Fantasies, fleshlights, courtesans, and surprisingly sexy minister training—BJ shares how he’s satisfying his curiosities and connecting enthusiastically with partners.

📈STATS | 60s heterosexual cis male, he/him pronouns, non-monogamous, divorced, sexologist, retired pastor, musician, based in American rural midwest, into: connected touch, eye contact, nipple play, receiving blowjobs, painting his toenails.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Embracing his shame-free 60s and recalling early experiences

07:01 Encyclopedia sex ed and filling in the gaps with imagination

12:24 Teaching his gym teacher about sex

19:14 Discovering self pleasure in a dark closet

24:03 Heavy petting and a cycle of guilt in college

27:07 Becoming a minister, explicit films in seminary, and sexuality in the old testament

34:31 Connecting with his wife through sensual massages and fantasy suite experiences

37:22 Playing with fleshlights, prostates, and lube

42:33 Satisfying his legal brothel curiosity

46:01 More love, less war, and pumping gasoline as a turn-on

56:07 Sex work fantasies and craving clothing optional spaces

🤩 TOPICS | Accepting non-monogamy, adolescent curiosity, adult sex education, anal play exploration, arousal through touch, body confidence, body exploration, book-based sex ed, bondage knots, boyhood shame, brothel visit, caregiving turn-ons, clothing optional resorts, college heavy petting, connected intimacy, consensual pleasure, courtesan experiences, curiosity about sex work, early masturbation memories, emotional connection, enthusiastic blowjobs, fantasy suites, feminist sex shops, fleshlights and sex toys, full-service gas station fantasy, guilt and pleasure cycle, healthy masculinity, heterosexual marriage lessons, high libido partners, intimacy after religion, kink workshops, legal Nevada brothel, lifelong sexual curiosity, lube experimentation, male masturbation, making love not war, massage and sensual touch, minister sexuality training, mutual pleasure, nipple play, non-judgmental curiosity, open-minded aging, orgasmic exploration, partner communication, penis pumps, personal erotic bucket list, pleasure and religion, pleasure palace dreams, post-divorce dating, praise for kindness, premarital guilt, prostate stimulation, redefining shame, religious repression, rural Midwest upbringing, self-pleasure discovery, sensual massage, sensual touch, sex and spirituality, sex-positive aging, sexual curiosity in later life, sexual shame, sexual wisdom, sexy theology, solo play, spiritual arousal, toy testing, vulnerability, women’s pleasure, worship through care.

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