STOP letting others define you!  We are so easy to accept other people's definitions of who we are.  If I'm more than a size 10 I'm, "Plus Size"- how come I'm not "normal size" and the smaller sizes aren't "Under Size".  Or better yet, how about it doesn't fucking matter?!?!  Just because I'm divorced doesn't mean my family is broken.  It was a hell of a lot more broken when we were married.  We let terms like this define us and we become so triggered by them.  What if we let go of all of that and just lived how we want to live by our own terms and definitions?