Do you ever find yourself in the same argument with your partner over and over again? Or perhaps there’s distance that has slowly developed over time and you can’t quite put your finger on why.

In this episode of the Choosing to Heal podcast, I talk with Brett Nikula, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Life Coach & Founder of Pivotal Approach Counseling & Coaching.

We dive into the conflict cycle and how it impacts every single one of our relationships (even non-romantic). We share personal examples and break down the steps of the conflict cycle to help you understand and break free from your own relationship patterns. 

In this episode:

• How & why couples fall into the Conflict Cycle
• How to identify your attachment longings & deeper vulnerable emotions beneath your surface-level reactions
• Personal stories & examples of the Conflict Cycle from both Brett & Monica
• How to own your cycle and take responsibility for your part in conflicts
• How your trauma impacts how you show up in conflict
• The skills needed to work through conflict
• What couples can do to start healing and repairing

Resources and links mentioned in this episode

• Download the FREE Conflict Cycle Worksheet
• Get 20% off your first 3 months with code HEAL:  Connected Couples Campus 
• Full Show Notes HERE 

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Connect with Brett Nikula:

• Instagram: @pivotalapproachmn
• Podcast: Fighting for Connection Podcast
• Brett's website: https://www.pivotalapproach.com/
• Connected Couples Campus

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