Realising you're no longer attracted to your partner can be scary, worrying and all too consuming.  You start getting stuck in your head, overthinking and catastrophising. Stay in it too long and you get into an emergency response and the fight and flight response takes over.  Before you know it, you’ve moved out, in a rental and have started a new life.

For starters let’s slow down, right down. For some of you, the lack of attraction can be a phase and for others, it may mean the heart has left.

Stopping long enough to be with this, not in your head but in your heart and gut.  7 Steps to exploring attraction will support you to go inward and to begin finding some answers within yourself.  And it's having trust and being vulnerable. The desire to reawaken the spark in you and your relationship begins with a choice followed very closely by assertive communication.