You're Too Picky | Dating, Relationships, Millennial Women

Feeling like dating is a second job you never applied for? You're not imagining it. In this crossover episode pulled from Ellyn’s Burnout Proof podcast, we’re diving deep into what it means to date from a place of exhaustion, disillusionment, and straight-up emotional whiplash.

This one’s for the single women who are done pretending dating apps are fun. If you’ve ever forced yourself to swipe when you knew you weren’t in the headspace… if you've jumped into something because you were lonely and then ignored your gut… if you've lost hope after too many “almosts”—this episode will feel like a warm hug and a wake-up call.

🔥 In This Episode:

• Why “hope fatigue” is the realest part of modern dating

• What dating from burnout actually looks and feels like

• The emotional toll of gamified apps, ghosting, and superficial swipes

• How Ellyn’s learning to take breaks, protect her energy, and trust her gut (finally)

If being “too picky” means protecting your peace and refusing to date from depletion… then yeah, stay picky.

New episodes drop every Friday. Share this one with a fellow dating app dropout or your friend who’s one bad date away from deleting Hinge for good.

This one’s fresh off a 2000s dance party—and I’ve got a hot take for the men still standing on the sidelines. If you've ever looked around the club and thought, “Why do all these men look like they were dragged here against their will?”—same, babe.

In this episode, we’re calling B.S. on the so-called male loneliness epidemic and unpacking what women are actually tired of: doing all the emotional labor while men lurk in the shadows with zero effort and even less energy.

🔥 We’re talking:

• Why effort > rhythm

• Why “I’m just not a dancer” isn’t an excuse for being boring

• Why the problem isn’t loneliness—it’s entitlement without effort

You want connection? Then get out of the corner. Smile. Engage. Try.
Because we’re done dragging grown men to the dance floor.

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📩 Got a story, rant, or app fail? Submit it here: youretoopicky.com/submit
🎤 Too Picky Hotline (voice notes + chaos welcome): Same link!
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If being picky means expecting effort and basic social energy, I’ll stay picky.

Why would a 36-year-old high-achieving solopreneur—who’s definitely still single—start a dating and relationships podcast? In this very first episode of You're Too Picky, Ellyn gets radically honest about her own dating history, insecurities, and the real reasons she's launching this pod.

From body image battles and shame around sex to a decade of workaholism and app burnout, this is the unfiltered backstory to why dating’s been on the back burner… and why that’s finally changing.

This isn’t expert advice. It’s real, relatable, and refreshingly honest storytelling for every woman who’s been told she’s “too picky,” “too independent,” or “too much.”

🔥 In This Episode:

• Why being the “single friend” became part of Ellyn’s identity

• Dating with body shame and a toxic relationship with sex

• How hustle culture and burnout sabotaged her dating life

• Why dating apps drain her introvert battery—and what she’s trying instead

• The reframes she’s using to fall in love with dating again

Welcome to the very first episode of the You’re Too Picky podcast—the dating podcast for women who are done pretending their standards are the problem.

In this kickoff episode, your host Ellyn (coach, creator, and certified dating app survivor) breaks down the myth of being "too picky"—what it really means, who gets to say it, and why that label might actually be a badge of honor.

We’re talking:

• Why “too picky” is usually code for “you won’t settle”

• The difference between clarity and control

• When high standards are rooted in self-worth—and when they might be fear in disguise

• Sneak peeks at upcoming segments like “Red Flag or Nah?”, the “Too Picky Hotline,” and “Dating App Fails”

• Why this isn’t a fixer podcast—and why that’s exactly the point

  
  

If you’ve ever ghosted someone for weird shoes (hi, same), questioned your standards, or felt like no one around you gets it—this podcast is your new favorite group chat.

📩 Submit your dating stories: https://www.coachellyn.com/submissions
📲 Follow us on Instagram @youretoopicky
🎧 New episodes drop every Friday—come be picky with us.

Welcome to You’re Too Picky 🥂✨ — the dating podcast for women who are tired of shrinking themselves to find love.

Hosted by Ellyn Schinke, this show is where we laugh at the chaos of modern dating, roast bad dating app bios, debate "red flag or nah," and call BS on the idea that having standards is a flaw.

🎙️ New episodes drop every Friday — because dating apps are unhinged, but we’re not.

Come for the rants. Stay for the solidarity. 🩷

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