Thinking about divorce? The way you approach telling your spouse can determine your safety, your financial future, and your children's wellbeing. This isn't about whether you should leave—it's about understanding what happens when you do.

Most women walk into this conversation with the same mindset that kept them stuck in the relationship. You've minimized problems for years. You've told yourself "I can handle this" or "It's not that bad." That thinking protects you while you're staying. It harms you when you're leaving.

Here's the truth: You cannot approach a difficult spouse with an "everything will work out" mentality. You cannot show all your cards to someone who hides theirs. You cannot expect peaceful co-parenting from someone who disregards your wellbeing.

The solution? Recalibrate before you speak.

First, understand your unique situation. Know where the money sits. Know the risks. Know what leaving the home means in your state.

Second, make a plan. For some women, this means a safety plan. For others, it means gathering financial documents, consulting an attorney, or having support in place. One client took a month to prepare—and that preparation protected her and her children.

Third, build emotional resilience. Prepare for what might happen so you don't get blindsided.

Preparing doesn't mean you have to file. It means you refuse to ignore the issue.

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You know that feeling when you say "I can't believe this is happening"? That phrase reveals something important: you might be stuck in denial.

Divorce shatters your reality. It forces you to question your past, present, and future all at once. Your brain protects you by avoiding these overwhelming truths. But denial keeps you vulnerable. While you refuse to engage, reality moves forward—often against your interests.

Maybe you discovered infidelity. Maybe your spouse blindsided you with divorce papers. Maybe you chose to leave but still find yourself shocked by what happens next. The confusion stems from the cycle of drama: tension builds, an incident explodes, apologies follow, calm returns—then it starts again. This cycle traps you in a fog where you forget why things felt so bad.

Here's what changed everything for me: I grabbed a notebook and documented my daily experiences for 48 days. Not for court. Not to prove anything to anyone. Just to own my reality. Those pages helped me see the patterns I couldn't recognize in the moment.

Documentation creates consciousness. Consciousness creates choice. Choice creates freedom.

Stop comparing the worst moments of your relationship to the best moments of that same relationship. That comparison keeps you trapped. You deserve to know what healthy looks like.

Your relationship with yourself is the longest one you'll ever have. Back yourself up. Trust yourself. Own your experience.

Ready to move forward? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/info and start building the life you deserve.

You might have noticed something different—we changed our name.

Welcome to Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce. Same host, expanded mission.

Here's what happened: I spent years focused on dating after divorce. But the truth? Half my clients work with me on other parts of the divorce journey—thinking about divorce, surviving the process, healing afterward. And I realized I was hiding these stories and frameworks from you.

So we're expanding.

January brings you divorce-focused episodes. Then we return to a mix of dating and divorce content throughout the year. You choose what serves you.

My approach stays the same whether we tackle dating or divorce: I help you cut through the noise. The childhood programming. The societal expectations. The voices that drown out what you want.

Because here's what I know: You can do whatever you choose. The hard part? Figuring out what you want when everyone else tells you what you should want.

I started as a divorce coach in 2016. I pieced together my own healing journey when nothing existed for divorced women. That experience shapes how I work with women today—helping them advocate for themselves without guilt, build lives that fit them, and make decisions from clarity instead of fear.

This year brings more content, more truth, more tools.

Ready to create your extraordinary life? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com/info

You think getting divorced at 23 is too young to learn anything valuable? Think again.

Sade Mickelson, life coach and Chinese medicine expert, shares her story of marrying an Iranian restaurant owner who was arrested for federal drug charges while she was still in college. Instead of walking away, she doubled down—visiting him in prison, planning to move to Iran, and proving her capability at every turn.

The wake-up call came on a broken Ferris wheel in Isfahan. Sae realized she was wishing her entire life away, rushing to reach the end just to prove she picked the right person. She discovered her best friend was having an affair with her husband. But the real revelation came when she told him: "I made you up."

This episode explores how women use their professional strengths—resilience, capability, problem-solving—to stay trapped in relationships that drain them. Sade's story reveals the difference between proving your worth and protecting your peace. She learned that truth feels like freedom, even when it hurts.

Her journey from codependence to self-befriending offers wisdom for any woman rebuilding after divorce. The answer is not figuring everything out tonight.

Ready to stop proving yourself and start protecting your peace? Schedule a consultation call with Sade Curry at https://sadecurry.com/info.

You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach's feed. But here's what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey.

Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren't right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex's new girlfriend or rehearse angry texts, you drain the energy you need to create what you want.

Think about it like this: imagine a room filled with puppies and kittens—everything you love. But a rattlesnake sits in the corner. You won't enjoy a single puppy because your eye stays locked on that snake. That's how your brain works with dating. One wrong thing captures all your focus while opportunities pass you by.

Women tell me they do everything right, yet feel stuck. I always find their attention lives somewhere else—on past hurt, on people's opinions, on what's not working. Your surface actions don't matter when your mind swirls with fear and frustration underneath.

This year, learn to direct your attention consciously. Stop the exhausting mental loops. Create space for the love life you want.

Ready to redirect your attention and momentum in 2026? Schedule a 90-minute Life Momentum Planning Session at sadecurry.com/info. Limited spots available before the holidays.

Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you're navigating the job market or the dating scene.

The Four Moves That Changed Everything:

1. Set Your Intention I put "full-time employee" on my vision board. That simple act trained my brain to spot opportunities I would have missed. When the right door opened, I walked through it.

2. Build Your Network Every good thing comes through people. I made connections outside my team—learned names, asked about families, showed up for others. Those relationships became my safety net.

3. Pivot When You Hear "No" My boss told me there was nowhere to grow. I believed him—and used that truth to find my next move. A "no" doesn't mean you lack value. It means your value belongs somewhere else. This is the same lesson I teach my dating clients: rejection isn't about you. It's information.

4. Ask for Help Closed mouths don't get fed. I leveraged my network. I asked people to recommend me. Three months later, I landed a new role—just before 400 people got laid off.

Your next chapter starts with one decision.

Ready to build the confidence and clarity you need—in love and in life? 📞 Schedule your dating consultation call with Sade today.

You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations?

Here's what I've discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think.

Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there's a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women "should" behave in relationships with men.

Think about it. You match with someone on an app, and the moment he shows interest, something shifts inside you. You feel pressure to prove your loyalty. To respond on his timeline. To show gratitude that he chose you.

That's not your childhood trauma. That's decades of programming about what women owe men.

This conditioning affects how you see your body, how you feel about dating multiple people, and how you respond when a man expects access to your time and attention.

The path forward? Notice without judgment. Slow down. Observe your knee-jerk reactions. Ask yourself: what belief drives this behavior?

Then decide what works for you—not what society dictates.

Self-compassion matters here. Shame will surface. That's okay. Love yourself through it. Adjust without beating yourself up.

You hold the power to create new patterns that lead you to the right person.

Ready to break free from the patterns that hold you back?

Schedule a dating consultation call with me and let's map out your path to a relationship that works for you.

You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here's the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul.

In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don't deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strength gets misapplied. You convince yourself you can handle red flags, emotional immaturity, and disrespect because you've handled worse.

But just because you can handle something doesn't mean you should.

I share a coaching breakthrough with a client who discovered she was tolerating poor behavior simply to prove her strength. We discuss why your intuition knows something's off, yet you override it. We explore the dangerous question: "What's wrong with me?" And I challenge you to ask better questions: "Is this the experience I want? What does this relationship cost me?"

Your power, confidence, and resourcefulness deserve better than babysitting an immature partner. Stop throwing good years after bad. Start asking about your return on investment—not in a transactional way, but by documenting the truth of your experience.

You don't win a prize for enduring what you don't have to endure. Choose yourself.

Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a consultation call with me at [https://sadecurry.com/info].

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men.

In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?"

This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority.

Here's what I mean: You are your own matchmaker. You don't beg someone to text you more. You evaluate if what you want exists in this relationship. If it does, you stay. If it doesn't, you move on. You hold the power.

Think about it this way: Why would you apply to work at McDonald's if you want to study dinosaurs? Yet we do this in dating all the time. We go where what we want doesn't exist, then ask men to change.

Stop that.

Your time, focus, and energy belong to you. Reclaim them. Build momentum toward your real goals. Center yourself first—then watch everything else fall into place.

Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a dating consultation call with Sade at sadecurry.com and discover how to date with confidence and get married again.

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Sade Curry kicks off a new series on what it means to live a relationship-centered life—and why that might be the thing keeping you stuck. You’ll hear Sade unpack the social conditioning that trains women to prioritize everyone else first: partners, kids, bosses, siblings, even exes.

Sade breaks down why simply saying “decenter men” isn’t enough—because the issue runs deeper. Women are conditioned to center relationships, period. That’s why even after divorce, you might still feel pulled in every direction and unable to start the business, write the book, or just book your doctor’s appointment.

This episode gives language to what you may have been feeling: that you’ve been pouring out for others while putting yourself last. Sade shares stories from her own life and coaching practice to show how shifting your focus—centering yourself—is the first step to real freedom and clarity.

You don’t have to blow up your life to change it. You can make grounded, intentional shifts toward the life you want.

Ready to stop putting yourself last?
Let’s talk. Book a free consultation call with Sade Curry and explore how private coaching can help you reclaim your time, focus on your goals, and create the life you want—without losing the people you love.

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