100% Guilt-Free Self-Care

Michelle and I both have huge stacks of resources at our desks and we wanted to take today to let you know some of our favorites.

Today we are going to talk about some grief-specific self-care and things that we can do on daily, weekly, monthly, yearly, so that we can be in this space where we're deeply caring for ourselves and other people during times of grief at loss mourning.

In this episode, we are going to walk people through something that most people are super uncomfortable with. And that is how do we be with people who are suffering and in pain? Because most of us, like a lot of like first reaction from people as.

"Oh, my God. I think I need to make that stop". We want to stop the bleeding, but as we talked about last week, and what's not helpful, trying to make people feel better in this kind of loss suffering, that doesn't feel better. It feels like people are denying the existence of your pain and discounting how much this can weigh on someone.

Show notes: http://tamihackbarth.com/episode-87/

We're going to talk about something that is going to be sensitive for some people. We're going to talk about grief and what do you do if you're not part of an established religion.

Or don't have a strong faith-based belief system. In case you're wondering, I fall into this category and I want to help others who fall into this group because so much of the grief literature and the grief resources like support resources are faith-based.

Last week we talked about what to say and more importantly, what not to say to people who are grieving and this week I would like to talk about something that I have Googled. On more than one occasion since November when Tess died.

And that is "what is a grief timeline". It's a very unsatisfying Googleable answer. So let's talk about it.

Show notes: http://tamihackbarth.com/episode85/

This topic was the impetus for this entire series where I was like, "we need to talk about the things that people say." Things that make grieving people want to stab them and things that may actually be helpful. You choose your poison.

Show notes: http://tamihackbarth.com/episode84/

We are going to talk about what do you do when you've lost someone or something? And this, my friends, is going to be the thing that you need when it first happens.

When you're in acute grief, when it's like "Oh my God, I just lost my job", "I just found out my spouse is moving out", "My person that I love dearly has died".

We're are going to talk about dealing with that first sting.

Show notes: http://tamihackbarth.com/episode83/

We're finally getting to that episode we've been promising you, and that is we're going to talk about grief symptoms. And the reason I wanted to talk about this is I apparently learned from media (i.e) the movies and TV and thought that grief symptoms were crying and wailing and maybe some light sadness.

Let us give the people some relief about what are some of the millions of symptoms that you can have in grief? We're not going to cover every possible symptom but we are going to cover many that you may or may not be experiencing.

Show notes: http://tamihackbarth.com/episode82/

We are going to talk about the five stages of grief and myth-busting. Spoiler alert: the five stages don't apply to most of us. Listen in and we'll explain it all!

Michelle and I are going to get together and we're going to put our big. Pretty brains together and talk about everybody's favorite topic grief, everybody loves grief.

So if you're new here you can go meet Michelle at episode 20. And the reason that I want to talk about grief is because in November of 2020, my best friend died. And I feel like. I have I've had a lot of loss in my life, like from death and Michelle has always been like a super anchor for me.

And she's helped me so much that I thought, you know what? We got to take these conversations to the pod because as our friend Glennon Doyle says grief is the price that you pay. For loving people and being loved in your life. And so at some point, even if you're, everything's cool with you now, at some point you're going to experience grief.

Show notes: http://tamihackbarth.com/episode-80/