30-Something And Single

Hi, ya’ll! Before I get into Ep. 4, I wanted to take a moment to thank all of you for the love and support. It’s been really cool to run into listeners on the street who resonate with what I have to share. Thank you so SO so much for your opening your hearts and minds to hear what this heart and mind of mine has to say. This past weekend, I got to celebrate another 30-Something year of being alive. My plan was to jet off to LaLaLand (Los Angeles) and drag my girlfriends with me. But because life circumstances happen, I needed to improvise. Instead, one of my best friends hosted a paella party at her home in celebration of my birth. Since it was my birthday, I wanted to do it my way, which meant: 1) No boys, 2) No babies, and 3) You gotta do what I ask. So what did I ask? I asked each woman, all 10 of them, to 1) Introduce yourselves, 2) To brag, 3) Share our love story (How did we meet?) and then 4) Sit there as I get to acknowledge her and her value in my life amongst the group, my sisterhood tribe. Each person got their moment as we feasted on paella and drank Spanish wine. This was my kinda party. I noticed that some of my girlfriends were uncomfortable “bragging” and wasn’t use to all of the talk about feelings and emotions. But because it was my birthday, they kinda had to. I did this intentionally for the very reason why I wrote, recorded and shared a podcast called “Re-valuing Self-Worth.” We as women (and men) forgot our intrinsic value. We forget how valuable we are to our friends, family and community just by being our authentic selves and in relationship with one another. There is a stigma around bragging—and because there is this idea that we don’t want to come off self-indulgent or self-absorbed, we diminish or dilute our accomplishments, our successes and our triumphs so that we don’t look conceited or make other people don’t feel less than. For most of my life, I thought that bragging was bad—that I shouldn’t be talking about myself. It wasn’t until a good friend of mine who introduced to me The School of Womanly Arts and shared Mama Gena’s philosophy and practice on bragging that I got to experience an empowered brag. Empowered brags helped me re-value my self-worth. And in a safe space, brags can help all of us remember and re-value our sense of worthiness. If we can create a space for other people to feel and be full, they will one day have the capacity to do that for us. This episode on re-valuing self-worth is intended to have you look authentically at where you may have placed your sense of worthiness—and then to consider how you’ve been paralyzed in certain areas of your life because you don’t think you’re good enough. When you are able to get real with the conversations you have about your self-worth, you can then work on transforming those stories that aren’t true. Ultimately, you’ll discover that you, my dear, are invaluable. We all know that a person can have all of the fame and riches in the external world but is internally bankrupt because they don’t feel worthy. Re-valuing self-worth is an inside job. As we continue to grow, evolve and expand as human beings, it’s not just important but crucial that we do internal work. Here is Season 1, Ep. 4: Re-valuing Self-Worth. Love always, Ranny

After a few conversations, I was told that the title of Episode 2: Lets Talk About Sex made some of you a little uncomfortable. If it did and you have not listened to it, that’s okay. Maybe after a few more episodes you’ll go back to the second episode of 30-Something And Single to learn that it may not have been what you have thought. Maybe, you’ll never listen to it. Either way: it's all good.  Episode 3 is "The Money Talk." I know, I know: It’s only the beginning, and I’m already getting in pretty deep. If you’ve gotten to interact with me at all in person, you’ll know that this is just how I am. Sex and money, in my opinion, are the two biggest topics that we don’t talk enough about. You’ll find people on a date asking whether or not the other person wants to get married and have kids before they even discuss whether or not their life is conducive to being in a partnership or raising children. Why wait to be in a legally binding contract to learn that the person you have chosen to marry doesn’t have a healthy relationship with money? Or on the flip-side: Why get ourselves into a commitment that will only make us feel insecure or less than because we have not done everything that we could do to prepare ourselves for a life-long partnership?  My relationship with money had been non-existent for a long time until recently when I realized that my relationship with money has hindered me from living my best life—and lets be honest, it has stopped me from being in love. I’d always say that I don’t want to be in a relationship until I got my shit together, while subconsciously thinking that I wasn’t good enough for the kind of man that I was attracted to. I wasn’t being real with myself, because I didn’t really know how much money mattered. As Oprah would always quote Mya, “When you know better, do better.” Before I began this transformed relationship with money, I needed to discover why I had this story that I had about never having a relationship with money. Living in a capitalistic society, it was inauthentic to say that I didn’t have a relationship with money because we all do, in one way or another, whether it’s conscious or subconscious. Some of us were blessed with parents and a community that has taught us the value of money; others were passed down healthy money habits; while most of us had parents who lived paycheck-to-paycheck trying to support a family. Most of our parents did not have the resources, skills nor time to cultivate and nurture a very significant relationship that we will all have as adults—yes, the one with money. Don’t feel bad. Yo’ girl is one of ‘em.  I had been ashamed for too long, and I have no reason to be. It’s time to transform my relationship with money. Ain’t nobody got time to wait for Prince Charming or a sugar daddy.  Again, thank you all for the love and support for this infant podcast of mine. Please continue to share, especially if it has made a difference for you in any way.  Love always,  Ranny Resources: 1. Spending App, Tipsy App and Mint App 2. Money A Love Story by Kate Northup 3. The Law of Divine Compensation by Marianne Williamson 4. Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill 5. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey

Yep, I’m going there. I’m just gonna put it all out there. I have just released a podcast about S-E-X [insert gasps]. Most of us, if not all, have had sex and/or will have sex. (Hey, you might just be doing it now.) In this second episode, I talk about an intimate and—in a lot of ways—taboo topic in most cultures. My relationship with sex has been an interesting one that has led me to become super mindful about sex in my 30s. I packed a shitload of information into 20 minutes when this is a conversation that is meant to be had within a lifetime. As always, the ideas that I share are just some things to consider and maybe explore. To learn more about the topics I discussed, Google the 2nd chakra and sexual transmutation (a concept from Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill). I enjoy having multi-layered, sometimes messy, conversations on topics that we can all relate to, like sex. So if you have something to share or to contribute, please comment to any one of my threads on social media.

Hello, beautiful people! It’s year of the Rooster, the Aquarius full moon and the day that 30-Something And Single has launched its first podcast. Finally, right? For those of you who have stumbled upon this little podcast, my name is Ranny Kang—pronounced RAN-nee KAYNG. I got lucky considering that my doctor and nurses gave me my first name. Now that you know something about me, here’s an intro to 30-Something And Single, a podcast created to inspire humans to live heart driven and head guided while exploring existing paradigms that suppress and oppress authentic self-expression. Essentially, yo’ girl is expanding the idea of what it means to be happy, what it means to be human and what it means to live a good and meaningful life. As a person who came from a family with limited resources and didn’t have the language to nurture my creativity, I began my path on the yellow brick road, but as I got older and experienced a few, what I would call, “plot-holes” along the way, I realized that the yellow brick road wasn’t as glamorous as it seemed. So, I detoured off path, got a little lost and found a different route. Without a doubt, it’s not the easy route, but it’s exciting, keeping me on my toes—and I mean, it’s fun as hell (I’ll leave that open for interpretation)—more importantly this path has less rules giving me more freedom to explore at my pace. Now, at 30-something, I am confident in what I have to share since I have experienced what I teach in one form or another. And as a single person, I can say that I’ve learned to love myself enough to know what feeds my soul, and what doesn’t. 30-Something And Single isn’t just about dating and relationship. Though there will be some of that, this self-produced podcast is mostly about my personal experiences in spiritual growth and of self-love and how it’s important to cultivate the relationship with Self so that we can contribute to the whole, the collective and humanity, through authentic self-expression. Ultimately, if we don’t know how to love ourselves, how can we truly love others? How can I be the most loving wife, mother, daughter, sister or partner to another human being if I don’t know how to love me? Because what is the most important thing to me? My relationships. When I was 19, I picked up a book called The Go-Girl Guide: Surviving Your Soul with Savvy, Soul and Style by Julia Bourland. I don’t remember the philosophies shared, but I do remember this random book that I pulled off the shelf making a difference in my life after breaking up with my high school sweetheart right before leaving my adolescence, transitioning into a young lady and coming into my own. This book inspired me to write a book so that I, too, could make a difference in someone else’s life. But as I learned, writing a book ain’t easy, nor is there space on traditional platforms for a non-conformist to fit in. So, here I am: on a platform built on a deeply rooted foundation that I have metaphorically dug up with my own bare hands sharing all of the wisdom and philosophy that I have gathered in the first 30-something years of my life with hopes that it brings value and makes a positive difference for you and your life. Alright that’s enough for the show notes, I hope you get something out of this first episode. Happy listening! Love always, Ranny