Are you stuck in the trap of needing to be approved of to feel secure? This episode shows how external validation can quietly erode identity — and what it takes to break free.

What happens when the version of you that people applaud is the very version you’re outgrowing?

In this powerful opening to Week 10, Julie Holly names a quiet trap many high-capacity humans fall into: approval as identity. Whether you're navigating public leadership, relational shifts, or internal fatigue, this episode calls out the prison of external validation — and shows how to root your worth in something unshakable.

Julie shares a raw, real-time story about facing failure in commercial real estate, and the identity unraveling that followed. You'll hear how the fear of being seen failing became louder than the failure itself — and how separating facts from fiction revealed a more anchored identity underneath.

You’ll also hear:

• The psychological toll of identity conflict — and how it plays out in high performers
• How approval becomes a false safety net that slowly erodes clarity and courage
• The shift from performative peacekeeping to aligned leadership
• A real-life recalibration story from Truett Cathy, founder of Chick-fil-A
• Why ILR doesn’t start with behavior — it starts with being
• What it looks like to stop chasing affirmation and start anchoring to vertical truth

Today’s Micro-Recalibration:
Name one area where you’ve been performing for approval — and ask what it’s costing you in identity.
If you lead others, practice showing up from alignment, not consensus. Clarity isn’t unkind — it’s responsible.

You don’t have to keep performing for peace.
It’s time to break free.

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