Addiction Makes Three

You can learn to trust yourself again, feel more confident navigating difficult moments, support someone you love without losing yourself, and start living your own life again.

That's exactly what we work towards inside Pathway to Wellness, my three-month personalised coaching programme.

Doors are open for our November intake! We begin on 10 November, and enrolment closes on 7 November.

💜 There are two ways to take the next step:

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Join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist. and I'll be in touch with more information and future opportunities to join.

You don't have to wait for your loved one to change before you begin making changes for yourself.

Because you matter too. 💛

And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at [email protected]

You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself.

Have you ever checked the alcohol bottles, replayed a conversation or searched for evidence of drinking - and then wondered what on earth has happened to you?

Maybe your husband tells you one thing, but what you're seeing doesn't quite add up.

Maybe everyone else sees a successful man and a lovely family, while you're at home questioning what happened, what was said and whether you can trust your own judgement anymore.

If you've ever thought, I feel like I'm going crazy, this episode is for you.

In Episode 111 of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares some of the things she did while trying to make sense of her husband's drinking — including weighing bottles, counting beers and checking hiding places.

We explore how living with addiction and unpredictability can leave you constantly searching for answers, and how to begin trusting yourself again.

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Have you ever been out with friends, laughing and enjoying yourself, then suddenly felt guilty because your husband is at home struggling?

Or felt relieved to have a peaceful evening without him there - only to feel terrible for even thinking that?

When you love someone struggling with alcohol or addiction, guilt can creep into the most unexpected moments.

In Episode 110 of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares her own experience of losing touch with her happiness, including the heartbreaking moment she realised how long it had been since she'd heard herself laugh.

We talk about the guilt that comes with loving someone who is struggling - and why you don't have to put your own life on hold to prove you care.

In this episode:

• Why having fun or spending time with friends can leave you feeling guilty
• Feeling bad for wanting space or enjoying the peace when your partner isn't home
• The heartbreak of seeing your children disappointed or living a different childhood from the one you imagined
• Why trying to make up for everything can leave you exhausted
• Feeling guilty for still being hurt or unhappy when your husband is sober and working on his recovery
• How to distinguish guilty feelings from the things you're actually responsible for

Keep listening

If this episode resonates, explore these conversations next:

• Episode 109: Are You Waiting for Him to Get Better Before You Can Be Happy?
• Episode 107: They've Stopped Drinking. Why Are Things Still So Hard?

Ready for support with the how?

If you're carrying guilt, worry and responsibility and you're unsure what to do next, Amanda's eight-week group programme, Recovery Reclaimed Together, offers practical support for women who love someone struggling with alcohol or addiction.

You don't need your partner to be sober, and you don't have to decide whether you're staying or leaving before getting support for yourself.

Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together

It's my eight-week guided program for people impacted by a loved one's addiction, where we work through the everyday situations that can feel so difficult to navigate.

With practical tools, group coaching and a supportive private community, you'll learn how to respond to challenging situations, understand what's yours to take responsibility for and start making changes that support your own wellbeing.

You don't have to wait for your husband to stop drinking, admit there's a problem or go to rehab before you can get support for yourself.

Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together

And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at [email protected]

You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself.

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Are you waiting for your husband to stop drinking before you can finally relax?

Maybe he's working hard on his sobriety. Maybe he's been to rehab. Maybe you're watching for signs that this time will be different.

You want to feel hopeful. But you're also exhausted.

Because even when things are going well, there's still that question in the back of your mind: What if it doesn't last?

And somewhere along the way, you might have started putting your own life on hold.

The friendships. The hobbies. The plans. The things that used to make you feel like you.

All waiting until things with him finally settle down.

In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda shares why it's so easy to become consumed by a loved one's drinking or recovery - and what can happen when your own wellbeing starts depending entirely on how they're doing.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why you might still feel worried and exhausted even when he's making progress in recovery.
• How watching his moods, meetings and behaviour can take over your day.
• The hidden cost of waiting for things to get better before making plans for yourself.
• Why focusing on your wellbeing doesn't mean giving up on him.
• One small way to reconnect with the things you enjoyed before his drinking became such a big part of your life.

You can love him, hope for his recovery and begin making changes for yourself. Those things can coexist.

If you're tired of checking, second-guessing yourself and feeling like your whole day revolves around whether your husband is drinking, I'd love to invite you into Recovery Reclaimed Together.

It's my eight-week program for people impacted by a loved one's addiction, where we work through the everyday situations that can feel so difficult to navigate.

With practical tools, group coaching and a supportive private community, you'll learn how to respond to challenging situations, understand what's yours to take responsibility for and start making changes that support your own wellbeing.

You don't have to wait for your husband to stop drinking, admit there's a problem or go to rehab before you can get support for yourself.

Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together

And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at [email protected]

You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself.

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Your husband says he hasn't been drinking. But something feels off. You ask him, he says no, and now you're questioning yourself. How do you know what to believe when trust has been broken before?

Maybe it's the way he's speaking. Maybe he's unusually chatty or quiet. Maybe his behaviour just doesn't seem quite right.

So you ask him if he's been drinking.

He looks you in the eye and says no.

And now you're left wondering whether to believe him or trust what you're noticing.

If you've been lied to about drinking before, it's understandable that you might find yourself questioning everything. You start watching his behaviour, checking for bottles, looking for clues and trying to work out what's really happening.

And before you know it, you've become the detective in your own relationship.

In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, we're talking about what happens when trust has been broken, why you might find yourself constantly checking for signs of drinking, and how to start rebuilding trust in yourself.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why you might question yourself when your husband denies drinking
• How repeated dishonesty can leave you feeling confused and unsure of what to believe
• Why you start checking, watching and looking for evidence
• What to do when something feels wrong but you don't know for certain whether he's been drinking
• Why rebuilding trust in yourself matters just as much as rebuilding trust in your relationship

Here's something I really want you to hear:

You don't have to know for certain whether he's been drinking before you can decide what feels okay for you.

You can notice the behaviour, consider what you need and make decisions that support you, even when you don't have all the answers.

And you don't have to figure out how to do that alone.

If you're tired of checking, second-guessing yourself and feeling like your whole day revolves around whether your husband is drinking, I'd love to invite you into Recovery Reclaimed Together.

It's my eight-week program for people impacted by a loved one's addiction, where we work through the everyday situations that can feel so difficult to navigate.

With practical tools, group coaching and a supportive private community, you'll learn how to respond to challenging situations, understand what's yours to take responsibility for and start making changes that support your own wellbeing.

You don't have to wait for your husband to stop drinking, admit there's a problem or go to rehab before you can get support for yourself.

Find out more about Recovery Reclaimed Together

And if you're unsure whether it's right for you, you can email me at [email protected]

You don't have to solve everything that's happening with your husband before you can begin looking after yourself.

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Your husband has stopped drinking. Which is great.

Maybe it's been six months, nine months or even a year.

So why are you still walking on eggshells? Why do certain conversations still feel impossible? And why doesn't home feel the way you hoped it would?

In Episode 107 of Addiction Makes Three, I'm talking about the difference between sobriety and recovery - because while they're often used interchangeably, they're not the same thing.

We explore why stopping drinking is such an important milestone, but doesn't automatically rebuild trust, connection or emotional safety. And what recovery can start to look like through accountability, willingness to have difficult conversations and small steps towards repairing relationships.

We also talk about something that's often overlooked: spouses and families need recovery too.

If your loved one is sober but you're still feeling confused, disconnected or unsure what comes next, this episode is for you.

If you'd like more support, you can explore my Discovery to Recovery programme or book a friendly chat with me.

If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady.

Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear.

If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start.

If you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step.

Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses.

If you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist.

This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction.

If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through.

It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step.

You don't have to keep carrying this on your own.

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He has a good job. He's respected, successful, and everyone thinks he's a great guy.

But behind closed doors? It's a different story.

You're watching how much he drinks, walking on eggshells, and wondering whether tonight will be peaceful.

And you keep asking yourself: Is my husband an alcoholic? Or am I making too much of this?

In this episode of Addiction Makes Three, Amanda explores why alcoholism doesn't always look the way we expect, the confusion surrounding the term functioning alcoholic, and why finding the right label might not be the most helpful place to start.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why someone's drinking can be a problem even when they appear to be functioning
• The two very different versions of your loved one
• Why waiting for them to admit there's a problem can keep you stuck
• The question that can help you begin moving forward

Because it doesn't have to be a problem for them, for it to be a problem for you.

🎧 Listen now, and if this feels familiar, you might also find Episode 2, The Blurry Beginning, helpful. And then Episode 5, What about us.

If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady.

Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear.

If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start.

If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through.

It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step.

You don't have to keep carrying this on your own.

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One of the most common things I hear from partners and family members is...

"I don't know what to do anymore."

If you've ever found yourself wondering:

• Should I stay or leave?
• How do I support someone with addiction?
• What boundaries should I set?
• Should I tell the kids?
• How do I know if I'm doing the right thing?

...this episode is for you.

Living alongside addiction is exhausting. You're often carrying the emotional weight of the family, trying to protect your children, making impossible decisions, and second-guessing yourself every step of the way.

In this episode, I share why feeling confused doesn't mean you're weak or incapable. It often means you've been carrying far too much for far too long.

We'll talk about:

• Why "I don't know what to do" is such a common experience
• Decision fatigue and emotional overwhelm
• Why clarity feels impossible when you're in survival mode
• The hidden impact of hypervigilance
• How to stop trying to solve the next ten years
• A gentler question that can help you find your next step
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If you've been searching for answers while supporting a loved one with alcohol or drug addiction, I hope this episode helps you feel a little less alone.

If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady.

Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear.

If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start.

If you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step.

Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses.

If you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist.

This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction.

If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through.

It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step.

You don't have to keep carrying this on your own.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When someone you love is struggling with addiction, it's natural to focus on the obvious signs. Are they drinking? Using? Going to meetings? Following through with treatment?

But what if some of the most meaningful signs of recovery are the ones we almost always miss?

In this first From My Notebook episode, I'm sharing a story that has stayed with me long after a coaching session ended. It starts with a lemon tree... but it's really about recognising the quiet moments that tell us someone is slowly finding their way back to themselves.

If you're supporting a loved one with addiction, feeling exhausted, hypervigilant, or constantly searching for reassurance, this episode will gently invite you to look beyond the crisis and notice the ordinary moments where hope quietly begins.

• Why families and spouses naturally become hypervigilant when living with addiction.
• The quiet signs of recovery we often overlook.
• Why recovery is about more than sobriety.
• How noticing the small moments can help you reconnect with hope.
• Why healing begins long before life feels "fixed."

Because sometimes recovery doesn't arrive with fireworks, or a grand entrance announcing itself.

Sometimes... it quietly arrives with lemons.

If this episode resonated and you're wondering, "Where do I even begin?", Discovery to Recovery is your first step out of chaos and into feeling steady.

Designed for partners and family members affected by addiction, this self-paced programme helps you move out of survival mode, understand what's happening, quiet the overwhelm, and begin making small choices and decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear.

If you're feeling stuck, constantly overthinking, or unsure what to do next, this is where I'd encourage you to start.

If you've already begun that journey and you're ready for more practical tools, deeper understanding, and ongoing support, Recovery Reclaimed is your next step.

Together we'll help you strengthen your boundaries, rebuild trust in yourself, gain greater clarity, and move forward with confidence—regardless of what your loved one chooses.

If you're ready for personalised coaching, live support, and a community of people who truly understand, you can join the Pathway to Wellness waitlist.

This is my signature coaching programme, designed to help you reconnect with yourself, create lasting change, and build a life that no longer revolves around addiction.

If you're unsure which path is right for you, you're always welcome to book in a friendly chat to talk it through.

It's a private, no-pressure conversation where I'll listen to what's happening for you, help you make sense of where you are, and recommend what I believe would be your best next step.

You don't have to keep carrying this on your own.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your peace didn't have to wait?

So many of us quietly tell ourselves:

💛 "I'll feel better when they stop drinking."

💛 "I'll relax when they get help."

💛 "I'll be happy when things settle down."

But what if peace doesn't arrive at the end of someone else's recovery journey?

In this episode, Amanda shares two powerful voice notes from a listener whose words capture something so many families affected by addiction experience:

We can't make someone stop drinking.

We can't force someone into recovery.

But we can begin changing where we put our time, energy and focus, and support someone in a healthy way.

In this episode we are talking about

• Why trying to change someone else's drinking leaves us exhausted
• The difference between supporting someone and carrying them
• Why your wellbeing doesn't have to depend on someone else's choices
• What you can and can't control when living with a loved one's addiction
• How to begin finding peace, whether your loved one is drinking, sober or somewhere in between

If you've ever found yourself searching for:

• How do I stop worrying about my husband's drinking?

• How do I find peace when someone I love has an addiction?

• Why do I feel responsible for someone else's recovery?

• How do I support someone without losing myself?

This episode is for you.

If today's episode resonated, I'd love to invite you to explore Discovery to Recovery.

Discovery to Recovery is my coaching programme for partners and family members affected by addiction. It's designed to help you stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, reconnect with yourself, and find more peace, regardless of where your loved one is on their journey.

You don't have to wait for someone else to change before you start changing your own experience. Find out more here

👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT?

If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.

It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.

book in a friendly chat to talk it through

The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.

Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program

Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support.

You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.

And you deserve to live your life too.

And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.

If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.

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If you've been feeling exhausted lately... but it's not the kind of exhaustion sleep fixes... this episode is for you.

When you're living with a partner or loved one struggling with alcohol addiction or substance use, it's not just the drinking that's exhausting.

It's the constant worrying.

The overthinking.

The planning.

The scanning.

The mental load of trying to keep everything together while wondering what kind of day or night it's going to be.

In this episode, Amanda shares more powerful listener voice notes from the OUT LOUD series and explores the invisible weight so many families carry but rarely talk about.

If you've ever found yourself thinking:

💛 Why am I so exhausted all the time?

💛 Why can't I switch off?

💛 Why am I always thinking about their drinking?

💛 Why does it feel like my brain never stops?

This episode will help you understand why.

How to Let Go Without Giving Up

How to Find Peace Whether Your Loved One Is Sober Or Not

If today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to invite you to my free live workshop.

Together we'll explore how to stop carrying so much of what was never yours to carry, how to find more peace in the moments you can control, and how to reconnect with yourself again - without giving up on the person you love.

Whether your loved one is actively drinking, in recovery, or somewhere in between, you'll leave with practical tools and a new way of thinking about your own wellbeing.

July 2nd | 3rd (replay will be available)

Register your spot here

👉 NEED MORE SUPPORT?

If you're exhausted, overwhelmed, or wondering what comes next, you're welcome to book a private Friendly Chat with Amanda.

It's a safe, confidential space to talk through what's happening, what you're struggling with, and what support might help.

book in a friendly chat to talk it through

The waitlist for Pathway to Wellness is open if you’d like to find out more about Amanda’s small group coaching program designed to support partners and families impacted by addiction.

👉 Join the Waitlist for the Pathway to Wellness Program

Private and confidential. No pressure. Just support.

You were never supposed to carry this much for this long.

And you deserve to live your life too.

And when you are off the addiction roller coaster, and living your life, you're better for you, your family and your loved one and you can lead the way for change in your family.

If you’re ready for support to create real change, you don’t have to do this on your own.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.