Reclaiming Love

#17- Let’s Talk About $ex: The Importance of Self Pleasure While Celibate, Using Touch and The Senses as Mindfulness Tools for Regulation


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Let’s talk about sex AND celibacy, shall we? 

Long time listeners already know that Elly has been on a journey of self love and creating a deep relationship with ALL parts of herself. Along the way, she has chosen to refrain from having sex. “But WHY?!” you ask? Elly shares why she has chosen not to have sex and the reasons why you might choose this for a time to, including avoiding a somewhat false emotional bond that generally occurs when you become sexually intimate. 

The discussion leads to how the ladies see self pleasure as an extremely valuable practice, especially along the journey to deep self acceptance and love. From body image, to love from and within yourself, to allowing “him” to see, touch and love on ALL of you. Elly shares how she has found these practices allow her to connect more deeply with herself, create feelings of safety and a willingness to fully accept herself, empowered to ensure she's making great choices for herself. Self pleasure offers a way to explore what loving touch feels like for you and a deeper connection to yourself, which allows you to become more discerning. That’s hot, ya?! 

The convo also dishes on how your fantasies can be used to focus on and create what you want. All these tools allow you to explore, and perhaps shift, how much pleasure you allow in your life!

As the flip side is shared, Elly recalls how she used to unconsciously make herself feel powerful by objectifying herself. Because you can’t get hurt, if you hold the power, right? Wrong! Yet it’s a common illusion and the reason so many women discover they’ve been lying to themselves for quite a while. 

This episode also explores how intimate circumstances can often leave people dysregulated; with playful insights to identify when this is happening along with tools to regulate. With a reminder that you get to approach and discuss your relationship problems as opportunities to make things even better! 

With an actual rotary phone in tow, this week’s relationship helpline offers ideas on how to “keep things spicy” in your relationship to add new aliveness to your sex life. 

Listen in for this saucy and sensible episode to help you explore what’s right for you when it comes to the world of s-e-x. 

Want to make NOW the time for YOU to Reclaim Love or your LIFE?

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