In previous episodes, we explored how LGBTQ+ media representation has evolved significantly since the early days of cinema, shifting from largely negative stereotypes and hidden identities to more nuanced and diverse portrayals of queer experiences. Despite this progress, there still seems to be a lack of LGBTQ+ voices and perspectives behind the cameras, ensuring that characters are authentically represented.

In this episode, AJ Mattioli, a trans producer, director, and owner of Mattioli Productions, joins us to explore the critical need for authentic representation both on-screen and behind the scenes, the distinctive challenges encountered by trans-owned film production companies, and how we, as members of the LGBTQ+ community, can actively support and uplift queer filmmakers.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 07. The History of Gay Representation in TV & Film
• Listen to Episode 55. Gay for Pay: Should Straight Actors Play Queer Characters?
• Listen to Episode 97. Diversifying Queer Horror Cinema (with Jose Nateras)
• Listen to Episode 98. Dear Netflix: Stop Cancelling Our Queer Shows

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• Learn More About Mattioli Productions
• Follow Mattioli Productions on Instagram
• Follow Mattioli Productions on YouTube
• Check Out Mattioli Productions’ Latest Trailers
• Browse Mattioli Productions’ Films

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LGBTQ+ individuals often navigate the diverse landscape of the queer community to forge connections that resonate with their identities, seeking spaces where they feel seen, understood, and supported. The bear community, with its celebration of body positivity and inclusivity, provides a unique subculture within the larger LGBTQ+ spectrum, fostering a strong sense of belonging and community engagement.

In this episode, Mark Singer, founder of Chumley’s BearCruises, joins us to discuss his experiences within the bear community, detailing how it inspired him to create Chumley's BearCruises and how these cruises foster a strong sense of belonging and connection among bears.

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• Connect with Chumley’s BearCruises on Facebook

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In a time when relationships are no longer confined to traditional labels, ethical non-monogamy allows gay individuals to build connections that align with their unique desires and values. By fostering open communication, trust, and mutual consent, non-monogamous relationships can provide fulfilling connections that honor the evolving dynamics of love and partnership.

In this episode, Jeff Hudson joins us to share his personal journey with ethical non-monogamy, discussing the challenges and misconceptions surrounding non-traditional relationships and how his experience reshaped his views on love and commitment.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 54. Love in the Third Degree (with Eric Praniewicz)

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• Read Exploring Polyamory Among Gay Men: Redefining Love, Connection, and Authenticity
• Follow Jeff on Instagram
• Read Deconstructing Us: My Trouble with a Throuple
• Ethical Non-Monogamy: Basics & Rules for ENM Relationships

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In previous episodes, we've explored the key themes of gay villages and how destinations like Fire Island and Provincetown serve as sanctuaries for the queer community. Gay men, in particular, are often passionate about travel because it provides a sense of freedom, adventure, and the chance to engage with diverse cultures, communities, and experiences that affirm their identities.

In this episode, Jason Heidemann, a Los Angeles-based LGBTQ+ travel writer, to discuss the significance of gaycations, share safety tips for LGBTQ+ travelers, and explore how to travel the world on a budget.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?
• Listen to Episode 65. Fire Island
• Listen to 114. Provincetown

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• Check Out Jason's Work
• Tune in to Best Gaycation Ever! Podcast
• Follow Jason on Instagram
• Follow Jason on Bluesky
• Read The Great Gay American Road Trip
• Read 8 Must-Do Experiences in Nevada
• Read The 8 Best LGBTQ+ & Gay Cruises for 2025

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Throughout many episodes, we’ve discussed how gay men continue to grapple with the shame they internalized as children growing up in a predominantly straight society that often invalidated or condemned their identities. This lingering shame can evolve into deep-rooted trauma, affecting their self-worth, relationships, and overall mental well-being.

In this episode, we're exploring the theme of gay identity development from Dr. Alan Downs’ groundbreaking book, The Velvet Rage, and unpacking his three-stage framework for emotional well-being to live more fulfilling lives as proud gay men.

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• Listen to Episode 01. Hello, Trauma. It's Me, Rob.
• Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
• Listen to Episode 15. Understanding Attachment Styles
• Listen to Episode 42. Are You Emotionally Unavailable?
• Listen to Episode 47. Say Goodbye to Abandonment Issues
• Listen to Episode 86. Turn Off Your Code-Switching

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• Read The Velvet Rage
• Authenticity Unmasked: Navigating Mental Health for Gay Men
• Understanding and Addressing Emotional Unavailability in Gay Men: Causes, Signs, and Solutions
• Perfectly Imperfect: Understanding Perfectionism and Its Impact on Gay Men
• Navigating Love with Attachment Styles: Building Healthier Relationships for Gay Men
• Understanding Abandonment Issues in Gay Men: Navigating Fear of Rejection and Building Healthy Relationships

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In past episodes, we've explored pivotal moments in LGBTQ+ history that have often been overlooked or erased, highlighting why remembering our past is so vital. With the current administration actively trying to erase our history, preserving and sharing these stories—from hidden queer figures to the fight for educational accessibility—is more urgent than ever.

In this episode, Michael Venturiello, an LGBTQ+ historian and founder of Christopher Street Tours, joins us to talk about the importance of preserving LGBTQ+ history, the misconceptions that still exist, and how we can ensure these stories are passed down to future generations.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 17. Mobsters & Mos: How the Mafia Owned Gay Nightlife
• Listen to Episode 63. The Stonewall Riots

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• The Mafia’s Control of New York's Gay Bars: A Hidden Chapter in LGBTQ+ History
• Learn More About Christopher Street Tours
• Read Christopher Street Tours’ LGBTQ+ Community Guide
• Follow Christopher Street Tours on Instagram
• Connect with Christopher Street Tours on Facebook
• Follow Christopher Street Tours on TikTok
• Follow Michael Venturiello on Instagram
• Connect with Michael Venturiello on LinkedIn

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The current landscape of LGBTQ+ bullying remains pervasive, especially in schools and online, where discrimination and harassment can have devastating impacts on mental health and well-being. Not only does this isolate individuals, but it also perpetuates a culture of fear and exclusion, making it harder for the community to achieve acceptance and equality.

In this episode, Mike Keller, an author and speaker focused on raising bullying awareness, joins us to discuss how we can work together to eradicate bullying against LGBTQ+ individuals, raise awareness, and advocate for inclusive, supportive environments.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 69. That's So Gay (You Really Shouldn't Say That)
• Listen to Episode 118. Heterosexism: Take Off the Straight Jacket

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• Learn More About Mike Keller
• Follow Mike on Instagram
• Read Mike’s Books

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For gay men raised in religious environments, they often internalize harmful messages that condemn their sexual orientation, fostering a deep sense of unworthiness or fear. This religious trauma can manifest in lasting struggles with shame and self-acceptance, but through self-compassion, supportive communities, and healing practices, they can reclaim their sense of authenticity and pride in their identity.

In this episode, Ann Russo, a religious trauma and queer empowerment specialist and founder of AMR Therapy, joins us to discuss how religious trauma impacts LGBTQ+ individuals and share strategies for reclaiming their sexuality and improving their mental health.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 62. Let Go of Your Religious Trauma (with Eric Feltes)
• Listen to Episode 76. Finally Free (with Seth Showalter)

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• Learn More About AMR Therapy & Support Services
• Follow AMR Therapy & Support Services on Instagram
• Follow AMR Therapy & Support Services on Facebook
• Connect with Ann on LinkedIn

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Het lag is a humorous term for the exhaustion and disorientation queer people experience after prolonged exposure to exclusively straight environments. While the term is lighthearted, it speaks to the very real psychological toll of minority stress—the mental and emotional burden of navigating predominantly heterosexual spaces, code-switching, and enduring heterosexism.

In this episode, we’re diving into the concept of minority stress, exploring its impact on our well-being, and discussing how building community can help alleviate its physical and emotional effects.

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• Listen to Episode 08. Finding Your Community
• Listen to Episode 11. Overcoming Internalized Homophobia
• Listen to Episode 26. Gay & Anxious
• Listen to Episode 53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Gays
• Listen to Episode 86. Turn Off Your Code-Switching
• Listen to Episode 118. Heterosexism: Take Off the Straight Jacket
• Listen to Episode 135. Don't Be A Mean Gay

Additional Resources:

• Finding Your Community: Navigating LGBTQ+ Friendships Beyond the Party Scene
• Unpacking Internalized Homophobia: A Deeper Look at Self-Directed Negativity
• Anxiety in Gay Men: Understanding Unique Challenges and Effective Coping Strategies
• Het-Lag (Reddit)
• Het Lag (Twitter)
• Minority Stress
• Trauma, Minority Stress, and Disproportionate Health Burden Among LGBTQ+ People
• Minority Stress Theory: Application, Critique, and Continued Relevance
• Minority Stress and LGBTQ+ Patients’ Mental Health
• LGBTQ+ Mental Health and the Role of Minority Stress
• Social Isolation and Connectedness as Determinants of Well-Being: Global Evidence Mapping Focused on LGBTQ Youth
• The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness

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While many people equate Pride to June, Pride events happen across the world throughout the year, amplifying the voices of the LGBTQ+ community. Given the recent political climate and ongoing challenges to LGBTQ+ rights, it's more important than ever to celebrate, participate, and advocate for equality and inclusion 365 days a year.

In this episode, Patrick Gevas from Miami Beach Pride joins us to dives into the significance of Pride events and shares insights on how to celebrate and amplify queer joy year-round..

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 105. The Pride Divide (with Tyrell Brown)
• Listen to Episode 106. Long Live Queer Nightlife (with Amin Ghaziani)
• Listen to Episode 108. Celebrate Queer Joy

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• Learn More About Miami Beach Pride
• Follow Miami Beach Pride on Instagram
• Follow Patrick Gevas on Instagram

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