This is a strategy that can apply to nearly everything in life, not just dating. But of course, we’re going to talk about it as it relates to dating.

When you’re overwhelmed and maybe unsure what the answer is to a dilemma, many times you don’t need to wait, search, or find an answer. Often you just need to make a decision.

Have you ever heard of the “miserable maybes”? It’s when you’re stuck in the loop of waiting for the right possibility to drop. The problem is there are various possibilities and you begin thinking, “Well, maybe if this happens, I will…” Then a short time later, you think of another possibility and you say, “No, maybe I should do…” You’re in the miserable maybes of possibilities and it doesn’t feel good. 

It feels different from having possibilities you can consciously choose from, say having two people who want to date you and picking the one you like better.

Miserable maybes happen when you’re not choosing any option and waiting to see what happens but agonizing over it in the meantime.

Make. A. Decision.

You’ll feel much better. So how does this look in the dating world?  You can make decisions like this:

Deciding puts us into action, which is a really good place to be when we’re dating. Making a decision also forces us to have boundaries about a situation and stop living in waiting for a magic solution. Even if you decide and it turns out to be the wrong decision, you probably learn something that will help you in the future.

So, my friend, what is one thing in your personal dating journey that would help you to make a decision on? Often counselors like myself tell our clients the answer is within them and that’s because it is. It just needs you to make a decision for it to appear.

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