In this episode I want to talk about something that sits at the heart of so much relational pain for complex trauma survivors — needs. Specifically, why the needs we crave the most are usually the ones that were never met in childhood, why that creates a desperateness that can push people away, and how we end up in a cycle of repressing our needs until we finally explode. I share the distinction that has changed everything for me and for my clients: the difference between expectations and standards, and why one comes from a wounded child place and the other comes from a grounded, secure sense of self. This one is practical, personal, and I think it is going to land somewhere deep. 

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Top Episode Quotes:

"Just because you have a need, you're not needy. It's not the need itself — it's the energy behind the need." — Marina

"A need is just a need. It's like a desk. Is this desk too much? I don't think so. It's just a desk." — Marina

"When we again and again abandon ourselves by saying that's okay, I don't need that — we've already left the relationship. We're already gone." — Marina

"Expectations come from a child place that says I need an adult to meet me or I won't survive. Standards come from inside yourself — they are yours." — Marina

"Because I feel this loyalty to myself that I am going to get this need met no matter what — I don't linger in desperation. I just know." — Marina

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