Cervical orgasms, sex vacations, and submission—Sarah shares about stepping out of religious shame and embracing her own pleasure.

📈 STATS | 36 bisexual white femme, sub-leaning switch, ex-Christian, single, non-monogamous, actor, singer, writer, instructional designer, Los Angeles-based, into: sensation play, stimulation, touch, hot words, photography, film, environments.

⏰ TIME CODE

00:00 Learning how and when to talk about sex 

04:06 Risk aware play and leaving space for adjustment

08:15 Checking in with her high libido demisexual self and asking for what she needs

14:50 Navigating purity culture and discovering the mechanics of sex growing up

23:21 Religious loopholes and feeling the freedom to finally explore

28:32 A seven inch dildo and erotic photography on a solo sex vacation

36:04 Celebrating the return of easy orgasms and Sarah’s favorite ways to cum 

40:12 Dating online and in Los Angeles

46:58 Creating safe, intentional, and caring connections

53:18 Being queer and eating pussy for the first time in a threesome

57:53 Enjoying pain, sucking cock, and spit play

1:04:29 Seeking a queer Dominant to explore what she needs as a submissive

1:09:04 Casual non-monogamy explorations

1:11:22 Discovering desires on-camera

1:15:48 Turned on by the novelty of new spaces

1:19:04 Helping partners receive pleasure and the joys of listening to her body

🤩 TOPICS | Anal curiosity, art deco erotica, bisexual exploration, body worship, boundaries and consent, casual non-monogamy, cervical stimulation, Christian guilt, clitoral orgasms, communication skills, deep penetration, demisexual desire, dildo play, dominance and submission, erotic awakening, erotic photography, ex-Christian sexuality, exhibitionism, faith deconstruction, fantasy exploration, femme pleasure, finding safe partners, first time pussy eating, gentle kink, group sex, health and STI testing, high libido, instructional design, intimacy communication, kink curiosity, late sexual awakening, learning self-pleasure, masturbation, mutual pleasure, orgasmic confidence, pain and pleasure, partnered exploration, penetration preferences, pleasure education, polyamorous dating, pussy worship, queer desire, queer domme, religious shame, risk-aware play, self-love, sensation play, sex education gaps, sexual empowerment, sexual healing, sexual liberation, sexual self-discovery, sextoy experimentation, solo staycation, spiritual deconstruction, spit play, submission and surrender, threesome experiences, toy exploration, trauma healing, trust and safety, vaginal pleasure, vibrator discovery, voyeurism, worshipping partners.

🔗 SARAH LINKS | @sarahekarnes / skarnes.substack.com

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