In this episode, we dive into a simple feminine ritual that can instantly reconnect you to your energy and help you feel more aligned, radiant, glowy, grounded and present.

We explore subtle practices that awaken your natural rhythm, honour your body, and invite softness and flow into your day.

Tune in to discover how a few simple intentional shifts can transform the way you feel without doing more necessarily.

Work with Phi

Hello my love, welcome back I’m so glad you’re here.

It’s November and this month has flown by like honestly Christmas is next month, 2026 is 2 months away – wild. We’re getting into what is traditionally known as the busiest time of the year but here I am dedicating an episode on the poddy on why rest is more important than ever.

I want you to ask yourself a gentle question: When did you learn that rest was wrong?

I already know it’s not consciously. You didn’t wake up one day and say, hmm… I think I’ll deny myself rest and build my self worth around exhausted and doing things all the time

You more than likely absorbed it. Watching the women around you run on empty. Always giving. Always available.  Always doing. You saw that “good women” didn’t stop… They didn’t say no. They didn’t ask for support. They didn’t nap or take long baths or lounge in sunlight.

If you’re listening I know more likely than not you want to tap more into your feminine energy and Feminine energy isn’t built on depletion… it’s built on overflow.

Signs you have a wounded relationship with rest

If any of these resonate… I want you to put a hand on your heart.

Take a breath.

There is nothing wrong with you.  It’s because you’ve learnt that rest is dangerous. Maybe rest means you could be forgotten, or in trouble or unloved. You are simply a woman who learned to survive.

Your nervous system remembers every moment you had to hold the world together alone. So now, when you try to soften, your body panics not because rest is wrong, but because rest was never safe before. That’s not a failure. It’s actually your brilliance. Your survival intelligence. The part of you that says “keep going” is the same part that once kept you safe. She protected you. She carried you. She made sure you survived in environments where softness wasn’t allowed.

Now she’s tired. She doesn’t know rest is safe yet and I want you to know: I see her. I see you.

You’re not lazy. You’re not lacking discipline. Your nervous system doesn’t know how to feel safe without being go go go all the time.

The healing isn’t in forcing rest. It’s in teaching your body that rest is no longer a threat. Not by shaming your resistance, but by honouring it. Listening to it. Softening with it slowly.

You don’t need to push yourself to relax. You get to ease yourself into safety. One breath at a time. One pause at a time. One permission at a time. In time your body unlearns rest as a threat and comes to embrace rest.

Rest is the doorway to receiving. Receiving pleasure. Receiving ideas. Receiving support. Receiving love. Receiving abundance. Think about it a flower without water cannot bloom, a dried riverbed cannot nourish.

When you deprive yourself of rest, you are depriving yourself of reception: the essence of feminine magnetism.

My love I want you to receive sacred pleasurable rest not collapse rest.

Many women think “rest” just means crashing after exhaustion curling into bed after a long day, scrolling aimlessly on your phone or numbing out with TV or wine. That’s what I call collapse rest: it’s reactive, unconscious and often leaves you feeling empty or guilty afterward. It’s the rest of survival, not the rest of flourishing. Your body is drained. The mind is restless. You rest because you have to. You might feel guilty. Your energy isn’t restored fully.

So collapse rest is what happens when our bodies have been whispering for hours, days, sometimes weeks… and we ignored the call. It’s the crash, the numbing, the autopilot. It’s rest that arrives only after we have pushed past our limits and done too much and doth our body protests: I can’t keep going for you.

Sacred feminine rest feels very different. It is chosen, not forced. It is intentional, sensual and nurturing. Consciously chosen. It’s not collapse, it’s conscious surrender. Instead of numbing, it awakens. Instead of escaping, it anchors. Sacred rest is the moment you turn toward yourself with tenderness. It’s lighting a candle, slowing your breath, feeling the warmth of tea in your hands, stretching your body gently, letting soft music hold you. It’s letting the nervous system soften before it breaks and letting pleasure, self love, self care not exhaustion guide the pause.

When you pick up your journal choosing a slow evening ritual, when you lie down midday just for a moment to feel the rise and fall of your breath you are communicating something powerful to yourself: You matter.

This kind of rest brings you home. Home to your intuition. Home to your body. Home to a pace that was designed for your feminine nervous system, not the demands of a world addicted to speed and patriarchal productive framework. Pleasurable rest doesn’t pull you out of life it drops you deeper into it. It’s a reunion with your energy, your sensuality, your quiet power. It is not a timeout from life, but a return to yourself. When a woman learns how to rest like this, she doesn’t become weaker she becomes luminous, glowy, grounded, and magnetic in a way that only true nourishment can create.

Pleasurable rest is an experience. It’s not a passive state. It’s actively claiming softness, safety, and your own devotion. It’s a form of self-love that the world often doesn’t make space for, but that your feminine energy thrives on.

Examples of sacred pleasurable feminine energy rest:

A warm bath with essential oils and candlelight
Tending to plants slowly and mindfully
Making infused water with fruits and herbs, sipping with spaciousness
Journaling in the sun, barefoot on the grass
Watching the sunrise or sunset with complete stillness
Drawing and painting for fun and expression

If listening to this has your body whispering for more softness, more space to simply be and slow down then imagine what it would feel like to fully immerse yourself in that energy for a week. That’s exactly what we’re creating in our upcoming Flow Luxury Self Care Feminine Energy Retreat Vietnam May 24th to 30th, 2026 immerse yourself in mineral-rich spa waters, nourish your body with delicious, fresh meals and gentle movement, and simply be held in the presence of women who honour the sacred power of rest and the feminine. It’s more than a retreat; it’s a return to yourself, your true feminine nature: a pause from the world and a chance to step into your feminine energy fully and luxuriously. Flow will launch at the end of this month but if you already know DM me on Instagram or email me!

Now that we’ve explored what sacred, pleasurable rest can feel like, let’s talk about how to start bringing it into your daily life. Here are some simple, intentional ways to start rewriting your relationship with rest, beginning with micro-rest moments.

Micro-Rest Moments

Make rest a part of your routine perhaps its through:

An innate part of the feminine responds to beauty and sensuality.

Replace Guilt With Gratitude

When guilt arises, shift to gratitude:

Rest does not take from you: it gives back to you.

Thank you for taking this time to slow down and reconnect with yourself today through this podcast. 

Remember, rest isn’t just about sleeping or stepping away from life it’s a beautiful intentional practice of nourishment, presence and self love. Each moment of intentional rest no matter how small or even if it’s 30 seconds rewires your body, calms your mind and reconnects you with your feminine energy. May you continue to honour yourself and sacred pleasurable rest. Giving yourself to rest is one of the most powerful things you can offer yourself.