Frederik Coene (Selfpress type 6) claims that true Selfgrowth happens, when you face your Taboos.

And there is a lot of Taboos when it comes to Sex. It can indeed be very vulnerable to talk about - especially with our partner. 

The Enneagram can be a gateway.

In this episode we are talking to former EU diplomat Frederik Coene. He is from Belgium and at the moment of the interview situated in Bali with his family on their two years sabbatical.   

He is researching the Enneagram and Sexuality and has had focus groups with Valerie Wannamaker. 

Frederik Coene believes we need to explore our type, subtypes and instincts in order to achieve presence and connection in our intimate relationships. 

Because when we see and understand things about ourselves and our partner, we can communicate with eachother in a better way. 

Frederik pinpoints that sex is not made to gratify our egos and blame the partner if our needs are not being met.

We all have a distorted understandings of what sex are meant for and he urges us to explore, why we have sex. 

He also shares something that surprised him in his research about type 5 with sexual instincts. 

 

Relevant links: 

Searching for people to Focus groups:

http://enneapath.com/ 

 

Free videos: 

https://www.youtube.com/@Enneapath 

 

Flemming Christensen´s work:

https://www.flemmingchristensen.com/