November 27, 2023

97. AMA: What Do I Do When Someone Is Telling Lies About Me at School?

17 minutes

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First of all, it hurts my heart to know that someone has been spreading lies about you.

I have been the subject of many lies myself, especially when I was in middle school and high school. One of those lies was so bad that if others had believed it, it could have gotten me in some really big trouble.

But even with those lies that were spread about me, it seems like rumors and lies have become common today, especially among teens.

You may have heard of this, I’m on TikTok, but I read an article about this a couple days ago and I wish I could say it surprised me, but it really doesn’t. But there is a new trend on TikTok where TikTokers are “exposing gossipers” by when they overheard others gossiping about someone, they air everything on video, sometimes getting down to the very detail of what these gossipers look like so people know who they are and who it is they are talking about.” So, essentially, they are gossiping about gossipers, making fun of the gossipers, but also hurting a whole lot of people in the process.

It's crazy, but it’s become such common place that we don’t even think about it when people talk to us about others…or we talk to others about someone else. A quick tip about your friends, if they are talking to you behind someone’s back, they are most likely talking about you behind your back.

Okay, so back to the question, “What do I do when someone is spreading lies about me at school?”

When someone tells a lie about us, we instantly want to defend ourselves by telling everyone that it’s not true or even by going to the person spreading the lies and confront them. However, the problem is, when we do this, one, it makes us look guilty and two it causes more challenges. It basically adds fuel to the fire. They want a reaction out of you, and you just gave it to them.

People want to make others feel bad to make themselves feel better, the problem with that is that they actually feel better. You might be thinking, “Yeah, but they are the most popular people in school.” It doesn’t matter. Actually, many times, the most popular people in school are some of the most insecure people. They gain their identity and social status from the people around them, and if they mess up, they lose it all. When they are at home by themselves at the end of the day, they usually hate who they are.

To learn what to do when people spread lies about you, check out this week's episode of the UncommonTEEN Podcast!

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