This week, Ricky and Bonnie discuss the ineffectiveness of responding to someone who struggles with a phrase like "Just don't be gay..." and how, more often than not, these feelings and struggles are not a choice, but the result of a long journey of unmet needs. They suggest and encourage more thoughtful responses that are more loving (though not affirming in the lifestyle) and that are more likely to open doors for spiritual support and encouragement rooted in truth.