234.  Unshaming Divorce and Honoring Life with Kendell Lenice

About This Episode

What if divorce isn't a mark of failure, but a brave act of self-advocacy?

This week, I sit down with Kendell Lenice, certified life coach and author known as "The Remix Coach." Kendell shares her powerful story of being divorced twice, her healing journey, and how she found love again when she wasn't even looking for it.

If you've ever felt shame about divorce or wondered if you'll find love again, this conversation will shift your perspective completely.

What You'll Learn

Divorce Doesn't Define You

• Why walking away from a marriage can be the bravest thing you do
• How to stop letting shame keep you in bondage
• The difference between staying married for love vs. staying for reputation

The Real Work of Healing

• Kendell's HEAL acronym: Honor Everything About Life
• Why you must examine your childhood patterns and trauma
• How to forgive yourself for past relationship choices

Finding Love After Heartbreak

• Why Kendell wasn't looking for love when she met her current partner
• The importance of vetting (yes, we dive deep into this!)
• How to stay open to love without being desperate for it

Red Flags and Green Flags

• Recognizing gaslighting and emotional manipulation
• Why your discernment matters more than giving endless grace
• The difference between healthy and toxic relationship patterns

Key Takeaways

1. Divorce can be mature, not shameful. Sometimes two good people just can't figure it out together.
   
   
2. Do the healing work first. Know who you are so someone else can't persuade you to be someone different.
   
   
3. Vet, vet, vet. Don't give away all your requirements upfront - let people show you who they are.
   
   
4. You are enough with or without a relationship. A partner should be an addition to who you already are, not your completion.

About Kendell Lenice

Kendéll Lenice, affectionately known as “The Remix Coach,” is a Certified Life Coach, national speaker, author, and host with over 20 years of experience helping people transform their lives and relationships. Through her podcasts, powerful talks, and coaching, she mixes wisdom, humor, and heart to inspire growth and healing. A colon cancer survivor and advocate, Kendéll empowers others to turn life’s challenges into powerful comebacks. Whether on stage, on screen, or behind the mic, she brings real talk, real change, and a reminder that it’s never too late to remix your life. She's living proof that life’s remix can be better than the original.

Kendéll Lenice, known as “The Remix Coach,” is a Certified Life Coach, speaker, author/writer, and media host with over two decades of experience helping people heal, grow, and remix their lives with purpose and flair. Whether she’s dropping gems on her podcasts, lighting up a stage, or coaching one-on-one, Kendéll blends wisdom, warmth, and a touch of humor to spark transformation. A proud colon cancer survivor and advocate, she proves daily that reinvention is always possible. Kendéll empowers others to turn life’s challenges into powerful comebacks. It's all about the remix!

Kendell is the author of multiple books including:

• "Your Unhealed Is Showing" - About healing purposefully and aging fearlessly
• "God Thinks I'm Special" - A children's book teaching kids their worth

Connect with Kendell

https://www.instagram.com/kendelllenice
https://kendelllenice.com/
https://youtube.com/