Tired of dating feeling like Groundhog Day? In today's episode I share the proven framework that helps my clients break free from dating frustration and create real results. If you've hit a wall with dating apps, feel stuck in negative patterns, or wonder why nothing seems to work - this episode is for you.

Episode Highlights:

🔍 Why traditional dating advice fails divorced women

• The trap of jumping on and off dating apps without a strategy
• How "putting yourself out there" without skills leads to disappointment
• The real reason why having 100+ first dates might not lead to finding your person
• The fairytale vs. reality mindset shift that changes everything
• Why treating dating like a growth project (not a shopping trip) creates success
• How one client found love by committing to 2 parties per week for 5 weeks

Ready to Reinvent Your Dating Life?

Stop hoping things will magically change and start creating real transformation. I walk my Dating After Divorce Academy clients through this exact framework, providing support and accountability every step of the way.

🗓️ Book Your Consultation Call Ready to make 2025 the year you find love? Schedule your private consultation call with me to explore how the Dating After Divorce Academy can help you create the love life you desire. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to book your call.

Resources Mentioned:

• Podcast Episode 6: Phases of the Dating Journey

Remember: A reinvention isn't about small tweaks - it's about creating a radical shift in how you approach dating and relationships. Let me help you make that shift.

Let's talk about a pattern I see in many divorced women - the reluctance to fight for the relationship they want. Through the lens of "learned helplessness," I explore why capable, strong women who fought for their first marriages often hold back in their post-divorce dating journey.

Key Insights:

• The difference between fighting for a specific person versus fighting for your desired relationship outcome
• How past relationship trauma creates false beliefs about our dating options
• Why validating dating struggles with friends can keep you stuck
• The truth about effort: dating takes more work than we expect (just like everything worthwhile)

Ask yourself: "Why am I not fighting for this relationship goal with the same determination I bring to other areas of my life?" Your answer reveals where to focus your energy.

Book Reference: "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman - A foundational text for understanding how we can break free from learned helplessness patterns

Ready to break free from dating paralysis? Schedule your 1:1 consultation at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment. Let's create your personalized strategy for finding love after divorce.

In this deep-dive episode, I explore our complex relationship with time in dating after divorce, challenging the common belief that dating is a "waste of time." As part of my three-episode series about time, we examine how this mindset affects your dating journey and what to do about it.

Key Concepts Explored:

What Actually Wastes Time in Dating:
- Dating without a strong "why" or due to external pressure
- Pursuing someone who clearly stated they don't want what you want
- Trying to convince uninterested people to date you
- Fantasy relationships and passive dating
- Repeating the same dating patterns without learning or growth

Common Questions Addressed:
- What if I'm truly too busy to date?
- How do I know if I'm investing time wisely in dating?
- When is it okay to stop seeing someone to "save time"?
- How can I date efficiently without compromising on what matters?
- What's the difference between being selective and over-filtering?

Ready to Transform Your Dating Journey?
If you're ready to shift your relationship with time and dating, let's talk. Book a consultation call to explore:
- Your unique dating patterns and time-related concerns
- How to create an efficient, values-aligned dating strategy
- Whether working together could help you find love in 2025
- Specific steps to move from passive to intentional dating

🗓 Ready to Work with Sade? Click Here to Schedule Your Consultation Call

The Dating After Divorce Academy provides:
- Clear strategies to date efficiently
- Support in overcoming mindset blocks
- Tools to evaluate potential partners
- A process for authentic connection
- Community of like-minded women

Additional Resources:
- Episode 219: Thoughts About Dating at Your Age
- Episode 220: Dating Older and Younger Men

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Are you limiting your dating pool based on age? In this episode, I challenge the common assumptions about dating older men and reveal why your dating filters might be holding you back from finding true connection.

Key Insights:

• The truth behind the "nurse with a purse" stereotype and why it shouldn't dictate your dating choices
• Why age filters often mask deeper fears about dating and settling
• How to shift from fear-based dating to confidence-based choices
• The power of staying neutral when meeting new people
• Practical strategies for evaluating potential partners beyond their age

Quotable Moment: "Don't use being open about age against yourself. The choice of who you end up with is always yours."

Action Steps:

1. Examine your current age filters and identify the real reasons behind them
2. Practice curiosity instead of judgment when meeting new people
3. Focus on lifestyle compatibility rather than age-based assumptions
4. Trust your ability to say "no" when someone isn't right for you

Ready to Transform Your Dating Experience? Book a private consultation call with me to develop your personalized dating strategy. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment  to find a time that works for you.

Is your age holding you back in dating? I hear this concern from so many women in our community. Today, let's unpack what's really going on when we let age become a barrier to love.

Key Insights:

• Age anxiety peaks when dating because we've internalized limiting societal messages about women and aging
• These beliefs impact not just how we date, but how boldly we live our entire lives
• Your age is just a number - what matters is the life you choose to live at any age

Here's the truth: The "age problem" in dating isn't about the number. It's about the stories we tell ourselves. I see clients in their 40s saying men their age are "too old," while my clients in their 50s and 60s express the same concern. What's fascinating? The issue isn't age - it's about energy alignment and lifestyle compatibility.

Ready to transform your approach to dating after divorce? Let's work together to move past age anxiety and create authentic connections. Schedule your consultation call at http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to explore private coaching or join our Dating After Divorce Collective.

Remember: The person who's right for you isn't looking for a number - they're looking for YOU.

Share this episode with another divorced woman who needs this message. Leave a review if these insights resonated with you.

Next episode: We'll explore how age filters and preferences impact our dating choices - you won't want to miss it!

Does the thought of attending an event alone feel awful? In this episode, Sade Curry discusses the stigma and shame associated with attending social events alone, particularly after divorce or being single. 

She shares her personal experience of attending events alone and contrasts it with her clients' feelings of inadequacy and exposure. 

Sade emphasizes that societal conditioning and internalized beliefs contribute to this shame, urging individuals to challenge these thoughts through coaching and self-examination. 

She advises identifying and addressing subconscious blocks, processing emotions, and redefining the meaning of being alone at events. By changing internal narratives, individuals can overcome the fear of judgment and enjoy social experiences more fully.

You will learn how to:

• Examine your own thoughts and feelings about attending events alone. Identify any underlying beliefs or conditioning that may be contributing to feelings of shame or anxiety.
• Slow down and reflect on the reasons why you may be avoiding or procrastinating on attending social events alone. Explore whether these reasons are based on societal conditioning or your own chosen beliefs.
• Process any emotions, such as grief, anxiety, or shame, that come up when considering attending events alone. Allow these emotions to move through your body and create an openness to change your beliefs.
• Develop tools and strategies to handle any discomfort or awkwardness that may arise when attending events alone, focusing on redefining the meaning you associate with being alone in these situations.

In today’s episode, we dive into the digital dating arena and tackle a common struggle: managing the overwhelm that comes with using dating apps. Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned swiper, the avalanche of notifications, messages, and profiles can quickly turn an exciting journey into a stressful experience.

Join Sade Curry to explore the emotional and psychological impact of dating after divorce in this modern dating landscape, and discover practical strategies to reclaim control and find balance. From setting boundaries to optimizing your profile, this episode is packed with tips to help you navigate the world of online dating with confidence and clarity.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

1. Understanding the Overwhelm: Why dating apps can feel like a full-time job and how they impact your mental well-being.
2. Emotional Responses: How the constant barrage of messages and profiles triggers anxiety and frustration, and why our brains are not wired for this kind of interaction.
3. Cognitive Overload: The impact of too many choices and how it leads to snap judgments and stress.
4. Reclaiming Control: Strategies for setting boundaries, managing notifications, and staying mindful in your dating journey.
5. Practical Tips: How to make dating apps work for you by optimizing your profile, managing your time, and filtering out the noise to focus on what truly matters.

Quotes:

• "Imagine walking into a stadium filled with thousands of people, all shouting your name—this is what online dating can feel like."
• "Remember, not every connection needs to be explored—it's okay to swipe left on anything that doesn’t feel right."
• "You are in control of your dating experience, not the other way around."

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Dating After Divorce Course – Get started on your dating journey with our free course designed specifically for divorced professional women.
• Join the Dating After Divorce Academy – If you’re ready to stop wasting time and start finding the right partner, schedule your consultation today.

Call to Action: If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review! Share this episode with a friend who might be feeling overwhelmed by dating apps, and let’s help each other find balance in the digital dating world.

Do you keep thinking a man is the one only to get blindsided yet again?
Ever get discouraged and think you'll never figure out how to see a man's true character?
In this insightful episode, Natasha Moore share's her story of finally understanding how to choose the man who was right for her after a divorce and an annulment.

We share our personal stories, offering candid reflections on our journeys to healing, self-discovery, and finding love again. From the challenges of long-distance relationships to the importance of setting boundaries, this episode is packed with valuable lessons for anyone navigating the dating world after a difficult past.

Key Takeaways:

Long-Distance Dating Challenges:
Natasha shares her experience with long-distance relationships, highlighting the difficulties of truly getting to know someone without face-to-face interaction. She reflects on the importance of understanding the full picture before committing.

Dating after Multiple Divorces:
Natasha opens up about her first two marriages, including an abusive relationship and a second marriage where her husband was already married to someone else. Her experiences underscore the importance of recognizing red flags and valuing oneself.

Setting Boundaries:
We explore the necessity of setting boundaries in relationships, especially after experiencing toxic dynamics in the past. Natasha shares how establishing clear limits helped her protect her emotional well-being.

How High-Achieving Women Attract Toxic Men:
We discuss how high-achieving women can become targets for exploitative partners. They call for more education and awareness to help women protect themselves and make empowered choices in relationships.

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

• Learn more about the Dating After Divorce Academy
• Join Sade’s  free live event, Core Values Dating Live
• FREE PDF Download: 50 Green Flags of a Healthy Relationship

About Natasha Moore:
Natasha Moore is professional nerd and classroom social justice activist serving as a Professor of English at Southwestern Illinois College. Outside of the classroom, she enjoys eating, baking, cycling, traveling with her loved ones, and running her short-term rentals.

Contact Natasha:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SistahTasha
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sistahtasha/
Website: Www.sitbackstays.com

If you're struggling with dating after divorce and need personalized guidance, schedule a complimentary coaching consultation with Sade Curry. Click here to schedule your session.

Dating After Divorce Episode 215: When Are You Ready to Date?

In this Sade Curry delves into the concept of "readiness" for dating after a divorce. She explores the often undefined notion of being "ready" to date and its potential consequences on one's dating journey. Sade discusses the subtle yet powerful belief that many women hold—that they are not ready to date—and how this mindset can keep them stuck.

Episode Highlights:

• Challenging Gender Roles: Discover how societal expectations and internal biases can influence women's perceptions of their readiness to date and how to challenge these narratives.
• Defining Readiness: Sade Curry explains the importance of defining what "ready to date" means for each individual, rather than relying on a vague or universal concept.
• Personal Readiness: Explore factors like finances, schedules, and children in determining your personal readiness for dating after a divorce.
• Empowered vs. Fake Readiness: Understand the difference between empowered readiness, which involves taking responsibility and working towards growth, and fake readiness, which is marked by self-pity and blame.
• Self-Leadership: Sade emphasizes the importance of self-leadership in rebuilding your life and dating journey, highlighting that there is no one-size-fits-all formula
• Empowered Decision-Making: Sade encourages listeners to define their own readiness and make empowered decisions about dating, rather than seeking validation from others.

Key Takeaways:

1. Define Your Own Readiness: Take the time to understand what being ready to date means for you personally, considering all aspects of your life.
2. Challenge Negative Self-Talk: Identify and overcome the mental barriers that may be holding you back from feeling ready to date.
3. Embrace Self-Leadership: Lead your own journey in dating and life, recognizing that there is no universal formula for readiness.
4. Develop Self-Approval: Focus on self-approval and personal growth rather than seeking validation from others.

Resources Mentioned:

• Follow Sade Curry on Instagram: @sadecurry 
• Book a Coaching Consultation: Click here to schedule your session.

Listener Feedback: We love hearing from our listeners! Share your thoughts on this episode and your own experiences with dating after a major life change. Leave us a review  and share this episode with other women dating after divorce

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If you frequently feel hurt, sad, anxious or angry when you are dating, then this episode is for you.

Join Sade Curry as she breaks down the concept of Personalization, a cognitive distortion that creates a ton of negative emotions in life and in relationships.

Want to find a loving partner after divorce? Click here to sign up for the Core Values Dating Blueprint today.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

• How to heal and prepare to be successful at dating after divorce
• How to find the motivation to try online dating
• How to reframe fear as an opportunity
• How to overcome fear of online dating by embracing vulnerability and setting boundaries.

FEATURED ON THE SHOW:

• Learn more about the Dating After Divorce Academy
• FREE PDF Download: 50 Green Flags of a Healthy Relationship

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