If your loved one says they’re sober but part of you still isn’t sure, this episode is for you.

After living through lies, gaslighting, and constant second-guessing, rebuilding trust can feel impossible. You want to believe them. You want your relationship to work. But you’re also exhausted from checking, doubting, and playing detective.

In this episode, Addiction Relationship Coach Amanda Lockyer explains what rebuilding trust really looks like after addiction, without losing yourself in the process. Y

What We Talk About

• Why “you just have to trust me” doesn’t work after addiction
• The first (and most important) step: rebuilding trust with yourself
• How to use boundaries and clarity, not control, to feel safe
• What to do in the “messy middle” when things are better, but not good yet
• Why noticing when words and actions align is the key to lasting trust
• How to support recovery without turning into the sobriety police

For Listeners Who Are In the “Messy Middle”

If you’re trying to stop living in detective mode, but you don’t know what to do next, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

👉 Book a friendly chat to talk through your next small, best step forward in peace - Click here to find a time

Or, if you’d prefer, send me a DM on Instagram @addictionmakesthree and we can talk through what’s feeling hardest right now.

Listen next:

Ep 35 - When You're Scared to Set the Boundary, Start Here.

Ep 53 - Are you Gaslighting Yourself? The Quiet Habbit Keeping you Stuck

Ep 65 - What no one warns you about when they go to rehab

Ep 28 - Your Unexpected Resentment in Their Recovery

💌 Need support for yourself (not just your loved one)? Book in a no-pressure chat with Amanda to share what's going on and find out what your next best smallest steps are, or join the waitlist for the next intake to the Pathway to Wellness Program.

👉 Resources and support:

1️⃣ You can book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like. Because you know you’ve been trying ‘this way’ for long enough and it's not helping anyone.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

2️⃣ join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

3️⃣ If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

4️⃣ Connect with Amanda on Instagram @addictionmakesthree

5️⃣ Questions or reflections → [email protected]

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

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