When marriage feels tired or transactional, it’s time to return to the Source. In this Sunday Recalibration, discover how identity alignment before God creates intimacy that lasts — even when life feels loud and connection feels distant.

Most high-capacity couples didn’t enter marriage hoping to become roommates. You wanted real connection. Enduring intimacy. A shared rhythm that felt as grounded as it was loving.

But over time — especially in the weight of parenting, leadership, and the constant pressure to do more — that intimacy can erode. Not always dramatically. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet drifting.

And before you know it, you’re managing logistics more than connection… showing up out of duty instead of desire.

This Sunday Recalibration invites you to remember what marriage was meant to be — not a performance, but a sacred covenant.
 Not a contract of convenience, but a reflection of God’s relational nature.

Drawing on Ephesians 5, Genesis 2, the wisdom of Tim Keller and Dan Allender, and her own personal story, Julie Holly shares how vertical identity alignment is the only foundation strong enough to hold a marriage — especially in seasons of weariness, role fatigue, or emotional distance.

Inside today’s episode:
 • Why deeper intimacy starts with God, not with marriage work
 • How Identity-Level Recalibration supports both spiritual and relational repair
 • Why performance and control block presence — and how to return to truth
 • A 3-part Micro Recalibration to help you reconnect at the root

This episode is for every couple craving restoration — and for the high performers quietly carrying relational fatigue behind closed doors.
 Whether you’re faith-filled or simply curious, this is a space where sacred truth meets real-life application.

Micro Recalibration:

1. In what ways have I made marriage about performance or control — instead of covenant?
   
   
2. Where do I need to return to God with my identity — so I can return to my spouse with grace?
   
   
3. What would shift in our intimacy if I saw my spouse as a reflection of God's image — and myself the same?
   
   

Linked Resources:

Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver 

The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender 

Explore Identity-Level Recalibration
→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience

→ Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes.

→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights

→ Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you

→ Download the Misalignment Audit

→ Subscribe to the weekly newsletter

→ Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.)

→ One link to all things