You know boundaries matter — so why does saying no still feel like betrayal? This episode exposes the deeper identity-level misalignment and shows you how to create boundaries that don’t just work… but feel like you.

You know the script: You say yes, even when you're stretched thin. You keep the peace, carry the load, and tell yourself, “This is just what it takes.”

But beneath that over-functioning is a quieter truth:
 Saying no still feels wrong — not because you're weak, but because your identity is wired for performance and approval.

In this episode of the Identity-Level Recalibration podcast, Julie Holly shares a deeply personal reflection on the tangled guilt behind boundary-setting — and why sustainable boundaries require an identity shift, not a time hack.

You’ll explore:

• The real reason saying no triggers guilt, obligation, and confusion
• Why high performers override their own needs, even with the best boundary scripts
• A powerful reframe that moves you from resentment to rhythm
• How your yes might be protecting a role that’s quietly eroding your alignment

You’ll also hear a faith-rooted story about The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst — and how one friend’s timely suggestion led Julie to rewire her understanding of identity, boundaries, and divine alignment.

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Today’s Micro Recalibration:

Ask yourself:

“Where in my life have I been saying yes out of fear or obligation, not alignment?”
 Then ask:
 “What would a boundary rooted in self-trust look like in that space?”

For leaders:

“Where have we been absorbing friction instead of setting clear expectations?”

You weren’t meant to burn out to be trusted.
Sustainable boundaries don’t come from behavior tweaks — they come from identity recalibration.

RESOURCES:

BOOK: The Best Yes, by Lysa TerKeurst

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