This episode holds some of my most powerful epiphanies ever; a must listen if you are no stranger to self sabotage.

I dedicate this episode to the Universal Members of House Of Jazz Company.

"If we know the recipe, we can change the recipe."

Listen to this episode if you have a hard time dreaming or believing in yourself, or if either of these experiences make you feel unsafe.

Imposter Syndrome & Self-Sabotage = Protection.

When you experience trauma, your mind, body, and heart remember it, and your mind’s job is to keep you safe. Trauma (of course) is unsafe, so your mind is going to remember all trauma and go ‘I’m going to make sure we never experience that again’. This is my definition of Self-Sabotage. 

Upon experiencing any sort of trauma, your mind’s perception is going to be incredibly biased. It's now going to perceive almost anything even remotely close to your previously traumatic or unsafe experience as unsafe or dangerous (a threat). Self-Sabotage effectively ruins the potential of a positive experience to escape the risk of the fact that it could become negative experience (as it once was).

We are adding meaning to everything, and usually the wrong meanings, when those meanings are not there.

Self-Sabotage is protection, because your mind is so determined to make sure you never feel the way you once felt, that it will run the risk of sabotaging something potentially beautiful and healthy just in case one day it’s not. Unfortunately, the experience that was traumatic for us in the first place was never about us, so in a lot of ways, the trauma that was created was manifested because of the misplacement of meaning that we attach to these experiences.

Criticism was once unsafe, which is why we’re so ready to accept criticism, because it makes hearing it 'safe'.

Those that don’t know how to take a compliment don’t feel safe believing in themselves.

In order to curb and heal Self-Sabotage, no only do we need to recognise that its a form of protection, we need to recognise that the experience it originated from never had anything to do with us in the first place. We must dare to heal on an emotional level, not just a mental, rational, or logical level.

Self-Sabotage is the ineffective proposed solution to past trauma.

Self-Sabotage is the right intention; wrong action. Its intention is to protect you, its action ruins everything in its path.

"If you teach me that I can’t, I will spend the rest of my life believing that I can’t, even when I can. If you teach me that I can, I will spend the rest of my life believing that I can, and that will be the reason that I do."

What do you think?