Today on the show, Violet Lange, a relationship coach, introduces The Goldilocks Method to dating. Violet overcame trauma and a difficult divorce to find lasting love. She has a deaf daughter with cochlear implants and combines practical strategies with spiritual approaches to dating.

Embodiment Practice: Place one hand on heart, one on belly, breathe, and say "I am safe, I am loved, I belong." This breaks mental loops and grounds you in your body.

Overcome Fear of Abandonment: Be 100% committed to yourself. Test potential partners early with your truth, needs, and boundaries rather than hiding them. Say "I will never abandon myself."

Break Stuck Patterns:

Use Effective Boundaries:

Appreciate good qualities in people who aren't quite right. Think of relationships like pizza - you can have everything you want, but proportions may vary. Focus on whether core needs are met.

The Settling Paradox: The more you feel you need to settle, the lower quality matches you'll attract. Be clear and specific about what you want. Believe you're worthy of having it.

Essential Principles:

Contact Violet: [email protected]

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