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You’re Not Broken: Healing Birth Trauma and Learning to Feel Safe Again

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Hi, love. If you’ve ever walked away from birth feeling grateful your baby is healthy, but deeply shaken inside, this episode is for you.

In You’re Not Broken: Healing Birth Trauma and Learning to Feel Safe Again, we explore what actually happens in your nervous system after a traumatic birth, why it can feel impossible to “just be grateful,” and how your body’s survival responses are not signs of weakness, they’re proof that your system is still trying to protect you.

You’ll learn the difference between emotional trauma and physical safety, how birth trauma can silence joy and connection, and why understanding your biology brings so much compassion and relief. We’ll talk about somatic healing, IFS-informed emotional work, and the small, body-based practices that help you begin to feel safe again, because your nervous system isn’t broken. It’s just waiting for safety to return.

If you’ve been feeling numb, disconnected, or haunted by your birth story, you’re not alone. Healing is possible, and your body remembers how.

Today We’re Talking About:
  • What birth trauma really is (and how it differs from the “hard birth” narrative)

  • How the amygdala, stress hormones, and fight-flight-freeze response shape your postpartum experience

  • Why “just be grateful” invalidates trauma, and what to say instead

  • The role of neuroplasticity in healing the maternal brain

  • How co-regulation and safe relationships help the nervous system recover

  • Practical ways to calm your body after birth trauma using breath, grounding, and gentle movement

  • Tools from IFS therapy, EMDR, and somatic experiencing for deeper integration

  • The truth about grief after birth: mourning what was lost while loving what you have

    • Whether your birth looked “perfect” on paper or completely spiraled out of control, whether you’re months postpartum or years down the road, this episode will help you understand what your body’s been trying to tell you all along:

    You’re not broken, you’re healing.
    And your nervous system knows the way home.

    Let’s do this, mama.


    Warmly, 

    Dina

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    Here with You, MamaBy Dina Tamres