Hi everyone! Welcome back to another episode of The Chai on Life Podcast. I’m Alex Segal and today, I am speaking with Merissa Gross, a shadchan, or matchmaker, extraordinaire.

Merissa is a ball of energy, just so much fun to be around with is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to dating.

This is a full raw, real, tachlis conversation. We really get into it. Even though I’ve interviewed other dating experts on the podcasts, I think this one is the most insightful in terms of the behind-the-scenes aspect that happens for a matchmaker. She does not hold back — she shares it all with stories and details so even if you’re not currently in the dating scene, this is an interesting one to listen to.

We speak about:

-Her day-to-day schedule and what goes into working with a couple

-How she sets parameters around who she sets up

-How the payment system works with her and other shadchanim — this was really interesting to see how it’s evolved

-How she decides who to pair up — if it really is a gut feeling or there is a system

-Addressing mistakes matchmakers make and clearing up misconceptions about the reputation so many unfortunately get

-Why you may feel frustrated with the matches that you’re getting

-How to make the best impression at a meeting with a matchmaker

-What to do if you feel like you’re not getting the best matches and how she has handled certain situations

-Red flags to look out for in dating

-The concept of settling versus not

-How to know when you’re ready to get engaged and what that feels like

...and sooo much more.

As you can see from that list, we cover A LOT of ground and even if you’re married, this is a super engaging conversation to listen in on just from a place of personal interest and as a way to help any single friends find THEIR match.

If you'd like to get in touch with Merissa, you can email her at [email protected]

When email is not possible: Israel work only number, which includes WhatsApp: 058.500.8820 

Official work hours: 9am-3pm IST