: where are you?

24:41–29:36 What if.I bring no intention to Shofar?

29:37–30:16 Only the individual can say "You are my King"

32:31–35:15 What does the Shofar's sound produce in you?

So...how are we doing?

We're ringing in the new Jewish year with a Jewish State of the Union: where have we been this last year and where are we headed?

Today, I sit down with four people who each have a finger on a different pulse of Jewish life. ChayaLeah Sufrin, executive director of Beach Hillel and host of the Ask a Jew podcast, walks through the year's defining global stories, reflects on what this moment is asking of the Jewish people and gives us some predictions for the year ahead.

Comedian Chani Lisbon joins for a lighter, faster cultural check-in: why comedians are having a moment, what the whole Jewish world got obsessed with this year, and a rapid-fire round of "in or out" on everything from Pesach programs to WhatsApp statuses.

Rivki Rabinowitz, a beauty influencer and interior designer whose work has been featured in Architectural Digest, The Wall Street Journal and more, gives modest fashion the real trend report it deserves: what's replacing slip skirts, her one unforgivable fashion sin, and how she holds beauty and depth as the same thing, not opposites.

Closing with a brilliant bang is writer and culture shaper Mimi Hecht's reflections on language: why the term "Hashem" is having a comeback, why words like "healing" and "capacity" have worn thin, the return of words like service and collective, and why specificity is rising in our culture's choice of words.

Underneath every conversation, one thread kept showing up: this is the year where every Jew just wants to feel like a Yid.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00 Segment 1— ChayaLeah Sufrin: The Jewish Year in Review

00:03:31 The five biggest Jewish stories of the year

00:07:35 How to stay informed without living in fear

00:12:54 What is this moment asking of the Jewish people?

00:13:36 A worry people should let go of

00:16:16 What Israel needs from Diaspora Jews right now and vice versa

00:21:18 ChayaLeah's predictions for the new year

00:24:44 Young Jews seeking authentic, substantial Judaism

00:27:00 Segment 2 — Chani Lisbon: A Cultural State of the Union

00:27:59 Why comedians are having a cultural moment right now

00:29:16 Top cultural moment of the year

00:30:06 What everyone got obsessed with this year

00:32:43 Hot take: Why Chani doesn't want a "trendy" rabbi

00:36:15 Rapid-fire "In or Out": pickleball, WhatsApp status, and group tours to Kazakhstan

00:43:11 What people are actually craving

00:45:00 Segment 3 — Rivki Rabinowitz: The Modest Fashion Report

00:46:43 How social media made modest fashion mainstream and immediate

00:52:27 The current "modest girl uniform"

00:52:46 Fashion predictions for the year ahead

00:55:46 Modest makeovers by profile

00:57:01 Rapid-fire

01:00:12 Can aesthetics and depth coexist?

01:04:58 What modesty invites her into creatively

01:09:01 Segment 4: Mimi Hecht on the State of words

01:09:10 Returning to the word "Hashem"

01:15:02 Why we reached for substitute language in the first place

01:18:18 Choosing specific Jewish language as an act of confidence

01:19:34 Why is our culture tired of the word "healing"?

01:26:04 A generational shift in language from self-focus back toward giving

01:32:11 Rapid-fire "Replace the Word"

01:36:29 Defining Chassidic terms in plain language: neshama, mitzvah, and kelipah

01:45:02 Why the term Avodas Hashem makes Mimi emotional

01:46:55 Using words honestly

01:48:43 Host's Outro

Human & Holy is on a season break for the rest of the summer! During this time, we're airing your favorite moments from the past few seasons. This episode is an impactful moment extracted from the original conversation. Watch the episode in full here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-VuF9NwQt8o

Rebbetzin Rachel Jacobs built a Jewish community in Birmingham, UK from the ground up: a Chabad house, a Torah Tots nursery, a Hebrew school, and a role as the only Jewish studies teacher in a school of 160 students. In this excerpt, we explore what happens when you feel called to build something and no one shows up, and how she learned to measure success by relationships instead of numbers. Rachel shares the Torah teaching that convinced her to start a Hebrew school with just six kids, and what it felt like years later watching those same kids read fluently from the Torah at their own bar and bat mitzvahs. A conversation about faith, community building, Jewish education, and redefining what success actually means.

Rachel Jacobs, originally from Los Angeles, California, currently serves as Rebbetzin of Singers Hill Synagogue in Birmingham, England. She is also the Educational Director of the Torah Tots nursery school, the Cheder, and the Jewish studies program at the local King David Primary School. Over the past 20 years, Rachel has gained recognition as an inspiring Jewish speaker, with a particular focus on women’s issues and marriage. Her warmth, charisma, and insightful teachings have touched the lives of Jewish women across the United States and Europe. You can contact Rachel via [email protected] and on instagram @Rachelcjacobs.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — The ache of being called to something and hearing crickets back

00:23 — Rachel on the early, hardest days of building a Chabad house

04:03 — The real question underneath it all: are we measuring success by numbers?

04:21 — Starting Torah Tots with six kids: "affecting children from a young age is infinite"

05:41 — The reality now: down to two kids, and showing up anyway

05:53 — Called into King David School as the lone Jewish voice for 11 students among 160

07:35 — Leading through bureaucracy and red tape: "you have to go back to your why"

09:23 — Redefining the metric of success: deep impact on one person over reach to many

09:50 — Rachel's husband and the minyan he shows up for every night, no matter the count

12:53 — The Torah source that named her calling: Matos Masei and the tribes who chose to build

12:54 — Starting Cheder Club with five boys and one girl

14:56 — Years later: those same kids reading fluently from the Torah at their bar and bat mitzvahs

16:04 — "It's the positivity. People want to be part of success."

16:14 — Outro

Human & Holy is on a season break for the rest of the summer! During this time, we're airing your favorite moments from the past few seasons. Watch the original episode in full here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhnlNd2zd2w

In this excerpt from a past episode with Devori Nussbaum, we explore healing a blocked heart, rooted in Tanya and Chassidic thought. We explore why arrogance and honesty are opposites, the Torah's real definition of humility, and the difference between grief and depression. Devori shares how the animal soul keeps us "small, safe, and in control" and the exact language for asking G-d for help from wherever you honestly are, not where you think you should be. If you've been feeling numb, disconnected, or far from Hashem, this episode is a way back in.

Devori is an integrative psychotherapist who has trained in many different healing modalities including body psychotherapy, imago therapy, logotherapy, the energetics of food, quantum touch, breathwork, CBT, NLP, EMDR, IFS, inner child work and somatic modalities. She is also passionate about teaching Chassidus in a way that is accessible, relevant and embodied, showing people that these teachings are not just nice ideas, but a description of our reality. Get in touch with Devori and find out more about her work on www.devorinussbaum.com.

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TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 — The antidote to the desire to be "transformed"

0:15 — Presencing your block: how to begin when you feel numb or disconnected

1:09 — Why honesty is what unlocks connection to Hashem

1:40 — The Tanya's teaching on the oneness of God and the kelipah (shell) of separation

2:57 — Pain vs. suffering: the difference between what hurts and the story we tell about it

4:08 — The void as a portal: Ayin (nothingness) as the source of infinite potential

5:09 — Bringing G-d's presence into your darkness: how tears open the way to joy

5:30 — The classic teaching: "To open hearts, to know what one sees and hears"

6:59 — Seeing past people's defenses to "the light behind their eyes"

8:22 — Living in constant one-on-one conversation with G-d

9:14 — Why we judge the external shell before we ever see the soul underneath

10:22 — The frequency of oneness: hearing it like a heartbeat, an undercurrent

11:49 — Clearing the noise: expanding your capacity to notice the sacred in ordinary things

13:31 — Where blocked hearts really come from: unacknowledged grief

14:12 — Grief, attachment, and learning to move through the seasons of life

17:25 — Is being present with pain against Jewish values?

17:56 — Merirut vs. atzvut: the Tanya's distinction between grief and depression

19:26 — Moving through the cycle of grief back into joy

21:41 — "Ask for help from where you actually are"

23:04 — Arrogance and honesty as opposites, and what true humility actually means

24:00 — Moshe Rabbeinu, humility, and the honesty of naming your own greatness

25:28 — "Small, safe, and in control": the animal soul's real agenda

26:26 — Living from the divine soul: success and failure as opportunities, not identity

28:20 — The real cost of letting go of an identity you've outgrown

30:22 — Peeling away the layers: why every threshold in life asks you to release something

31:51 — Closing thoughts

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In this excerpt, we discuss why being "chosen" isn't a status, but a responsibility to model moral clarity for a world that's lost it. Why the Lubavitcher Rebbe called Shabbos candles a campaign, a mitzvah, an army, and why that language matters more after October 7th than it ever has before. Why the Haggadah spends almost no time on our slavery and nearly all of it on our freedom, and what that says about the story we choose to live inside of right now. This is an episode about the difference between reporting on darkness and building light, and why Inbal chooses the second one, every single day.

Inbal Levin is a writer, former fashion model, and social media director for Chabad on Campus. You can connect with her via instagram @itsinbal.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Being chosen means holding up a mirror

07:21 — The Seven Noahide Laws and moral clarity for everyone

09:02 — The Baal Shem Tov's answer to "Moshiach, when are you coming?"

11:24 — Trusting Hashem in the long security line and the delayed flight

14:15 — How every Jewish girl, age three and up, started lighting Shabbos candles

18:03 — The menorah they wouldn't let into Auschwitz

20:14 — Why the Rebbe used military language for mitzvahs

23:25 — Choosing to build light instead of reporting on darkness

26:15 — What Dara Horn's People Love Dead Jews gets right

26:56 — The Rebbe never said the word "antisemitism": what the Haggadah teaches about what you choose to emphasize

30:53 — Closing thought: you're not just living a story, you're choosing which one it is

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This excerpt with Chanie Krasnianski explores the Jewish view on sexual intimacy and marriage. We explore the soul-level magnetism between men and women that is sourced in the creation of the world, and talk honestly about the lived experience: what it means when attraction shows up outside your marriage, why halacha starts to feel like a checklist the second you lose the relationship underneath it, and what it looks like to reclaim the mikvah as an immersion into light instead of one more item on the list.

We also sit in the places that don't resolve as cleanly: religious guilt, growing spiritually at a different pace than your spouse, wanting closeness during niddah and not always getting it, and navigating personal discomfort around immersion in the mikvah.

Mrs. Chanie Krasnianski is the shlucha in the Upper East Side in Manhattan, NY and a seasoned educator and Torah teacher. Contact Chanie at [email protected].

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00:00 — The soul-level reason for attraction between husband and wife

04:05 — Attraction outside your marriage: where it's really coming from

07:23 — Halacha as relationship, not checklist

10:32 — When the framework feels restricting, not freeing

12:44 — "We're human, not angels"

13:58 — Trust in Hashem, and the mikvah as immersion into light

20:18 — Bare minimum vs. growing on purpose

22:11 — Why halacha is freedom, not restriction

24:16 — Body image and privacy at the mikvah

26:30 — The headstand story

29:18 — Checking in with yourself when you won't call a rabbi

30:35 — Why none of us are objective about our own lives

37:53 — Calling a rabbi on a different continent — privacy and permission

40:05 — Religious guilt and "you're not your spouse's rabbi"

43:30 — Growing faster than your spouse — baby steps, not pressure

47:07 — When you're the one resisting your spouse's growth

48:49 — Your spouse as your mirror — the Adam-and-Eve reframe

50:49 — Does absence really make the heart grow fonder?

52:25 — Marriage as decades of weather

55:49 — Closing reflection and outro

Human & Holy is on a season break for the rest of the summer! During this time, we're airing your favorite moments from the past few seasons.

In this excerpt, Shternie describes the way she moves through the world: not with a basket she guards, protecting what's "owed" to her, but with an empty one, open-handed, saying thank you every time something lands in it.

Shternie Rosenfeld went through what she calls her own tsunami: a devastating divorce that cracked her open completely. In this conversation, she shares what actually got her through: a relationship with Hashem that is raw, honest, and full of open gratitude.

We talk about the difference between feeling entitled to goodness and feeling worthy of it and about how gratitude isn't whitewashing our pain, but allowing it to live in the same body that is screaming, grieving, and being honest with G-d.

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Shternie Rosenfeld has spent more than 25 years in Jewish education and community leadership, teaching everyone from preschoolers to seniors. She spent 15 years as director of the Chabad Fox Chapel Jewish Center, building its Hebrew School, summer camp, and adult education programs from the ground up. She went on to found The Jewish Spark, a nonprofit running weekly Kabbalah classes and community Shabbat and holiday programming, and now serves as Program Director of the Yonah Foundation, where she supports 38 community centers worldwide and empowers women to lead Torah classes globally. She has also taught at Yeshiva Schools, Hillel Academy, and Tzohar Seminary. Find out more at shternie.com

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00:00 — What got her through divorce

02:16 — Talking to Hashem like a best friend

03:55 — A real relationship, not a performed one

05:02 — Seeing kindness as Hashem's hand

05:40 — The basket metaphor

10:36 — Entitlement vs. worthiness

11:41 — What to do when you feel shortchanged

13:54 — Gratitude in the tiny things

15:08 — Modeh Ani as the daily reset

16:40 — The Torah source on what is owed to us

18:29 — Is gratitude ever dishonest?

19:28 — "There's room for both"

20:40 — Day by day

22:41 — Marriage as a mirror for Hashem

23:30 — Outro

Human & Holy is on a season break for the rest of the summer! During this time, we're airing your favorite moments from the past few seasons.

How do you instill Jewish values from a young age, while leaving space for a child to grow into them on their own? In this conversation, we talk about why Judaism has to start as routine for young children before it becomes relationship, why “yes, unless you have a value to say no” changes everything with a teenager, the importance of physical touch in raising healthy children, and why mourning openly when our children's religious choices look differently than ours do can do real damage, even when it comes from love. This is a conversation about giving our children strong roots in their Judaism, and navigating the evolution from childhood to adulthood, as they begin to make their own choices in their relationship with G-d.

Chani Heyman is a dynamic parenting coach, motivational speaker, educator, and Torah teacher who's passionate about empowering families to thrive. Originally from Los Angeles, Chani now calls Israel home. With a background rooted in the timeless wisdom of Rebbetzin Spetner and her own experiences as a mother of eight, Chani shares practical and inspiring guidance with parents worldwide.Through her engaging group classes, popular parenting column, and vibrant Instagram community @parentingwithchani, Chani sparks meaningful connections and helps families unlock their full potential. Find out more at https://theparentingclub.info.

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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 How to build Yiddishkeit routines that feel as natural as brushing teeth

01:06 Building the routine: start at the smallest sustainable level

06:24 The teen shift

09:13 Foundation vs. peer pressure

10:45 The reframe: “Yes, unless you have a value to say no”

11:38 Choosing your battles

12:49 “Copy paste” — are we raising kids to replicate our table, or to be halachically their own person?

14:41 Finding a rav to define the lowest level that is still 100% halacha — the loose-fitting-pants story

16:44 When your child doesn't look like you

17:44 Is “because it would make my mother happy” a legitimate motivation for a teen’s mitzvah observance?

21:43 Why building the habit before the meaning arrives is so much easier than trying to build both at once at 20

22:17 Parental fear and projection

22:34 For ba’alei teshuva parents specifically — “I’m trying to give you what I didn’t have,” and why force backfires

23:33 Beyond 100% halacha — what it looks like when a child’s practice truly diverges

25:36 “Keep your relationship strong”

27:03 The sapling-and-tree image

28:17 The emotional baseline — what it is, and why it differs by age

28:26 Ten minutes of true one-on-one time

30:33 For teens: it’s not about the ten minutes, it’s about being available the moment they want you

32:15 Modeling adult relationships

33:37 Physical touch as an emotional need

35:40 The mother who couldn’t remember the last time she’d touched her 19-year-old son

38:45 Host's Outro

Human & Holy is on a season break for the rest of the summer! During this time, we're airing your favorite moments from the past few seasons.

In today's excerpt with Jackie Glaser, we cover spiritual bypassing, noticing the patterns that keep showing up in our lives, cultivating self-worth and self-trust, navigating rejection, our flaws as filters while dating, recognizing that matchmakers do not have control over people's future when navigating the shidduch system, and strengthening our trust in God.

To watch the full episode this excerpt is from, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=243HxQfOx9E

To contact Jackie or learn more about her courses, you can find her at jackieglaser.com or find Jackie on Instagram: datingbyjackieg

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TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 Spiritual bypassing

2:04 How our patterns are signposts from Hashem, not punishments

3:07 Why we avoid taking responsibility, and turn anxiety into blaming Hashem instead

5:27 Going inward with compassionate curiosity instead of judgment

7:11 Turning to G-d as an escape hatch

7:21 Normalizing the pattern before moving forward

9:08 Self-trust as the real foundation behind who you marry

9:17 The somatic work begins: tuning into the body as a source of real data

12:45 Surrendering

14:23 Clearing subconscious blockage to make more room for closeness with Hashem

16:13 How our internal beliefs get projected onto strangers

17:35 Why healing the felt state dissolves the belief system underneath it

18:58 How the fear of rejection actually dissolves with this work

20:42 "I reject myself" — the most important relationship you'll ever build is with you

22:23 Disability or flaws as a filter in dating, not a disqualifier

24:05 Boundaries with matchmakers

25:44 When parents choose to "play the game" with a difficult shadchan for their child's sake

26:27 Hashem was never limited to a shadchan