Inside Out Theory

This one is messy. 

I needed to speak through some thoughts so I could find clarity. 

I didn’t have the answers, but I find them.

Yes, it gets emotional. 

I talk about singing, my ‘dream’ show, the fear of creating your own work, rejection, the grief that comes with growth, feeling too big or too much for this world, the need to be chosen, picking yourself, and so much more. 

This is a lesson in vulnerability.

Enjoy.

C x

This episode is based on questions and queries that came up during one to one sessions that I just thought were too invaluable not to share. 

Here are the questions we discover together, in real time:: 

“What did I train for? I’m afraid of wasting or running out of time.”

It’s important to note that you’ve all been taught the same tools, yet you’re all a very different machine…

You were trained skills, but you weren’t trained on how to be you. 

We fear afraid of running out of time when we’re not focusing on the right things. 

If you’re afraid of wasting time, you probably are…. ooooooofff.

“Who do you want to be? The one who has everything that everyone else wants, or the one that has everything you want?” 

There is more than one way to win this game…

“I’m lost.”

You can’t be found until you’re first once lost. 

Have a listen. It’s a gooder.

I dedicate this to anyone and everyone who has ever joined me for a one to one. 

C x

This episode is based on questions and queries that came up during one to one sessions that I just thought were too invaluable not to share. 

Here are the questions we discover together, in real time:

“I don’t feel like I’m disciplined enough to deserve getting a job, and I’m not putting in the work.”

You don’t necessarily need to change what ow how you’re training, but the intention behind your training needs to change. You’re putting in the work, you may just not putting in the right work. 

Please remember that we’re all participating in this industry in a different way, for different reasons, with different intentions. Which, fundamentally, will mean there are many different definitions of success.

“I haven’t changed or grown enough.”

You are conditionally (instead of unconditionally) loving yourself. Reward the action, not the outcome.

“What did I train for? I’m afraid of wasting or running out of time.”

This one is a monologue… just tune in. 

Have a listen. It’s a gooder.

I dedicate this episode to anyone and everyone who has ever joined me for a one to one session. 

C x

This episode is based on questions and queries that came up during one to one sessions that I just thought were too invaluable not to share. 

Here are the questions we discover together, in real time:

“How do I define my vision?”

You’re struggling to define your vision because you’re trying to to define it, not discover it…..

“How do I feel strong enough to not feel scared of success?”

Your strength comes from admitting that you’re afraid…

“How do I force myself to be successful?”

The more you you are, the more successful you’ll feel.

“How do I make creative work pay?”

Not being paid doesn’t make you a failure.

“To become successful feels like an uphill battle.”

You’re doing a million things to distract yourself from acknowledging the fact that you’re not doing the one thing you’re meant to do. You do this so you don’t feel like you’re just ‘coasting’ through life. This is how we avoid feeling mediocre, when in reality, doing a million things instead of one thing is how we become mediocre. 

Have a listen. It’s a good one.

I dedicate this episode to anyone and everyone who has ever joined me for a one to one session. 

C x

Somewhere in the midst of a rant about the power of Taylor Swift, following the first viewing of the Barbie film, came a free flowing diary entry where I discovered what it means to be free within the pursuit of true and utter fulfilment, which eventually became this episode.

Honestly, strap in.

Some highlights to note:

Being your best isn’t consistent, which was discovered when I reflected on the journey I went on from 'needing to be the best', to 'I'll just be my best', to ‘you’re probably not at your best if you’re always at your best, because you've stopped growing'. In fact, maybe there is no best, there's just whole or not whole.

I also reflect on the consistent struggle of being ‘too much’ for people, and how the fear of not being my whole self is now more terrifying than the opinions of other people, which is freeing in itself.

Last but not least: “The only way to experience true, internal fulfilment, is to be full.” Chew on that one for a while (insert brain-exploding emoji here).

C x

One of the best pieces of advice that I ever got was, 'They always hire the right person for the job, not necessarily the best person for the job."

Nothing outside of us can heal something that was created on the inside. If it was created on the inside, it has to be healed from the inside. Therefor, nothing outside of us will ever make us feel like we’re good enough.

How can I have ownership over what I already do really well? Is fulfilment a simple matter of knowing you’re the only person who could do it? Not to everyone... but I think it is to me.

Your superpower is the one thing that, if discovered and practiced with ownership, will lead you to the people places and things that will provide you with the sense of fulfilment you’ve been searching for. 

We often discount our superpower(s) because we’re too busy wanting something else that, at the end of the day, isn’t actually a superpower, it’s a skill. We also discount and downplay our superpowers because a superpower is natural. But because it’s so natural and easy, we don’t feel like it’s anything special because we didn’t spend out blood sweat and tears cultivating it.  

Perhaps the path to fulfilment is honing your superpower. 

There is a lot of reflection in this episode. This is the episode I most needed to hear, so maybe it will be similar for you too. I think fulfilment comes from being fully YOU.

Your thoughts are always welcome...

C x

In this episode, we speak about a new way of approaching your relationship with the thought or belief ‘I’m not good enough’. We offer a new perspective, a new way of combating this belief, which is, to simply not allow it into your thoughts at all. Completely minimise it from your thought process at all. Confused? Too good to be true? Have a listen, because I think we’ve been sold a ‘solution’ that kind of feels like fighting fire with fire…

This may be my most vulnerable episode yet.

I won't say much here. Just, have a listen.

A passage I wrote in NYC in March 2023...

"In order to fail, you must fully commit and invest in what you're doing. I don't think it's possible to 'fail' at something you don't care about, because if you care, in theory, you're fully invested and committed to it. And if you're afraid of failing, you will be default avoid failing by not fully investing or committing. Therefor, it's impossible to 'fail' at something you don't truly care about, because the sheer act of avoiding failure makes it impossible to fail. In order to fail, you must fully commit and invest in what you're doing, and by doing that, any sort of failure should be celebrated as a bi-product of fully commitment and investment.

You can't be 'the best' because we're artists, and art is subjective. Therefor, people's opinions of 'the best's is also subjective, which makes you chasing to be 'the best' futile and pointless.

My acting teacher has told me time and time again to not be a transportation system. What I've realised is, the reason why it's so much easier for me to champion and cheer you on and not myself is because there's no risk. I don't run the risk of failure, you do. But I know you will succeed. It's very easy for me to know that. And what's even better (and worse) is when you do succeed, as you inevitably will, I get to feel successful, because my work helped, or rather my help worked."

C x

After another rant about Imposter Syndrome, "The one thing that makes you 'think' you’re an imposter is the one thing that fundamentally makes you not," we continue on with our discussion on jealousy and how it comes to rear its ugly head. 

I believe that we’re only jealous of the things that deep down we don’t believe we can do, achieve, or deserve to have. Because of this, jealousy is a gift. It’s a flashing light, an arrow, a sign that's trying to make you aware of something that you’re not believing in within yourself, or you’re not giving yourself permission to want because you don’t believe you’re good enough to have it. It’s highlighting a blind spot in your subconscious mind.

Jealousy is only created when we think that we can’t have what 'they' have.

The truth is, you can have all the things you want, you just have to be willing to change the way you think. 

You change the way you think, you change your life.

In this episode, I speak about and share why I feel it's necessary to normalise celebrating our f*cking wins.

I've made a ten point list as to why I believe it's important for us all to celebrate our wins.

1) We don’t do it enough.

You’ve been taught to downplay your wins in order to make others feel better and it doesn’t work.

You’ve now shrunk and they still feel like shit. 

2) Lead proudly by example and own your fucking wins.

Show people what is possible when they show up.

3) You give others permission to do the same.

Even better, you remind others to give themselves permission.

They don’t need your permission, they just need their own. 

4) You fought through resistance, worked your ass off, and didn’t give up.

Yeah, I’ll celebrate that. 

5) You remind people what’s possible with belief, implementation, and consistency. 

6) You normalise self-honour, self-mastery, and self-respect.

You break the perception of arrogance vs confidence.

You practice self-validation instead of external-validation. 

7) You break the habit of playing small to protect others, which is the worst kind of protection of all.

8) You remind people that jealousy is a gift.

If they’re jealous of what you have, that feeling of jealousy has just gifted them with the clarity of knowing what they want and what is standing in their way, which is their own beliefs. 

9) We all want to feel seen.

Celebrate your wins and make yourself feel seen. 

10) If I can’t be happy for your wins, that’s on me.

I’ve got some work to do.