1-900-Fatherhood

In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose open the show discussing the importance and role of fathers. When there is a strong family bond, individuals are likely to achieve success therefore being able to reconcile with one another is so crucial. Whatever negative emotions we have with our fathers will affect our outlook when we become fathers later on in life. So its good to take a moment and reflect on the issues that are yet unsolved and get to the root the matter and seek out the wisdom and truth in the circumstances. Growing to be the man that you would aspire to be is an inspiring challenge and journey.

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In this Episode:

●      Paying homage to fathers all around the world [ 5:00 ]

●      How families can reconcile [ 14:00 ] 

●      What does it mean by organised chaos [ 18:50 ]

●      Letting things go [ 23:35 ] 

●      Stories about rap culture and hip hop [ 31:30] 

●      What does it mean to not let people affect you negatively  40:10 ] 

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Lawrence and Male-Rose discuss their experiences going to therapy.  

What does it mean to truly forgive?

In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose open the show discussing the meaning of forgiveness. We apologize and receive apologies daily, but every apology does not come with genuine remorse. Apologies without changed behaviors can come across as flat and insincere, leading to resentment and anger. Forgiveness is the only way to move from these feelings, but whose responsibility is forgiveness? The person receiving the apology has a choice; they can hang on to the pain and think about revenge, or they can let it go. Male-Rose and Lawrence continue on to discuss the power of intention, how maturity changes forgiveness, and being impulsive. 

Forgiveness in 2020 does not look like what it did 30 years ago. In a time when our lives are highly visible because of the power of the internet, our mistakes can feel even more permanent. It can be difficult to apologize and forgive when you feel a tension between who you were and who you are. It is even easier to be reminded of your mistakes with social media. This can lead us to internalized shame. Stay tuned as Lawrence and Mel-Rose discuss coping with shame, cancel culture, and the impact of forgiving yourself. Reach out to Lawrence and Male-Rose @1900fatherhood and tell them your feelings and experiences with forgiveness 

●      What does true forgiveness look like? [ 5:00 ]

●      Unpacking your mistakes [ 14:00 ] 

●      Apologies [ 18:50 ]

●      Letting things go [ 23:35 ] 

●      The impact of forgiving yourself & cancel culture [ 31:30] 

●      What does forgiveness look like in 2020? [ 40:10 ] 

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How were you disciplined as a child?

 In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose talk discipline. They open the show discussing life with newborns and the world's fastest phone interview. Then, the guys dive deep into how they were raised and disciplined. Plus, they explain how scents can trigger memories. For instance, if we smell something, it can cause pain in our body or even create a flashback. We forget that the five senses are ultra-powerful memory banks. When things trigger our senses, we can remember our disciplines. The word "trigger" is a buzzword these days. Getting "trigged" means we are taken back to a place in our heads – which will lead us down a path, and we can tell that story. 

 Later, Lawrence and Male-Rose explain how they want to raise and discipline their children. It's necessary to be physical with your children. There is a place in this world for physicality: when, where, and why? We need to teach our children how to defend themselves; we should all know how to protect ourselves. Plus, our children should understand that are repercussions for doing different things. A parent will not react the same way a stranger will – that's part of discipline as well. Discipline needs to instill what the consequences are for the child's behavioral actions. There is a place to talk and there is a time to guide. There is also a place to get physical. However, we should give our children a fair chance – they should be able to hit back because they aren't helpless. There isn't a lot to be gained from bending over and getting beaten – your children will become numb to it. If there's a ritual, it becomes some sort of mental mind game. 

 We should keep communication as open as possible. Part of this means explaining ourselves to our children. Plus, it will help in the long run with their lives. Having communication with your children will affect their relationships with teachers, doctors, and strangers. Children look at the parent as an example. If your child cannot say something to their parent, then who can they talk to? Stay tuned as Lawrence and Male-Rose speak about disciplining with your spouse and the importance of being on the same page.

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What is the importance and significance of your name?

In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose open the show discussing potential baby names, including Langston Hughes. Our names can affect how we are perceived in professional settings. What do other people think about you before you walk into your room based on your name? The conversation then turns to The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America's Great Migration. We are always trying to prevent our kids from experiencing a particular type of racism and discrimination. After all, we have to think about it even before they are born because dodging discrimination comes into consideration when thinking of baby names. For instance, the name Sir became popular because it was a way for black people to demand respect and imbue pride into their children. 

 

Children go through phases of not liking their name. Eventually, they get over it and start to appreciate it. Plus, throughout life, they will see people respect their names. Then, Lawrence and Male-Rose speak about the phases they went through with their names. We were all given our names for a reason, despite rocky relationships with our parents. Personally, if we don't have total respect for our parents, we can still have respect for the rest of our families and honor our birthnames. Stay tuned as Lawrence and Male-Rose discuss taking your partner's last name, Louis Farrakhan, and Malcolm X. Reach out to Lawrence and Male-Rose @1900fatherhood and tell them about your name! 

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In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose open the show discussing feeling vulnerable while fighting. The conversation then turns to school and education. When do you make the decision to trust people with your children? Most parents start trusting people with daycare or a nanny. Then, you can start thinking about early education programs. What is valuable for your child? There is a small business for everything. Do your due diligence and figure out what you want from it.

Every year, teachers complain about their working environment. There are options out there for teachers to make their own working environments. Everyone wants the best for their children - you can find loads of private options. There’s a clear difference between children who went to early education programs vs. the children who did not go to early education programs. Homeschooling is also an option – there is a certain way black children are treated; homeschooling is a way to avoid that. Stay tuned as Lawrence and Male-Rose speak about their educations and the difference between education and schooling.

In this Episode:

About feeling vulnerable while fighting [ 3:40 ]

How to trust people with your children [ 7:45 ]

About investing in education [ 14:00 ]

When to consider homeschooling [ 18:45 ]

Fair representation in schools [ 24:30 ]

Lawrence and Male-Rose talk about their education [ 25:00 ]

The importance of education vs. schooling [ 59:30 ]

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In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose open the show discussing John Witherspoon. The two then start talking about relationships and dating questions, which leads them into their topic of manhood. There are different levels of masculinity, different integrations of manhood, and various things men still want to improve on. 

So, what is manhood? Manhood is protecting yourself and your family. Plus, there is a massive conversation around sexuality. Back in the day, if you were homosexual, then that meant you were less of a man. It’s all about how we approach manhood - everyone is looking at manhood from their perspective; we don’t need to choose a side. The physical part of manhood is the most natural part to lean on. 80% of the United States can’t protect themselves; it’s the reason why guns are everywhere. 

There are a lot of mistakes that can be made when finding manhood. These include overstepping boundaries and saying the wrong thing. Things that were okay to say for the past ten years are now forbidden. To find your manhood, it’s essential to seek feedback. Resentment can also be a fatal manhood mistake, especially when it comes to women. Later, Lawrence and Male-Rose speak about sex vs. pleasure and how to be the man you set out to be. 

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Communicating with your partner. Figuring out how to state your your intentions and not working from a "deficit".

On this Episode of 1-900-Fatherhood, hosts Lawrence and Male-Rose discuss the role of the father during pregnancy.

On this Episode of 1-900-Fatherhood, host Lawrence and Male-Rose discuss defining characteristics of manhood. What manhood means individually and collectively. Also, the difficulties that come with manhood.