It's not only kids who engage in this struggle for control, surprisingly adults at every stage of life do as well.  When that wrestling match roils in a relationship it can be destructive--at the least a source of constant friction.  Alvean and Doug talk about the ways in which fights over money, sex, parenting and other issues are really sublimations of control issues.  For a full transcript of the episode, click here: LL24-You're not the Boss of Me