None of us are born with the skills to build and sustain healthy relationships. These things are learned. In this episode, our guest is Ryan Cheney, an experienced psychotherapist and behavioral leadership coach, guiding us through the intricacies of healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics. Our conversation will explore the importance of interdependence, the negative impacts of codependency, and the nuanced practice of attunement, including how to rectify misattunements. Further, we will delve into the role of healthy boundaries in building resilience and trust, how resistance and perfectionism can hinder growth, acceptance and self-awareness, and the difference between appeasement and compromise

Guest Bio:

Ryan Cheney MS, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor, wellness specialist, certified behavioral leadership coach, breath work specialist, and certified XPT (extreme performance training) coach. 

He received his Master of Science in clinical mental health from Oregon State University and has dedicated himself to learning how to help others through continued research, education, and practice for over 15 years. He has worked in many settings, including community mental health crisis work, clinical outpatient work within medical settings, and as a clinical supervisor for Deschutes County Behavioral Health. He works in his private practice as a clinical mental health therapist specializing in trauma work and as a performance coach, helping others gain self-mastery and thrive.

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We Discuss:

• The Campfire Metaphor for Relationships
• Interacting with Others' Campfires
• The Difference Between Healthy Interdependence and Codependency
• The Dynamics of Healthy Relationships
• Identifying Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
• Blaming Never Helps, But It Sure Happens A Lot
• Understanding Resistance in Personal Growth and Relationships
• Resistance is a Struggle Against Acceptance
• Confronting and Recovering from Perfectionism
• The Impact of Attunement on Personal and Professional Interactions
• The Importance of Boundaries in Healthy Relationships
• The Distinction Between Appeasement and Compromise