A Fine Time for Healing

Many recovering victims of narcissistic abuse struggle with the dilemma of whether or not to hold the narcissist accountable for his behavior. We also struggle with whether or not to forgive our abuser. We learn in our recovery that narcissism is a personality disorder, and wonder “Isn’t having a personality disorder the same thing as having a mental illness? And if so, how can we hold a mentally ill person responsible for their actions?”

For today's show I’ll be talking about the true accountability of those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a topic that survivors of NPD find very confusing. One of the things that make it so confusing is that we were programmed to feel sorry for and make excuses for our abuser. We were also conditioned to blame ourselves for the abuse directed at us. We were brainwashed to feel guilty and punish ourselves instead of holding the Narcissist accountable for their actions.

After listening to today's show you will have a clearer picture of the narcissist's accountability and a better idea of how to move forward in your recovery.

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

Have you ever wondered if something was wrong with you because you prefer being alone to being with other people? Do you prefer the company of one person or a few close friends to the company of many? Do social situations overwhelm you and tire you out? Are you a deep thinker who is most comfortable and feel the most emotionally balanced in quiet places? Are you an individualist who finds it hard to fit in with the crowd? Do people call you shy or tell you to just get out of your shell? You may very well be an introvert, and contrary to popular belief that is a very good thing.

There is nothing wrong with you; in fact there is a great deal that is right with you. What makes you different is what also makes you especially gifted. Learn what makes you tick and what makes you extraordinarily special.

By the end of this show you will understand yourself in a way that will make you feel proud to be you--proud to be an Introvert!

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

Have you ever wondered if something was wrong with you because you prefer being alone to being with other people? Do you prefer the company of one person or a few close friends to the company of many? Do social situations overwhelm you and tire you out? Are you a deep thinker who is most comfortable and feel the most emotionally balanced in quiet places? Are you an individualist who finds it hard to fit in with the crowd? Do people call you shy or tell you to just get out of your shell? You may very well be an introvert, and contrary to popular belief that is a very good thing.

There is nothing wrong with you; in fact there is a great deal that is right with you. What makes you different is what also makes you especially gifted. Learn what makes you tick and what makes you extraordinarily special.

By the end of this show you will understand yourself in a way that will make you feel proud to be you--proud to be an Introvert!

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

Today's show features fascinating special guest, Jill Mattson; author, artist, musician and widely recognized expert and composer in the emerging field of sound healing.

Jill has written four books and produced six CD's that combine intricate sound healing techniques with her original award winning musical compositions. The CD's consist of intriguing, magical tracks using ancient and modern techniques, musical compositions using ancient healing frequencies to achieve profound benefits. 

Jill unveils secrets from ancient cultures as well as the latest findings of the modern scientific community showing the incredible potential and healing capabilities of sound. She draws on her extensive research of modern research and sound healing, and over 20 year study of ancient civilizations and secret societies in her music, lectures, workshops and writings.

To learn more about Jill Mattson and receive free sound healing Mp3's please visit http://www.jillswingsoflight.com

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

Today's show features fascinating special guest, Jill Mattson; author, artist, musician and widely recognized expert and composer in the emerging field of sound healing.

Jill has written four books and produced six CD's that combine intricate sound healing techniques with her original award winning musical compositions. The CD's consist of intriguing, magical tracks using ancient and modern techniques, musical compositions using ancient healing frequencies to achieve profound benefits. 

Jill unveils secrets from ancient cultures as well as the latest findings of the modern scientific community showing the incredible potential and healing capabilities of sound. She draws on her extensive research of modern research and sound healing, and over 20 year study of ancient civilizations and secret societies in her music, lectures, workshops and writings.

To learn more about Jill Mattson and receive free sound healing Mp3's please visit http://www.jillswingsoflight.com

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

A significant amount of the mistakes we make as individuals will impact others. The degree of the impact will vary. Those of us who are conscientious and compassionate will be sensitive to the feelings of others and remorseful for our words or actions. Saying we are sorry and making due amends are the appropriate actions to take. Once said and done it is time to move forward. That is a healthy response to feeling guilty.

On the other hand, guilt becomes unhealthy when those who have done nothing wrong distort a situation in their minds and irrationally believe that they have, or when one assumes more responsibility than is warranted. 

The goal of today's show is to help you understand what kinds of guilt are healthy and what kinds are not, and then help you find ways to release yourself from the burdens of feeling guilty over things you have no control of.

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

A significant amount of the mistakes we make as individuals will impact others. The degree of the impact will vary. Those of us who are conscientious and compassionate will be sensitive to the feelings of others and remorseful for our words or actions. Saying we are sorry and making due amends are the appropriate actions to take. Once said and done it is time to move forward. That is a healthy response to feeling guilty.

On the other hand, guilt becomes unhealthy when those who have done nothing wrong distort a situation in their minds and irrationally believe that they have, or when one assumes more responsibility than is warranted. 

The goal of today's show is to help you understand what kinds of guilt are healthy and what kinds are not, and then help you find ways to release yourself from the burdens of feeling guilty over things you have no control of.

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

Those who have suffered difficult childhoods, lacking in the consistency and safety of love, support, and guidance, generally have lingering issues that have held them back in life. Those who have done healing work are clearly functioning better than those who haven’t, but there is always something lurking below the surface. That "thing" is the wounded inner child.

The inner child is a powerful entity, separate from our waking conscious minds, that carries the wounds of past traumas and impacts much of what we say and do as adults. It is a protective device, similar to a defense mechanism, triggered by reminders of these wounded aspects of our selves. We will never be free of our pasts until we face and heal this child withinn.

The goal of today's show is to help you identify and get to know your inner child, explain why reparenting is so critical, and suggest ways for you heal the wounded child that has hidden inside of you for so long.

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

Those who have suffered difficult childhoods, lacking in the consistency and safety of love, support, and guidance, generally have lingering issues that have held them back in life. Those who have done healing work are clearly functioning better than those who haven’t, but there is always something lurking below the surface. That "thing" is the wounded inner child.

The inner child is a powerful entity, separate from our waking conscious minds, that carries the wounds of past traumas and impacts much of what we say and do as adults. It is a protective device, similar to a defense mechanism, triggered by reminders of these wounded aspects of our selves. We will never be free of our pasts until we face and heal this child withinn.

The goal of today's show is to help you identify and get to know your inner child, explain why reparenting is so critical, and suggest ways for you heal the wounded child that has hidden inside of you for so long.

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.

In life we have the opportunity to express our love in a variety of ways. Love is the act of giving of ourselves, lifting others up, and always wanting the best for those we care about. But love is not always beautiful and it is not always easy; it sometimes requires pushing our own needs to the side in order to do what is best for someone else. There are times that having someone’s best interest at heart requires the use of tough love. 

When used properly tough love is rooted in deep devotion and unconditional love, though it usually does not feel like a loving act to the person on the receiving end of it. That is why using tough love is so hard to do; we never want to hurt the ones we care about and love. But tough love is not used to hurt someone; it is used to help someone who is making destructive choices in their life.

The goal of today’s show is to offer a clearer understanding of tough love; what it is, what it is not, when to use it, and how to use it. If you are dealing with someone who concerns you, someone who does not respond to gestures of traditional love, today’s show will help you understand what you need to do. If you are not currently dealing with someone who is in need of tough love, it is important to listen as well. There are times in life when each of us will have to employ its use.

Read Randi’s RIVETING life story! FINE…LY: My Story of Hope, Love, and Destiny, a deeply penetrating story about HOPE against all odds that builds brick by brick from the bottom up, and then screams VICTORY from the roof-top.