There’s a specific kind of frustration that shows up for high-capacity leaders.

You know what you want.
You’ve thought it through.
You’ve made the decision consciously.

And yet… you still hesitate.
You still circle the same choice.
You still feel slower than you “should” be.

In this episode, I name what’s actually happening and it’s not procrastination, fear, or self-sabotage.

It’s something I call identity lag.

Identity lag happens when your life starts moving faster than your nervous system can comfortably integrate. Your mind may be clear, but your body is still catching up to who you’re becoming.

In this conversation, I share:

Why feeling “stuck” is often a sign of integration, not failure

How high-capacity leaders experience identity lag more intensely

The difference between intuition and nervous system stress

Why clarity isn’t always the missing piece — and what actually is

How shifting from self-monitoring to leadership and contribution can unlock movement again

I also share personal stories from my own life — moments when everything was aligned on paper, yet my nervous system reacted with hesitation and fatigue right before stepping into something meaningful.

If you’ve ever told yourself:

“I should be past this by now”

“Why does this feel harder than it should?”

“What’s wrong with me?”

This episode is here to gently take the pressure off.

Nothing is wrong with you.
You’re not behind.
Your system may simply be integrating a new level of responsibility, visibility, or truth.

And that deserves support — not force.

If this episode resonates, I’d love to hear from you.
Send me a message on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook or leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts to help this work reach more leaders who need it.

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