February 28, 2023

#7 - Kinky Q & A: Labels - a double sided sword & Kinky Formative Experiences

45 minutes

In this episode we answer two fabulous listener’s comments:

@curvycandyyyy wrote in:

The podcast feels like sitting with cool friends in a café and a lot of fun to watch!

I’m not sure this fits the theme or audience. It’s a thought about when you are first introduced to kink there’s an entry exam you didn’t study for asking what role you are. I wish for less emphasis on titles, more on living the experience. If you don’t know, you don’t grow…it takes time.

I love to break the stereotype of being a little as a mature *smirk* adult. I can appreciate there is controversy depending on what you call the dynamics. The fetish world spun me around trying to explain this “role” to me vs me defining myself.

When I tell someone I have a little side, they associate that with something too innocent (baby-ish) or much more taboo than I am. I am not submissive by nature, I am not into age play or regression, I am not the picture of represented littles I see in the lifestyle (age, size, etc.) All these things I know aren’t cookie cutter but it does bring challenges finding friends in common without bias.

It can be frustrating when you feel misunderstood for an involuntary mindset vs a role you aren’t playing. I still struggle now & then how to bring both the lion with the lamb forward in kink. I am continuously learning thorough self-discovery whatever is inside me sexually is not meant to stay little.

Thanks for thought-provoking conversations I didn’t know I was missing. I look forward to future episodes. Best!

@chillifour Wrote us with:

Loved listening to Ep2 about finding Huster magazines in the woods. I had that experience of finding torn pages in bushes and trees. My first copy of Hustler still enjoying it’s staples was in my grandparents bedside cabinet, along with a dog-eared copy of The Story of O. I’ve grown up becoming more and more aware of my desire for kink and a need on my submissive side. Do you think early subconscious experiences gives us permission to act upon what we discover consciously about ourselves at a later time? Loving the podcast by the way - I have so many comments on it! :)

Thank you both SO MUCH for the fabulous conversations!

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