Episode 71

You have a legal document that says it is over. That does not mean you are actually divorced. Adam Nugent has been divorced nearly eight years. In this solo episode he shares that he felt divorced for the first time just a few weeks ago, and what it took to get there. If your ex still triggers you, if you still feel the pull, if there is still a reaction when her name comes up, the real divorce has not happened yet. The document divided the assets. It did not touch the part of you that is still outsourcing your worth to how she sees you. He holds up the mirror. Everyone wants to point the finger. He did this. She did that. Pointing it at her is the easy part. The painful part is turning it around and asking what role you played. What you brought. What you withheld. What you let slide for years. He shares the client whose real fight was never with his wife or her family, but with the version of himself who showed up in the marriage. He shares his own realization, that a piece of his worth was still tied to how his ex-wife sees him eight years later, and what it finally took to let that go. This one covers the inner dialogue that runs during a divorce, why accountability is one of the most attractive qualities a man can have, the difference between a real boundary and one you keep letting people cross, and the circle of people who will keep you locked in victim mode if you let them. You are not just divorcing her. You are divorcing the version of yourself you are no longer willing to be. Send Adam the word REBUILD on Instagram — @adamnugent — if this is where you are right now. Most coaches talk about transformation. I have lived it in the most public way possible. I built a firm to $1.4 billion in assets under management and lost it publicly. I was forced to file for bankruptcy. I survived divorce and heartbreak. I shed more than 145 pounds. Everything I had built my identity around was gone. Under the weight of all of it I came closer to the edge than most men will ever admit. What came out of that darkness was a man with nothing left to hide behind and nothing left to lose. That man built Burn Up. I now work with men who have built everything that was supposed to feel like success and still feel the weight of something they cannot name. My credibility comes from having lived every word of it. Freedom is in the fire.

The Burn Up Podcast is built for men who have lived something real or are living it right now. Every conversation pulls back the curtain on what it actually costs to build something, lose it, and come back stronger. No highlight reel. No performance. Just the truth.

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Website: https://burnup.com

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