A Life, Folded

When you experience intimate betrayal, it is common to also have a resultant faith crisis. Why did God let this happen? Why didn't He intervene so that you wouldn't have to experience such profound hurt? Does He not love you anymore? Why have you been abandoned by those you love and trusted most? This is a dark and lonely space, and it is a completely normal reaction after experiencing betrayal trauma. In this episode, Lainey discusses ways of reconnecting with God and His divine love.

The podcast mentioned on this episode is FATE RESILIENCE: Taking Control of the Outcome

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D-Day is short for Discovery Day. It's the horrible moment you will most likely remember in minute detail for the rest of your life. The day you found out the person you loved and trusted the most has been unfaithful. It is shocking and unimaginably traumatic.

And, once you make this shattering discovery, who do you turn to? The partner you trusted the most, the person you shared everything with, has shattered your heart. The person you considered your best friend can no longer be wholly trusted. And, you might feel intense shame for who they are and what they have done. This can lead to isolation when you need human connection the most. 

Lainey describes her D-Days and how her narcissistic ex-husband acted like she was at fault for what she found. The episode outlines strategies to heal, protect, and care for yourself during this painful time.

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Pornography is a commonly accepted part of our modern-day world. “Everyone does it.” “It doesn’t hurt anyone.”

Nonsense.

Pornography kills love, ruins lives, creates deep psychological wounds, is addictive and escalating, reduces humans to pixels on a screen, and is fueled by one of the most heinous crimes of our time: human trafficking.

Lainey discusses how her husband's addiction ruined their marriage, decimated her self-image, destroyed his relationship with his daughters, damaged his connection with God, and nearly cost him his career. By shedding harsh light on the reality of the evils of porn, we can make a choice and say, "No more!

#alifefolded #pornkillslove #pornographyaddiction #betrayaltrauma #pornkills #pornaddiction #pornography #pornaddiction #stopporn

Narcissists can exist in any or all of the aspect of our lives. They may be a member of our family, our spouse, our boss, or even our ecclesiastical leader. One thing they all have in common is the need for the oneupmanship of the narcissistic discard when their target stops giving them narcissistic supply.

Narcissists are deeply insecure individuals with no capacity for empathy or remorse. They keep people around as long as they are offering them “supply”. In other words, not questioning their gaslighting, projection, and double standards. When their targets no longer offer what they need, the narcissist performs a discard. This cruel tossing aside of the innocent human beings who love them is one of the narcissist's most devastating tactics. In this episode, Lainey gives examples of her husband's behavior during her discard phase.  He thought nothing of coldly destroying the heart of a woman who had stood by him loyally for 29 years.

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As a survivor of a spouse's pornography addiction, betrayal trauma, as well as covert narcissistic abuse, this episode introduces the "why" of A Life, Folded podcast. 

I was married for 29 years to a man who lived a double life. Seemingly loyal husband, father, employee, and disciple of Christ by day; porn addict, betrayer, and liar by night. Well, really any time. The discovery of his double life and resultant narcissistic discard destroyed my heart and soul. It ripped apart our family and deeply traumatized our children. Seven years post divorce, and with much healing behind me, I feel compelled to be a supporting voice to loving individuals who have been cruelly betrayed. 

The resource mentioned in this episode is: Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and other Toxic People, by Jackson MacKenzie, Berkley, 2013.

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