When I ask women, “What is the top trait that you want in a man?” many of them say they want a man who is emotionally available. 

Maybe, like me, you’ve wondered, “What does that even mean?” Great question!

Emotional availability happens on a couple levels:

It happens on the readiness level, meaning he is available and ready--to give his heart away and commit to a specific woman. That’s one type of emotional availability. 

The second type of emotional availability happens on the communication level meaning that he has the ability to share his feelings and emotions with you.  Not that he would be like your best girlfriend, able to talk for hours about his feelings as MOST men are not wired this way, but that he can—when needed—connect with his feelings and when he feels safe, share his feelings with you.

Desiring a man who is emotionally available on both the readiness and communication levels is a good thing—as it’s important for the health of a long-term committed relationship.

Two people who cannot connect emotionally is just a relationship between two strangers, and that  just isn’t any fun. Being able to connect emotionally is what makes a relationship juicy and life-giving, as we were all created to be seen.

So, good news! If you’re like many of the women I coach who are looking for an emotionally available man, this episode brings a whole lot of clarity to the issue of a man being emotionally available by sharing 10 Ways to Tell if a Man is Emotionally Available.