I registered the domain - ZoomingOut.com - on May 22, 2004. It had nothing to do with photography - or my video conferencing platform of choice. Instead, it was focused on our attempt to see a bigger picture as a means of seeing the finer details. There never was a website at that address. I still own the domain, although it's been for sale at a fairly high price for a while. I'm not anxious to sell it or get rid of it, but a person can only actually use so many domains and I already have too many (even though I've gone through one major purge about 2 years ago). I suppose I'm due another purging.

Zooming Out was a phrase I first wrote down in early 2004 for reasons I don't remember. My best recall is people were likely talking about narrowing in on things and that whole inability to see the forest for the trees was something I've battled in others all my life. While I'm very detail-oriented, I've mostly been frustrated by folks who can get intensely focused on the bark on a tree that they're unable to see anything larger. It was my experience with such types that caused me to craft a sentence that I've lived by professionally for much of my life - "If everything is important, then nothing is important." In other words, if we're not able to prioritize and acknowledge that at this moment, something is more important than anything else, then we'll chase every tangent that comes along deluded into thinking it all matters equally. I've never found any situation in life - personally or professionally - where that's true.

I’ve spent countless hours trying to help myself and others look at the bigger puzzle that we're all trying to put together. My conviction - and experience - have proven that knowing we're attempting to assemble a 1000 piece puzzle of a seascape can help us better figure out where any single specific piece may fit. And that's largely how we may be able to best figure things out, including ourselves.

In the mid to late 80s a Ph.D. consultant in San Francisco named Jan Halpern wrote a book based on research she had done about successful men. The book was entitled, "Quiet Desperation: The Truth About Successful Men." I've still got my copy and think of the book often - so much so, I'll pick it up pretty regularly to go back through various sections of it.

On page 49 is a section titled, "QUESTIONING THE ETERNAL TRUTHS." Sure, it's a bit click baity - written before the Internet and clicks were even a thing - but she makes some grand points.

She writes...

There are many intellectual and emotional barriers that must be broken through, reevaluated and discarded before you can become comfortable in your own skin. I suggest you begin to question the messages and premises you have been raised with that prevent you from knowing your private self. By challenging these "eternal" truths, many have come to reject the notion that men don't feel. Moreover, doing so has helped them to alleviate the haunting emptiness and confusion that plagued their moments of solitude.

Let me make an allowance here that while the author's research was specifically on successful men, much of it has a broader application.

It began as a market research project in 1977 and wound up involving some four thousand men who operated within leadership roles of Fortune 500 companies. Even the author acknowledges in the preface of the book that it could apply to some women, but she focused on men. And I'm not so interested in the details of her research for today's show - or the fact that it's solely about men. I'm coming at it in true Zooming Out fashion looking at a bigger, broader picture of all of us - as humans.

After all, here were are in 2022 at a place I never thought we'd be. A place where people can't or are afraid to even define what it is to be a woman (see Matt Walsh's appearance on The Dr. Phil Show).