Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you heard yourself say, " I can't believe they would do that?". Well, it happens, often when we least expect it. Betrayal is a fact of life and unfortunately, when so many are driven by fear, it happens just as often in the workplace.
Whether it was a confidence shared, a project executed, or a personal betrayal, the initial effects are the same- denial and anger. Once you are able to acknowledge these emotions, you can begin the most important chapter of this "life lesson"- what can I learn about MYSELF?
When we consider that every relationship we have with others in some way reflects our beliefs about ourselves, then even disappointments such as these can make sense.
Here are a few key questions to ask yourself:
Am I too trusting?
Did I have a blind spot to this persons behavior?
Was I ignoring the "signs" that pointed to questionable trust?
Did I spend more time "fixing" or "fighting" the situation than was needed?
Did I get a "gut feeling" at any time that I ignored!
When you choose to look at the situation with eyes wide open,
willing to see what you might have missed,
then the learning becomes easier. No one is perfect- including you.
And you know what? That is really okay.