Love Each Other Better

39: When Talking More Doesn't Help: Breaking the Loop of Feeling Unheard


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In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I'm kicking off a new series on the communication patterns that keep couples stuck — and how to get unstuck. We're starting with one of the most common: when one partner talks more and more to feel heard, while the other gets overwhelmed and pulls away to find relief. It's a loop that leaves both people feeling disconnected, even though both are trying.

I'll introduce a powerful concept from Nonviolent Communication: interrupting for the sake of connection. It's a way to pause, reflect, and stay present without shutting each other down. We'll also talk about reflective listening, and how it can radically shift the energy of a conversation in an instant.

If you've ever felt like you're talking past each other instead of with each other, this one's for you.

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