In this episode, I’m unpacking one of the most common — and most disconnecting — phrases I hear in relationships: “You made me feel…”

It sounds honest. It feels true. But in reality, it often leads to defensiveness, arguments, and emotional distance.

Drawing from the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I’ll walk you through why this phrase contains a subtle form of blame — even if you don’t mean it that way — and how shifting the way you express your feelings can lead to more understanding, more connection, and more of your needs being met.

You’ll learn:

• Why saying “You made me feel…” can derail communication

• The key difference between stimulating feelings vs. causing them

• A more effective and connected way to talk about your emotions

• How to take self-responsibility without self-blame — and why it matters

If you’ve ever felt like you’re trying to be honest, but it only seems to start a fight, this episode will give you a new way forward.

🎧 Want more tools like this? Come join my free private Facebook group: NVC for Couples: Transform Your Relationship One Conversation at a Time It’s a space to connect with me, ask your questions, and get support from others who are practicing these tools in real life.

Free Resources

Feelings and Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In: www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse

Connect with your host!

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private + Free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

Teri and David have been married for nearly 41 years, and like many couples, they often found themselves caught in repetitive arguments—both about new challenges and unresolved old issues. In this uplifting episode, they share how Ali’s NVC-based Small Group Coaching Program for Couples gave them practical tools to openly discuss and finally resolve both fresh conflicts and long-standing tensions without pulling away from each other. By putting Nonviolent Communication into practice, they broke the cycle of sweeping problems under the rug and discovered renewed hope, empathy, and a stronger connection. Their inspiring journey shows it’s never too late to transform how you communicate and relate.

Connect with Ali:

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Book a call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45

Email Ali: [email protected]

We tell kids to “use your words” — but the truth is, most adults still don’t know how.

We hide our feelings, fear sounding “needy,” and hope our partners will just know what we need — then feel hurt or resentful when they don’t.

In this episode, I unpack why adult communication breaks down so often, how unmet needs and unspoken feelings quietly sabotage our relationships, and why using your words — with clarity, vulnerability, and skill — can be the most powerful thing you do to get closer, feel seen, and have your needs met.

You’ll learn how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) helps you speak honestly without starting a fight, and how this one shift — using your words intentionally — can change everything in your relationship, from tension, frustration, and resentment to clarity, closeness, and care.

🎧 Whether you're feeling misunderstood, walking on eggshells, or just tired of the same old arguments — this one’s for you.

Get your free lists of feelings and needs here: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Connect with Ali:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Email me: [email protected]

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

I'm having a party and you're invited!

I sat down with Jen Brummer of Grok the World to demystify what a Grok Party actually is — and why it might be exactly what you didn’t know you needed.

Jen will be facilitating the Grok Party that I'm hosting this Friday, June 13 at 11am EDT. In this episode, we talk about what you'll experience during this low-pressure, fun, and highly interactive group experience based on Nonviolent Communication (NVC), how Jen creates a safe, welcoming space (even for shy folks), and what you’ll walk away with: practical tools to improve your communication, deepen your relationships, and better understand your own emotional world.

Stay tuned til the end where we even demo one of the games you'll get to try if you join us this Friday, June 13 — so you can get a feel for how it works and why it’s so powerful.

Come for the curiosity. Stay for the playful-yet-deep human connection. And leave with practical tools and a refreshing way of seeing yourself and others.

Register for free here: https://groktheworld.com/pages/grok-party-ali-miller

Connect with Ali:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Email me: [email protected]

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

Connect with Jen and Grok the World:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/grok.the.world

Website: https://www.groktheworld.com

We all experience moments of hurt, frustration, or disappointment in relationship—but how do we address them without making things worse? 

How can you talk about the things that bother you in a way that doesn’t escalate the conflict or further damage the connection?

In this episode, we’ll explore the critical difference between intent and impact and why both matter. Most of the time, your partner is probably not trying to hurt you—they’re trying to meet a need. But when the impact of their actions does hurt, that still really matters. 

When you can talk about both the intent behind their actions AND the impact it had on you, you open up the possibility of not only deepening your understanding and strengthening your bond, but also finding solutions to the challenges in your relationship that genuinely work for both of you. 

Tune in to episode 28 for actionable advice that will help you approach those painful moments with clarity, curiosity, and the tools you need to build a stronger + realer relationship, together.

Your love story isn’t broken—it’s just waiting for a deeper, more compassionate conversation.

Resources mentioned in the show

Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/freeminicourse

Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: Group Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupprogram

Apply for Stop Fighting! Private Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting

Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45

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Connect with me on social media:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Email me: [email protected]

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

In this episode I'm so honored to be joined by Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas to explore the impact of patriarchy, sexism, and misogyny in heterosexual relationships and how to break free from this toxic conditioning that contributes to so much pain for so many people. Vivek shares his own personal journey of recognizing and unlearning his own sexist conditioning and how this profoundly improved his own marriage. He also offers practical tips for how others can do this, too.  Vivek emphasizes the importance of redefining masculinity, dismantling hierarchical mindsets, and the power of self-compassion to support honest conversations between men and women about the impacts of sexism on their relationships. 

Tune in for a raw, real, and inspiring conversation about deprogramming patriarchy, embracing vulnerability, and breaking free from toxic masculinity.

CONNECT WITH VIVEK PATEL

Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas has been sharing Conscious Parenting concepts for over 15 years. The ideas he shares have been used by thousands of families to create more harmony and connection in their homes. He has written more than 500 parenting articles and created over 300 videos. There is also a book in the works. Vivek cares deeply about empowering parents to develop more harmonious relationships with their kids using a powerful approach called “Non-Coercive, Collaborative Parenting”, based on Communication, Connection, and Collaboration.

He is also best friends with his 27 yr old.

Check out Vivek's social media @meaningfulideas http://www.facebook.com/meaningfulideas http://www.instagram.com/meaningfulideas https://www.youtube.com/meaningfulideas https://www.twitter.com/meaningfulideas https://www.tiktok.com/@meaningfulideas http://www.meaningfulideas.com If you'd like to receive more personalised and intimate parenting support from Vivek, please consider joining his parenting support group: https://www.meaningfulideas.com/courses/meaningful-ideas-membership

Sign up for Vivek's FREE COURSE "Guiding Without Controlling". Registration Link https://meaningfulideas.com/fp/guiding-without-controlling-free-course

CONNECT WITH ALI MILLER

Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: 6-Month Group Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupprogram

Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45

Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Connect with me on social media:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Email me: [email protected]

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

In this insightful episode of the Love Each Other Better Podcast, I’m honored to have a very special guest, relationship expert Maya Diamond. Maya guides us in a deep-dive into the fascinating world of attachment theory. She unravels the complexities of the four primary attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and fearful avoidant—and explores how our childhood experiences shape the way we connect in adult relationships.

Maya shares practical, actionable advice for healing insecure attachment styles, offering listeners valuable tools to foster more secure and fulfilling connections. 

Whether you're seeking to understand your own attachment style or improve your relationships, this episode is packed with insights and strategies to build deeper, more meaningful connections.

Tune in to learn how to heal childhood wounds, cultivate secure attachments, and communicate effectively for a stronger, healthier partnership!

ABOUT MY GUEST

Maya Diamond is an expert Dating and Relationship Coach who is known for helping people finally find their beloved after years of trying, so that they can have happy, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships. She specializes in helping people heal their insecure attachment and find healthy secure love. Maya is a trained psychotherapist and holds a Master’s Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. In 2018, Maya was named one of the best life coaches in San Francisco by Expertise.com. In 2014, she was named one of the Best Relationship Experts in California by DatingAdvice.com. Maya's dating advice has been featured on mindbodygreen.com and elephant journal.com. She shared her message on the TedX stage, with her talk, “The Surprising Key to Building a Healthy Relationship that Lasts.”

CONNECT WITH MAYA DIAMOND

Go to empowerlove.us/apply to book your free love breakthrough call with Maya

Website: empowerlove.us Instagram: mayadiamond.empowerlove Fbook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/maptolastinglove/?ref=share&mibextid=wwXIfr

Podcast: Rewire Your Attachment Style https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rewire-your-attachment-style-with-maya-diamond/id1499735786

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CONNECT WITH ALI MILLER

Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: 6-Month Group Coaching Program for Couples at https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupprogram

Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45

Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Connect with me on social media:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Email me: [email protected]

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

In this episode we dive into how to communicate assertively without crossing into aggression. I share powerful insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and offer practical tools to help you ask for what you want in a way that empowers you AND strengthens your connection with others. Whether you're navigating conflict with your partner, or just want to communicate more effectively, I’ve got heart-centered tips to help you create happier, more satisfying relationships.

If you've ever wondered how to speak up for yourself without being confrontational, this episode is for you!

Resources

Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45

Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Connect with me on social media:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Email me: [email protected]

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I’m thrilled to welcome Roxy Manning, PhD, a psychologist, Nonviolent Communication trainer, and the author of How to Have Anti-Racist Conversations. Together, we explore the concept of the Beloved Community, inspired by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and how it ties into Roxy’s work and activism.

We dive into topics like having authentic and courageous conversations, addressing systems of oppression within families, and navigating how to handle harm in relationships. We also discuss the difference between positive and negative peace, and why being fierce—engaging in “necessary trouble”—is essential for real change.

In a special segment, we role-play how to open up a meaningful conversation about patriarchy and sexism within a heterosexual relationship, offering practical tools and approaches for navigating these sensitive yet critical discussions.

You won’t want to miss Roxy’s inspiring vision for a more just and equitable future, along with actionable ways to connect with her transformative work. This is a conversation full of wisdom, heart, and hope!

Connect with my guest, Roxy Mannning, PhD

Clinical psychologist, certified trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication, and co-host of the podcast Fierce Compassion. As a Black Caribbean immigrant to the US, Roxy Manning brings a unique, intersectional lens to her organizational work, focusing on transforming communication to foster justice and equity. Author of How to Have Antiracist Conversations and coauthor of The Antiracist Heart, her writing provides practical tools for antiracist dialogue and building compassionate communities. Dr. Manning lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, inspiring change internationally through her teachings and writings. Find her books, writing, and podcast at https://www. roxannemanning.com.

Connect with your host, Ali Miller

https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com

Stop Fighting Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/StopFighting

https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

[email protected]

Welcome to a special New Year’s episode! As we say goodbye to 2024 and look ahead to 2025, I’m diving into the idea of Relationship Resolutions. Whether it’s your partner, kids, friends, coworkers, or even yourself, the relationships in our lives shape so much of our joy and fulfillment.

In this episode, I share simple, practical ideas for strengthening those connections in meaningful ways. Using insights from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I’ll guide you through reflection and goal-setting so you can show up with more intention, communicate more clearly, and build relationships that truly enrich your life.

Let’s reflect on the past year, dream big for the next one, and take small, actionable steps toward making 2025 your best year yet.

Resources

List of Universal Human Needs/Values: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds

Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting

Small Group Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/groupcoachingprogram

Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

Email: [email protected]

Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alimillercoaching