What if the Key to Success Wasn’t Strength, but Vulnerability?
When we think of courage, we often picture fearlessness. But according to Dr. Brené Brown, a leading researcher on vulnerability, real courage isn’t about having no fear—it’s about showing up, even when we’re afraid. This concept applies directly to golf, where uncertainty, self-doubt, and pressure are constant companions.
What Is Vulnerability, and Why Does It Matter in Golf?
Brené Brown defines vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” In golf, this shows up in many ways:
* Standing on the first tee, knowing people are watching.
* Committing to a tough shot when the safe play is easier.
* Admitting you need to work on the mental game.
* Putting yourself in high-pressure situations, knowing you might fail.
Many golfers avoid these situations because they fear embarrassment or failure. But the best players lean into the discomfort. They understand that vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s the birthplace of courage, resilience, and peak performance.
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The Connection Between Vulnerability and Growth Mindset
Dr. Carol Dweck’s research on growth mindset ties directly to this idea. A growth mindset means believing that skills and abilities can be developed through effort and learning. The opposite is a fixed mindset, where people believe their abilities are set in stone.
A growth mindset embraces vulnerability. It thrives on challenges and sees mistakes as learning opportunities. Here’s how this applies to golf:
* Fixed mindset golfer: “I can’t handle pressure. I always choke.”
* Growth mindset golfer: “I get nervous under pressure, but I can learn to manage it.”
* Fixed mindset golfer: “I’m just not good at putting.”
* Growth mindset golfer: “I haven’t mastered putting yet, but I can improve with practice.”
Golfers with a growth mindset become more resilient because they see struggles as part of the journey—not a sign of failure.
How to Use Vulnerability to Build Mental Toughness
If you want to develop mental toughness, you must be willing to step into vulnerability. Here are three ways to do that:
1. Play With a “Risk and Learn” Mindset
Instead of playing to avoid mistakes, challenge yourself to take smart risks. That means:
* Practicing shots that make you uncomfortable.
* Trying new strategies in tournaments.
* Learning from every round—win or lose.
2. Share Your Struggles With a Coach or Mentor
Elite golfers don’t pretend they have it all figured out. They work with coaches, talk about their challenges, and ask for help. That takes courage. Hiding your struggles only keeps you stuck. (We can help you in this area at MPGA with our stacked mental performance coaches dedicated to helping elite golfers like yourself—browse our coaches here.)
3. Shift Your Focus From Results to Growth
Vulnerable golfers understand that success isn’t just about scores—it’s about progress. Instead of obsessing over the leaderboard, focus on:
* Did I commit to my shots today?
* Did I stay present under pressure?
* Did I bounce back quickly from mistakes?
Final Thoughts
Victory truly goes to the vulnerable. The golfers who embrace challenges, step into discomfort, and open themselves up to growth are the ones who reach their full potential. If you want to play your best, start seeing vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness.
Are you willing to take that leap?
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