20 Sum Things

In our final episode, we come back to the beginning: ourselves. Self love is one of those phrases that gets thrown around so often it starts to lose its meaning, so in this episode I try to get at what it actually is. In your 20s, that understanding becomes especially important, as you begin to question what you were taught about who you are and what you deserve. Self love isn't something you arrive at once, but an ongoing process of unlearning, healing, and showing up for yourself in more honest ways. It's the harder work of letting go of what you were told about your worth and deciding, again and again, that you are enough. This may be where 20 Sum Things ends, but hopefully it's also the beginning of something else.

What are we really here for? In this episode, I'm joined by Cervantes for an honest conversation about the search for legacy, and what it really means to live a fulfilling life in your 20s. We also explore how purpose can feel like something we're meant to have figured out, and what it means to instead let it develop over time through experience, reflection and the choices we make.

Ageing is less about getting older and more about gaining perspective. In this episode, Nadi and I reflect on growth, change, and the shifting understanding of what it means to “have it together.” In a world that often glorifies youth, we reflect on how ageing isn’t something to fear, but something to honour. From confronting mortality and milestones to redefining what “growing up” actually looks like in your 20s, this conversation is a reminder that surviving is sacred, and evolving is its own kind of triumph.

For so many of us in our 20s, pop culture didn’t just entertain us, it raised us. In this episode, Gabriel and I reflect on the movies, music, and media moments that made us who we are and helped shaped our identies. We also break down why we're so drawn to the zeitgeist, and why it matters. Why are we so invested in celebrity culture and the entertainment industry? And what do our obsessions say about us as a generation raised almost entirely online?

What does faith look like in your 20s, especially when nothing feels certain at this pivotal time? In this episode, I’m joined by Nadi as we reflect on the ways the divine shows up in our lives, often in ways we don't expect. From ancestral connections to spiritual awakenings, we talk about our evolving relationships with God, the universe, and the forces that feel bigger than us.

At some point in your 20s, the idea of having children shifts from something distant to something you actually have to consider. In this episode, Latoya and I tackle one of the biggest questions floating around our generation: do we actually want kids, or have we just been told we should? We get into why so many young adults are delaying parenthood or opting out entirely and what it means to make one of life's biggest decisions in a world obsessed with timelines.

Why does caring about the world feel so draining sometimes? In this episode, I reflect on political apathy, disillusionment, and the fatigue that comes with trying to stay engaged in a system that often feels distant or indifferent, especially in your 20s, when you're still figuring out where you stand. I also sit with the question of why so many of us feel disconnected, whether it is because the system feels rigged, irrelevant, or simply exhausting to keep up with. From the intersection of politics and culture to the ways young people are redefining what engagement looks like, this is a conversation less about having the right answers and more about understanding what it means to still care.

Hookup culture often teaches us to perform pleasure instead of actually experiencing it in our 20s. In this episode, Hugo and I talk about intimacy, consent, and the various ways our experiences can influence how we connect with others. We also explore the darker corners of our relationships with sex, including how trauma, shame, and even self-harm can show up in our most intimate moments.

Is marriage the destination or just a social expectation? In this episode, Jevene joins me to unpack the pressures that come with this particular milestone, especially in your 20s, when timelines and expectations begin to feel more real. We talk about the red flags we often ignore and what it actually means to commit to someone for the long term. Beyond the ring and the reception, this conversation is about what we owe each other and ourselves before we make a promise that big.

In this episode, Imani and I get honest about something most of us are still figuring out in our 20s, namely, how to exist in a body in a world that has too many opinions about it. We talk about body image, body dysmorphia, and the pressure to look a certain way, along with our relationship with food, exercise, and self-worth. In a culture that constantly pushes unrealistic ideals, this is an honest conversation about what it means to make peace with yourself and how to separate what you've been taught from what's actually yours.